Dealing with the impending
FortyTwo
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SE. Terrible things have happened.
My soon-to-be-father in law has had a massive stroke. The DNR has been given. Over the next few days, we will see. It is coming, don't know when.
51 years old and the world to my wonderful, gentle, fiancee.
If she knew I was doing this, she would not be happy but I need to get it out. How have you dealt with this? Dealt with the impending, the waiting.
My soon-to-be-father in law has had a massive stroke. The DNR has been given. Over the next few days, we will see. It is coming, don't know when.
51 years old and the world to my wonderful, gentle, fiancee.
If she knew I was doing this, she would not be happy but I need to get it out. How have you dealt with this? Dealt with the impending, the waiting.
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Usually I just drown myself in distractions, buy up some games I've always wanted to play to feel productive in a way, I dunno.
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then this.
To be taunted with the hopes of recovery and more time.
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My mother-in-law will not allow that to happen. He does not want that. But goodness I am sorry to hear that.
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So, I can't imagine how tough it must be to deal with that.
my condolences, dude
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In all the times I've been in that gap between something bad happening and the inevitable conclusion, I've just been aware of the passage of time. Know that things won't be this way forever, and every moment that passes is another moment closer to everything being behind you. In the space of a few weeks things will be different. They will still hurt like hell, but this stage will be behind you both and you can move on.
he went in his sleep not 24 hours after he was admitted
it felt like he had been on borrowed time for over a year
Just remember that there is nothing wrong with laughing right now, nothing wrong with trying to have a good a time either. In fact there aren't many better times for it than right now. You don't have to set time aside to feel sad, that will happen all on its own. Do what you love doing when you have time, play games, be productive, reflect, get existential and most importantly just be there for your fiancee.
My condolences. I hope things aren't too drawn out for you and yours.
And don't feel bad, as coping mechanisms go talking to other people about it is perfectly fine
As far as actually dealing with this sort of shit, my own personal stance is to simply remind myself that it is the way of things. Life is cruel and uncaring at times. Impersonal and brief. It is the way of things. All you can do is look to those around you and support them that they may be strong and in turn support you when you need help.
Its maybe a bit defeatist? I dunno. It is the way of things.
a good hospice will help both him and his family.
i can answer probably any questions about how all that works, if you want
it's free, if that's a thing
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he was cremated less than twelve hours later, there was no service
c'est la guerre
or perhaps even c'est la vie.
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nothing vivant about this
C'est la vie: such is life.
uh thank you I know?
who is this guy
e: educate yrself http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=C'est%20la%20guerre
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strokes and seizures terrify me most in life, always have
didn't get better when my brother spontaneously became epileptic at the age of 13
uh thank you I know?
you do realize they colloquially mean the same thing, right?
sort-of-not-really!! "c'est la vie" is typically single-entendre
and if you think they mean the same thing, why were you trying to correct me on the usage of the term?
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which, neat, cool guy
got a rep to maintain you know
but seriously it sucks when a loved one is in poor health
my bro's been slowly wasting away for like 10 years now, Muscular Dystrophy
it sucks to think about, so I mostly don't
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No dispresect, FortyTwo. We're clearly we're both a pair of heroes here. Mea culpa.
he goes in and out, and sometimes it takes him a day or two to really...rejoin the world. More and more.
he's also autistic, so he doesn't really understand what is happening to him, but he's been trying ever since they started
my grandmother is also pretty far into alzheimer's, and there are some uncomfortable parallels
wow, hi forums!
Today someone broke into my apartment and stole everything that wasn't bolted down. TV, ipods, checks, x360, ps3, bondage collar, a bucket full of change, laptop, grandmother's wedding ring, grandfather's pearl harbor survivor medal. For some reason left pc, kindle, DS.
changing everything
kinda bummed
However, the ring will never leave your finger, and you will be unable to ever describe to another living person what you see.
Are you insured?
And if they treat medals over there like they do over here, at least the courts will utterly shaft the thief if they catch them
dunno what they'll actually cover. It's not like I kept serial numbers or nothing. I'm going to clean up what i can clean up and then move all of my stuff over to my dads house or something
they left enough stuff here that i'm worried they'll come back if I leave it
However, the ring will never leave your finger, and you will be unable to ever describe to another living person what you see.
I would be down with grabbing a bat and administering some street justice to that guy
My Mother-in-law, literally the sweetest woman in the world, has been prepping for this day due to his underlying condition. But not like this.
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