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Cure for the lonely heart?
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This is more of a rant than anything, but lately I've been feeling pretty down and lonely. I don't particularly think I'm depressed, but I'm no doctor. My life is actually pretty great and I'm happy. I go to a very prestigious graduate school, and I'm currently doing an awesome internship in the Bay Area and I'm having a blast. Overall, in terms of my career, everything is looking bright.
However, lately, I can't seem to shake that feeling that I'm all alone and by myself. I keep myself occupied with various activities and social circles. I've been trying to workout a couple of times a week, and I play ultimate and rock climb weekly. So there's plenty of human interactions.
I've been somewhat developing a mushy feeling for a friend who's currently in a relationship, so that probably does't help. And there has been a huge influx of engagements and marriages on Facebook lately. It seems like everyone my age is in committed relationships (I'm 23). I've really only been in one relationship in my life, and it didn't last very long, and that was about three years ago. So I guess I feel slightly unwanted. I think I am craving some sort of intimacy. However, I despise the idea of being dependent on a woman to be happy, and I definitely do not want to settle down anytime soon.
Am I just going through a quarter-life crisis?
However, lately, I can't seem to shake that feeling that I'm all alone and by myself. I keep myself occupied with various activities and social circles. I've been trying to workout a couple of times a week, and I play ultimate and rock climb weekly. So there's plenty of human interactions.
I've been somewhat developing a mushy feeling for a friend who's currently in a relationship, so that probably does't help. And there has been a huge influx of engagements and marriages on Facebook lately. It seems like everyone my age is in committed relationships (I'm 23). I've really only been in one relationship in my life, and it didn't last very long, and that was about three years ago. So I guess I feel slightly unwanted. I think I am craving some sort of intimacy. However, I despise the idea of being dependent on a woman to be happy, and I definitely do not want to settle down anytime soon.
Am I just going through a quarter-life crisis?
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Make a profile. Let the people in that thread dissect it for you. Go on dates, have fun. You're only 23, I wouldn't worry about having been in only one "relationship" in your life. If anything, people getting married and engaged at or around 23 are jumping the gun a bit (a lot).
Just keep doing what you're doing and make sure you stay open to possibilities. You catch no fish if you cast no line.
I dunno. Maybe I just miss my friends and family and a bit home sick.
You just said you wanted intimacy and you felt unwanted. I didn't say you should go looking for a relationship. You can date people and have fun and not be in one of those. Beyond that, being in one doesn't mean being "dependent".
Don't take it too hard. You just gotta be happy with who you are.
No, you don't. It's very easy to improve oneself or change your outlook if you're unhappy.
Yes, you do. "Being happy with who you are" doesn't mean "don't change" at all. Sometimes changing is what you need to be happy with yourself.
But being happy with who you are is key in all things, especially relationships.
That's what I just said.
http://www.calacademy.org/events/nightlife/
I can almost guarantee that you'll have a great time. My ex-girlfriend goes really frequently and has a blast. And, if she's any indication of the girls that go (law student/ex-Suicide Girl)... :winky: Lots of really smart cookies there. Maybe you'll meet some people that'll pique your interest?
I just got here in May and trying to get involved with as much as I can.
Let 'em eat fucking pineapples!
Heh, I'm sorry but this is what this sounds to me when I read ex-Suicide-Girl.
Anyway OP, you are still young and at a bit of a turning point in your life. Quite normal to feel the way you do, so just don't worry.
You say your school and internship are great, the rest will ultimately fall into place. Sounds to me as if you are homesick, like you mentioned yourself. Maybe make plans to go visit your folks and meet some old friends?
All of which were put to the test five years later when I gave the best man speech at the wedding for the guy I auditioned with. He was a groomsman in my wedding a few years after that, but we never would have met if we hadn't both decided to try something completely different. It's funny how saying "yes" to a small decisions that you'd ordinarily answer with a "no" has the capacity to completely change your life.
you're young. i was in a "serious relationship" when i was 20-21 and I'm glad it imploded as soon as we got engaged. i've changed so much since then, and i was able to find the best wife in the world. she's my best friend. I was 27 when we met, and it's been smooth sailing since.
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