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Girlfriend Hacked -> She thinks its me...

Push Button | Receive CatPush Button | Receive Cat Registered User regular
edited August 2011 in Help / Advice Forum
So today I get a message from my girlfriend. She spoke strangely.

Today, she called me in a cold voice and told me that I must know what has happened. That it was me. I had no idea!!!!

This morning before class, we resolved a big fight. Because she is in law school, I told her that no matter how she feels, she should go to class, because I obviously care about her. I told her, even if you feel crappy about your decision in attending law school, you should attend class anyways.

So, she goes. Apparently, something happened to her while she was in class. Furthermore, her video game website/blog had been hacked into! She had been having people trying to log onto her personal website/blog for the last month.

Now I imagine her reasoning is that I told her to attend class. While in class, something happened. She knows that I cannot hack my way out of a box but she thinks that I am somehow associated with the hackers.

Is there any good way of identifying the culprit? Seriously? I am deeply worried. It doesn't seem like there is anything I can say. She will always just suspect that I am working with someone else to undermine her? what?!?! How do I fix things? She is a com-sci major and very good with coding and networking. And now somehow this person has done something to effect her school life in real life too? What?!?!?! We just got out of a giant fight and this happens. It is not good!

I am panicking, help plz!

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  • Push Button | Receive CatPush Button | Receive Cat Registered User regular
    I can provide the domain name if anyone is willing to help!!!

    I have been looking at DomainTools website for the last while but I do not have membership and I do not have any idea what any of it says!

  • EshEsh Tending bar. FFXIV. Motorcycles. Portland, ORRegistered User regular
    edited August 2011
    Is there any good way of identifying the culprit? Seriously? I am deeply worried. It doesn't seem like there is anything I can say. She will always just suspect that I am working with someone else to undermine her? what?!?! How do I fix things? She is a com-sci major and very good with coding and networking. And now somehow this person has done something to effect her school life in real life too? What?!?!?! We just got out of a giant fight and this happens. It is not good!

    I am panicking, help plz!

    For the first question, on your end, no. This isn't your problem.

    For the second, you don't. You just explain to her that it wasn't you and hope she gets over it. If she doesn't that's a whole other bag of worms.
    I can provide the domain name if anyone is willing to help!!!

    I have been looking at DomainTools website for the last while but I do not have membership and I do not have any idea what any of it says!

    No one here is going to go digging around tracing IPs and what not for you.

    EDIT: Is she a computer science major or is she in law school?

    Esh on
  • Push Button | Receive CatPush Button | Receive Cat Registered User regular
    edited August 2011
    This is so ridiculous...

    What is worse is that this keeps on happening and it looks like it is one individual that is doing all these things.

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  • minirhyderminirhyder BerlinRegistered User regular
    Are you asking about a trust problem between you and your girlfriend or a hacking problem your girlfriend is experiencing? Because those are two completely different things that different groups of people can help with.

  • impskitchenimpskitchen Registered User regular
    Like Esh said, she's either going to trust that you didn't do it, or not. Not a whole lot you can do otherwise.

    If it were me and my girlfriend was seriously accusing me of something like this, I'd probably tell her to leave me alone until she either A. had proof, or B. was ready to act like a rational human being again.

    If she doesn't trust you over something like this, good luck if she ever gets it in her head that you're cheating on her...

  • Push Button | Receive CatPush Button | Receive Cat Registered User regular
    I opened a similar thread in Moe's so I'd like some ways to convince her that I am innocent.

    We just had so much emotional ups and downs this weekend, I don't know if her or myself can take this. The thing is, there is just no way to say it is me because obviously I can be secretly talking to someone else about it or something. fml

  • Push Button | Receive CatPush Button | Receive Cat Registered User regular
    Like Esh said, she's either going to trust that you didn't do it, or not. Not a whole lot you can do otherwise.

    If it were me and my girlfriend was seriously accusing me of something like this, I'd probably tell her to leave me alone until she either A. had proof, or B. was ready to act like a rational human being again.

    If she doesn't trust you over something like this, good luck if she ever gets it in her head that you're cheating on her...

    Ok I think it is a good idea. I was thinking of paying a month of that DomainTools thing to help her (if it even does) and then leaving her alone.

  • DockenDocken Registered User regular
    edited August 2011
    The only problem you're currently having is a Girlfriend that has so little trust in you she would prefer to believe an absurdity rather than you - ie that you're running some kind of secrect hacking syndicate directed at her whilst she is attending law school... even though you have no "hacking" skills and you are supposed to love her...

    I think you two have some serious talking to do.

    Docken on
  • DemerdarDemerdar Registered User regular
    Yeah, this probably goes a lot deeper into trust issues than you might realize. Talk to her and ask her why she thinks you hacked her website. Be rational, hopefully she calms down.

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  • DestinyamberDestinyamber Registered User regular
    Without proof, she's just being irrational. Nonetheless, I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that she has underlying problems just yet. It seems she has become VERY attached to her site, just as any site owner would be, and she's just hurt something happened. Yes, it is completely irrational that she would target you immediately and it's not right, but she's just hurt. She'll most likely calm down in a day or two, and apologize.

    However, I would still suggest talking with her and figuring this out with her. If she still is crazy, irrational in the next couple days and she continues to accuse you, then consider there may be underlying problems.

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  • UsagiUsagi Nah Registered User regular
    I think the fact that her immediate reaction was to accuse the OP of hacking is by definition a trust issue

    Talk this one out with her Push Button, her reaction is bizarre, and especially if she has a history of doing this kind of stuff I would take a hard look at your relationship.

  • DemerdarDemerdar Registered User regular
    Her first reaction was to accuse him of it.

    Yeah, that's not good.

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  • FightTestFightTest Registered User regular
    edited August 2011
    Two possibilities:

    1.) Your girlfriend is crazy and you are too for wasting your time on her.

    2.) You're some sort of lame phishing/spam bot with your registering two weeks ago and only posting disjointed things about your crazy comp sci/law school girlfriend's tiny video game blog being hacked, and you "clueless" trying to deal with the security of it for some reason.

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  • billwillbillwill Registered User regular
    edited August 2011
    You guys. Look at his history. He has posted three separate threads about being hacked (two separate incidents).

    It looks like this guy just wants us to hack into somebody's account for him. I sincerely doubt his girlfriend in law school even exists.

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  • JebusUDJebusUD Adventure! Candy IslandRegistered User regular
    That or dude has a serious security problem on top of relationship and immediate issues.

    and I wonder about my neighbors even though I don't have them
    but they're listening to every word I say
  • Push Button | Receive CatPush Button | Receive Cat Registered User regular
    JebusUD wrote:
    That or dude has a serious security problem on top of relationship and immediate issues.

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  • JebusUDJebusUD Adventure! Candy IslandRegistered User regular
    JebusUD wrote:
    That or dude has a serious security problem on top of relationship and immediate issues.

    this

    You got some kind of spyware on your computer? Antivirus software installed?

    and I wonder about my neighbors even though I don't have them
    but they're listening to every word I say
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