Advice on a family matter

republic of me

I need to stop my sister hanging out with a girl, I am sick to my back teeth of warning her to stay away from her from the very first day she told me about this new girl in her class called "Marissa Sweeny" (false name i made up for her so this cant be traced) because I had heard of her family and they are bad news, they are a group of gangsters that moved out from the city, the baddest most dangerous bunch of bastards on this island. Her mother is an ex prostitute, her father runs with the gangs in London and I cant be 100% sure that she isnt a prostitute also. When i voiced my disagreement with her company she gave me the height of abuse.

Last Thursday night she stayed over with my sister at my house much to my protest, but i wasnt at home most of the evening i was at my boyfriends house and when i came home i had a bit of business to attend to i had a number of female clients over. I was busy and next thing I hear voices out in my back garden and went out, her and my sister were outside with the boys who live next door (who arent good company either they have a bigger house than mine and this is the good side of town and are all driving brand new cars and wearing top designer clothes and not one of them are working they are all drawing social welfare so i have to cast aspersions on where the money is coming out of)

I ate her alive, told her she is not allowed out after dark and she is not allowed to talk to that particular set of neighbors, her friend climbed trough the window and went out again when i went to sleep. The next morning i woke up to being asked to take her into the city to get the non prescription morning after pill (she is only about 14 or 15 tops) because if she goes to the doctor he will ring her grandmother

She had sex with the boys next door and wanted me to bail her out. In addition to this she was wearing a pair of earrings belonging to me that my brother bought for me when i got up and my new lipstick i only bought the day before which is massively unhygienic .

So out of pity i got her the pill, and a box of condoms to avoid a repetition of events and told my mother what happened and to take my sister home.

I live about 30 m from my sisters school and she arrives over today with this same girl plus another looking for "Melissa's" school tie and "Melissa" asked me for a few "fags" (Irish slang for cigarettes not gay people)

Tonight my sister and her friend we will call "Breeda" walked out to meet her friend we shall call her "Julie" who was walking in from her house which is in a new plush housing estate a good distance outside the town. On the way into town they had to pass the park which is where the not so good neighbors and several of their even worse associates jumped out of various new cars, vans and SUV's and tried to catch them to do god knows what. They chased them all the way as far as my door they were so brazen.

So, besides bringing the shotgun to my new house, which is licensed to and kept at my old address, and walking around after my sister disguised as a bush, what the hell can I do?

Advice badly needed

SkyGheNe

How old is she? This'll affect the type of advice given.

republic of me

My sister is 15 she will be 16 in July

Esh

Well, from reading all your past threads, I think maybe you should try leading by example. Which if you're still doing the same things, isn't a very good example to be leading by.

You can't do anything else except let your mother know what's going on. She's the one with the authority, not you. You're not in charge of her and it's not your job to police her nor is she going to take very kindly to it. You can suggest things in a manner, but I highly doubt that telling her what to do is going to get you very far. Have a nice CALM sisterly talk and leave it at that as far as your responsibility. You probably shouldn't let her or her friend stay over any more either.

republic of me

Well in fairness my past issues are with bad relationship choices due to being lustful and as one friend put it "overly masculine mentally with enough balls for all of us" and if a guy was good looking i went for it, i dont tend to fall in love i fall in lust.

So unless she is turned lesbian its not the same thing. Who i hang around with in a friendship capacity generally has an ulterior motive as to advancing myself financially and in social standing i dont make friends i make contacts.

Fair enough i am into hardcore punk music, breed guard dogs as a hobby and date good looking bad boys but im typing this sitting on a leather recliner wearing a suit at the age of 19 years and 11 months old exactly. I dont get on well by befriending scum and letting them lead me up the garden path.

If she was dating a bad boy i would be to blame yes, but not in this situation.

And as far as my mother goes shes about as much use as a fire extinguisher when your drowning. A good careing mother, we never want for anything, but absolutely useless as far as having to put the foot down is concerned.

VisionOfClarity

Yeeeea. You hang around with shitty crowds, I remember the same thread Esh is talking about. You have pooor choice in friends and boyfriends, as does your little sister. Did you not mention in one of your first threads the fact that some of your friends were arrested for getting into various shit? Because I remember this. And if you're continuously dating scummy guys (which you are, I remember like 3 of these threads at least) you're meeting them somewhere. Which means you're hanging around a crappy crowd or at crappy places.

So yea, hang out with a better crowd yourself, stop going with creepy, scummy guys and lead by example. Then tell your sister that she can't come round if she plans on bringing those neighbors over or hanging out with them. And then stick to it.

Esh

republic of me wrote: »

Well in fairness my past issues are with bad relationship choices due to being lustful and as one friend put it "overly masculine mentally with enough balls for all of us" and if a guy was good looking i went for it, i dont tend to fall in love i fall in lust.

So unless she is turned lesbian its not the same thing. Who i hang around with in a friendship capacity generally has an ulterior motive as to advancing myself financially and in social standing i dont make friends i make contacts.

Fair enough i am into hardcore punk music, breed guard dogs as a hobby and date good looking bad boys but im typing this sitting on a leather recliner wearing a suit at the age of 19 years and 11 months old exactly. I dont get on well by befriending scum and letting them lead me up the garden path.

If she was dating a bad boy i would be to blame yes, but not in this situation.

And as far as my mother goes shes about as much use as a fire extinguisher when your drowning. A good careing mother, we never want for anything, but absolutely useless as far as having to put the foot down is concerned.

It doesn't have to be the same type of activity exactly. She sees you hanging out with racist idiots, so how is that supposed to tell her to not hang out with people you consider "bad"? And really, what does it that you have a leather chair or a suit? These people you don't want her around also have nice things. So what's the difference to her? Also, leather furniture and a suit doesn't mean affluence. And out of curiosity what does you listening to punk rock have to do with anything?

As well, it doesn't matter if they're contacts or friends. Your sister doesn't know the difference and you don't seem to either. You're both VERY young and could probably both do with a little stepping outside and looking in.

Like I said though, express your concerns to her, but beyond that, you've got nothing. Be there if she needs you for something and that's about all you can do.

Spawnbroker

You are not her mother.

If you think she's hanging out with the wrong people, you can tell her so, but don't be surprised if she does it anyways. The most you can do is be there for her when she makes bad decisions, and nothing you say or do will prevent her from making them.

Fantasma

Does she know about STDs ?, your sister seems to be going to become a train wreck.

ceres

Nothing you say makes any sense so I'm locking this.