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In College: First Girlfriend: Need Help w/ Sexy Texting
yumkippur
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I'm in college and now have my first long term girlfriend. I need to get into sexy texting to make us excited while we're apart. What types of things should I text her to get her moist, but still not come off like a pervert?
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If you're unsure, talk to her and see what she likes.
Honest advice? Talk to her. Lay down some boundaries (she may be fine with being called "kitten" or she may prefer "fuckmeat"; perhaps she wants to hear about how you're going to "stretch her ass like a Thanksgiving turkey" or she may want to hear that you "really miss her, and wish you were lying on a bed of rose petals").
From there it's easy: To paraphrase Dan Savage on dirty talk, you need to tell her what you're going to do ("I'm gonna fuck you"), what you're going ("I'm fucking you"), and then what you've done ("I fucked you good and hard").
From there, be as much of a pervert as you can be. It's pretty un-fun otherwise.
call her up and talk about putting your penis in her
For the record, though, I've always found sexting to be more laughable than arousing. I mean, the combination of character limits, txtspk, and autocorrect doesn't exactly lend itself to eloquence, y'know? "mmm baby i bet ur so wet rite now" doesn't turn me on, it makes me want to beat the sender with a dictionary. Maybe - probably - your girl is different, but even if she is, there are *much* better ways to conduct long-distance sexytimes. Phone sex, for instance, can be awesome. Webcams are even better. If noise or privacy is an issue, you could write each other emails describing fantasies or things you actually plan on doing to each other.
The advantage of phone and Skype and email is that there's more control over when the desired arousal takes place, too. There's just nothing less sexy than getting a text message during class, opening it because it might be important, and seeing "my cock is so hard 4 u
Hints that leave most of the work to the imagination are way better than explicit dirty talk.
Crowing One has some great quotes but this here is golden.
Things have a way of popping back up - not in a good way - when least expected years or decades later.
Have fun with it.
I can no longer have a turkey dinner without thinking of that quote.
that's why we call it the struggle, you're supposed to sweat
If you feel comfortable sending sexy pictures back and forth, then dick pics are certainly OK if you've been invited to do so. Putting a blanket-ban on penis pictures makes as much sense as saying "ladies don't under any circumstances send titty pictures". It's sensible advice to not send someone you don't know or trust compromising pictures, but live a little.
But really you should just text her telling her to come over for quality time.
But really, if there's anything to be gained here, it's that you're not going to get advice about what your girlfriend will like from a bunch of people on the internet who aren't your girlfriend.
Talk to her, find her boundaries, likes and desires and go from there. We can't tell you what she'll like, or how she'll like it. She and only she knows that.
*For the right sort of person in the right context.
So if you just think that everyone does the dirty texting thing...certainly not. You don't have to either. If, however, you *want* to get into sexting...well, then I don't really know what to tell you. Unless, of course, texting each other *grope* does it for you; and then I have all sorts of advice.