Penny Arcade Forums› Help / Advice Forum
The new forums will be named Coin Return (based on the most recent vote)! You can check on the status and timeline of the transition to the new forums here.
The Guiding Principles and New Rules document is now in effect.

The Rebound Guy (Relationships)

LucascraftLucascraft Registered User regular
edited March 2011 in Help / Advice Forum
Edit: Thanks for the replies. I am requesting a lock on this thread.

This topic is too hard to discuss without getting into a lot more detail than I'm willing to post.

Lucascraft on

Posts

  • Bliss 101Bliss 101 Registered User regular
    edited March 2011
    "Rebound guy" is defined by the intent and mental state of the person in question, not by how long it's been since her last relationship.

    But... 2 days? I'm not sure if even two months of dating would constitute a relationship. Stop worrying, stop speculating about her reasons, and never mind about being her "second choice"; just talk to her and see what happens.

    Bliss 101 on
    MSL59.jpg
  • EshEsh Tending bar. FFXIV. Motorcycles. Portland, ORRegistered User regular
    edited March 2011
    You're way over thinking this. It's situational from girl to girl.

    Also, assuming a girl might be "crazy" because she does something isn't a very good attitude to take. That's a really standard line that guys use when they just don't get why a girl does something.

    Also, 2 days doesn't constitute a "relationship".

    Esh on
  • admanbadmanb unionize your workplace Seattle, WARegistered User regular
    edited March 2011
    Bliss 101 wrote: »
    "Rebound guy" is defined by the intent and mental state of the person in question, not by how long it's been since her last relationship.

    But... 2 days? I'm not sure if even two months of dating would constitute a relationship. Stop worrying, stop speculating about her reasons, and never mind about being her "second choice"; just talk to her and see what happens.

    I think two months would.

    Two weeks wouldn't.

    Two days is Middle School.

    admanb on
    twitter, github
  • schussschuss Registered User regular
    edited March 2011
    Who fucking cares. Many "Rebound Guys" end up as "Husbands" and happily married. Relationships are relationships. There's no magical time/opportunity/place to start one. You build it yourself with your significant other, and if you work well together, it's stable and enjoyable. If not, your roof leaks and you don't continue it.

    schuss on
  • VisionOfClarityVisionOfClarity Registered User regular
    edited March 2011
    Dude, chill out, because here's a very likely Option D: She wasn't into you, went out with this guy on a date and realized she wasn't into him either (there doesn't have to be anything big, maybe he chews with his mouth open or has weird hands or his ring tone is Hannah Montana) and now she's just going to chill out and maybe see some one(s) casually because you can date without being OMG BOYFRIEND & GIRLFRIEND 4EVAH. Also, you are way too into this. Emotionally draining and crushing to find out they're dating? That's a bit much man.

    VisionOfClarity on
  • LucascraftLucascraft Registered User regular
    edited March 2011
    Like I said, I didn't post the whole story. And yes, it was emotionally draining.

    Lucascraft on
  • MurphyMurphy Registered User regular
    edited March 2011
    Dude, they dated for two days. More realistically, they went on like, a date. I mean, how old are the people we're referring to? Because two days is not a relationship. At any age.

    If it was "emotionally draining" then maybe the participants aren't ready for a relationship. Because seriously.

    Murphy on
  • LucascraftLucascraft Registered User regular
    edited March 2011
    The people in question, all of us, are in our mid-20s. And I wasn't referring to them dating for 2 days as emotionally draining. I was talking about this entire situation, which has been going on for 3 or 4 months.

    Lucascraft on
  • UsagiUsagi Nah Registered User regular
    edited March 2011
    If it's that emotionally draining you need to decide if it's worth it to even be in the situation, because seriously it's probably not worth your time to worry about what she was thinking or why she did what she did.

    Move on. Date other ladies.

    Usagi on
  • SentrySentry Registered User regular
    edited March 2011
    I don't understand. Were you the first guy and you guys broke up? If so, why does any of it even matter to you? If you want to start labeling people as crazy, you may consider starting a bit closer to home (if that is the case).

    Sentry on
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
    wrote:
    When I was a little kid, I always pretended I was the hero,' Skip said.
    'Fuck yeah, me too. What little kid ever pretended to be part of the lynch-mob?'
  • LucascraftLucascraft Registered User regular
    edited March 2011
    I'm gonna just edit the main post out and request a lock. Without going into too much detail, this is gonna be too hard to talk about. You guys have given me some stuff to think about, though, so thank you.

    But please feel free to lock this thread.

    Lucascraft on
This discussion has been closed.
Penny Arcade Forums› Help / Advice Forum