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Escapism: I'm Leaving
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I've finally crossed over to that place... I knew it would happen some day. I'm packing up some clothes and necessities and leaving for California...or maybe Arizona...or maybe both. I'm bringing along a suit, my laptop and printer for resumes, and will try to find work upon arrival.
I have a few places I can stay while I job hunt.
The drive will take a few days. What can I expect as far as expenses are concerned? I'll be driving as much as I can, but if necessary I will take short naps in my car.
Are there any places where I would be able to shower, like, maybe a truck stop or something?
Have any of you ever done something like this?
I have a few places I can stay while I job hunt.
The drive will take a few days. What can I expect as far as expenses are concerned? I'll be driving as much as I can, but if necessary I will take short naps in my car.
Are there any places where I would be able to shower, like, maybe a truck stop or something?
Have any of you ever done something like this?
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If it is then my best advice is don't go anywhere at least for a few days. Maybe go and see some friends, go for a walk in the park or whatever. Sounds like you're a bit stressed out at the moment; take some time to relax and see if you still want to leave town
Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better
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Can't. Need to leave. Need to go. Can't be here any longer.
Relax.
1. What kinds of jobs do you want/ are qualified for?
2. What area(s) have the highest concentration of these jobs?
3. Do you have a fallback plan for menial job doing?
4. What companies can assist with the above?
5. How much money do you have / what is your weekly budget and how long does that last you?
6. Do you have the money to rent? Sleeping in a car is a good way to get stinky, which will screw over your job chances
7. WHY DO YOU WANT TO LEAVE?
Also doesn't seem like you've really thought this through; might wanna sleep on it for a few days and re-evaluate if it's actually worth moving to another state.
If it's not too personal, consider explaining the situation here so we can provide some perspective. Kind of seems like you're overreacting.
When people do things like this, usually the problems only get worse. Face your issues. Get some help if you need it.
Be a man.
How long can you stay in those places? If you're moving to California, do you have a place to stay for at least six months? Because it's probably going to take you at least that long to find a job. Do you have any savings? Any sort of a fall back? Any money to pay for your car breaking down along the way? Have you even looked into whether or not they have the kinds of jobs you're looking for? What part of California and/or Arizona were you looking at moving to?
As someone who drove to Seattle in his Honda with pretty much every earthly possession, I'm not above pulling something like this, but I took six weeks to plan shit out. Just getting in your car and driving is a great way to end up stranded and homeless in some shithole in flyover country, desperately calling everyone you know begging for some money. You need to put some serious thought into this, and you need to do it dispassionately; even with my relatively accelerated timetable for the move, I still took three days between figuring "this sounds like a great idea" and saying "I'm going to do this." Making a huge, life-changing decision like this in the heat of passion is a terrible, terrible idea.
I would agree with the above poster that I'd want a solid six months minimum of living expenses though. Shit's tough.
As far as places to stay and shower and what not, this sort of thing depends on your money. Do you have the money to stay in hostels (35 bucks a night ish), or are you planning to be a homeless guy who lives in your car?
As far as your "take naps in the car" DO NOT FUCKING DRIVE WHILE TIRED. DON"T FUCKING DO IT! It's just as bad as driving drunk and just as irresponsible. You'll get someone killed.
You can sleep at rest stops and wash up in the bathroom, but you're not getting a shower unless you pay for a hotel room somewhere. Also, if you stay at a rest stop too long you might get booted out.
I can't imagine it's that hard to figure out your expenses for a two day trip. That's... not a lot of math...
family and family that's willing to let you crash for six months are two different things.
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Has that changed all of a sudden or do you intend to just leave it all without notice?
Even if you did something horribly embarassing that makes you want to run away, and it feels a bit like it from what you posted, you should plan this out a bit more and not just move to California and expect everything to be all nice and different.
Make a plan, calculate how much money you will need, don't expect your relatives to provide for you for as long as you need them to(unless maybe we are talking really close family and they told you to come and stay).
Or just wait till this blows over, we don't really know what happened from the info you provided, so it's a bit hard to judge how urgent it really is for you to leave.
Maybe you are making a huge deal out of something really not that bad.
Slider, whatever your problems are, they're not that bad, and won't be fixed by running headlong into more problems.
[edit: I suppose, if your house burned down and you lost your job, your problems would be "that bad". But I suspect if your house burned down and you lost your job you'd be telling us as much. As it stands, all we have to go on is a thread in which you have a bad idea, and then ask for it to be locked once you've "regained control of your senses". You'll forgive us for assuming this isn't the dire situation you make it out to be.
Yeah I read that thread and it sounds as if at the worst he gave some roses to the wrong girl.
Not exactly reason to move away forever and quit your job.
But- California or Arizona? You're talking about 2 of the worst job markets in the country right now. Unless you're living in Michigan, you are putting yourself in a situation where it will be harder for you to get a job than wherever you might be living now.
Stop. Re-evaluate. Moving across country without a job or any real plan is a horrible idea.
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Now i'm not saying moving is a bad idea , per se. Just...fix your problems before you go.
Although the proximity to this thread with his thread from yesterday fills me with absolute dread.
Unless it's the sort of thing you should really be getting a lawyer involved with, in which case don't post it, just talk to a lawyer.
I'm getting older and haven't taken any risks. I've always tried to do the right thing and be responsible.
I just don't care anymore...
Look for a new job whist you stay at the one you have.
And for the love of God limit your contact with your ex to as little as possible. You're just running away, not trying to improve yourself.
Gas, food, possibly maintenance on the car. Sign up for AAA first, save you a headache when your car breaks down in Truth Or Consequences, New Mexico.
Most big Pilot stations have showers you can use for a couple bucks, whoever said you're going to need a hotel to shower hasn't ever left his basement I'm sure. You can get most necessities (cheap lodging, food, etc) at these truck stops (including a blow job from a lot-lizard if thats your thing! You can give her a rose afterwards!)
No, but don't listen to anyone saying you shouldn't. If you got nothing tying you down I say fuck it and go do it. You only live once. Don't be that guy that sticks around making excuses. Just go and never look back, you can make a livable wage almost anywhere so go wherever you want.
This is really pretty terrible advice to give someone as mentally unstable and so forth as the OP. I will treat future posts to this effect in this thread accordingly.
And that's kind of important.
If you really want to do something like this, then prepare for it. Learn how to survive in the situation you'd be putting yourself in. Find the places you can go and all that sort of stuff. Figure out how you're going to be able to make any money at all.
And look at it this way--all the time you spend preparing? That can be a pretty big distraction from all the crap that's bugging you. And it gives you a goal, which can also help.
And then, once you're actually prepared, and have had a good amount of time not thinking about the stuff that's bothering you..maybe you won't need to go, and maybe you'll find you developed some skills that can help you survive where you are.
That, or go bungee jumping or sky diving. That has a way of putting the rest of your life in perspective for some people. :P
I'm worried you'll have the same problems and then some if you do this.
I am a big big fan of throwing caution to the wind and getting the fuck up out of a place that you hate, but why are you in a hurry? Why can't you start saving some money? Why can't you look for a job right now?
This is the worst idea, and somewhere inside you know it. Whether you post these for the attention or not, I don't know, but I really wish you'd go see a professional for your own benefit. The internet can't fix the stuff you've got going on.
edit: I am planning a move in about 8-9 months. I am saving over $10-15k, having my car all paid off, will have visited the city and scoped it out, have a good friend there who can help me apartment hunt and will start applying for professional jobs in 5 or so months.
So what you'd need are:
Savings
An idea of the area
Little to no debts and/or an ok credit rating (apartment buildings can run credit checks, you prob don't have any credit because of your student loans you aren't paying)
Time to apply for jobs
You have... some family. That's just being mean to them to expect their undying help for your poor life choices.
I'll stop by my work and make up some sort of family emergency excuse. I'll end up missing at least five days of work.
If I'm not able to transfer to the other store in Arizona, or if I'm not making any headway with the military in Arizona or California, then I'll come back in two weeks with my tail between my legs.
Also, at 22 I did move to Chicago on a whim. Lived in Little Puerto Rico, worked the overnight stocking books at Borders. I knew exactly how much I made per second and how many seconds of work it took to pay for my hour plus commute. The night a hobo stole my french fries (only McDonalds is open for a 3am "lunch") I knew I had to come back, finish school and deal with the emotional problems I had from someone randomly deciding my face was the right place to swing a roll of dimes.
So, yeah, deal with your problems rather than run. You'll be a lot better for it.
Wait so any advice that you deem as "incorrect" gets edited out? I don't know the OP from Adam, he posts a "Hey guys I'm planning on doing this, whats your take?" and anything but "stick around and sort things out!" is the wrong advice?
I stick by what I said, he lives in America and he can (and should) do what he feels like and go where he feels like as long as he's not hurting anyone else (and from his original post it doesn't sound like he is).