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Back In The Dating Scene
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Ok, ever since my wife cheated on me I went back into the dating scene via online. Within one week I've been successful but hadn't met anybody that I want to get serious with. I have myself listed as separated and cute girls actually message me still, everyone I met so far is one that contacted me first.
Anyways, it's been several years since I dated and this is my first separation/divorce I have some questions.
1. How soon should I tell a girl of my situation in detail? One girl actually asked on the first date but she was divorced and had relationship issues, she was hot though.
2. Should I be worried about women that message me first want to date me even though they know I'm separated?
Anyways, it's been several years since I dated and this is my first separation/divorce I have some questions.
1. How soon should I tell a girl of my situation in detail? One girl actually asked on the first date but she was divorced and had relationship issues, she was hot though.
2. Should I be worried about women that message me first want to date me even though they know I'm separated?
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2- Nah, a date is pretty much a get together between 2 people with the means to get an idea what kind of person someone is... while having fun.
Just limit your goals with a person to "getting to know them better". And then the wheels turn however they will.
So in short, just go with the flow. That's my two cents.
uuhh... like... telling them that you are separated, and maybe why, succinctly. I don't really think you need to go into detail, unless they ask. They aren't really there to be a psrink, and probably don't need, want, or should have to deal with your baggage. Certainly not up front.
per number 2. Don't be a fucking retard. "Sorry honey. I put that stuff up there, but I don't actually want anyone who would have the low morals to actually reply to it."
what the fuck is that? Bullshit fucking tests and traps before you've met the person? You are either trying to date or not, don't pretend like you are and just make up reasons to sabotage relationships and jerk people around.
As for dating, that sounds entirely normal for older people. Young people seem to really have hangups on dating people, and typically will refuse to go on a date if they don't see the person as potential marriage potential. As you age, you naturally become more open to different personalities and realize that high standards are often confused with stupid standards.
Also as you age, you realize that going on a date doesn't mean you have to see the person again, but that it's one of the best ways to get to know someone quickly. In other words, these women are interested in you, but don't want to waste time not knowing if you're actually a dud in real life. They want to make sure you're real and how you actually are in person.
Most serious dating sites are like that. When I met my wife, I had come out of a drought and ended up actually on 3 separate dates and another potential date. All of which I could have continued to go on dates with if I hadn't decided to focus on my now wife. All of these people were pretty much a "hey, I think you sound pretty cool, let's catch coffee or lunch" type of thing. So much easier than IM'ing back 'n forth, or dealing with email, and you know pretty much within an hour of the date if it's even worthwhile getting ahold of the person again.
So yes, it's good that you're adapting to it quickly. Don't be heartbroken if nothing pans out for a while, though, and don't be disheartened if you're not feeling any real attraction towards anyone. Get out, meet people, have some fun. You'll know when you're ready, and you'll know when you should go into the gory details of your ex wife. For now, if it comes up, just say that she cheated on you a few times and when you essentially caught her red handed is when you decided you had enough.
That's a good point. I had three dates last weekend and felt like I didn't put much effort into them, getting laid was nice though.
I'm going out with someone tomorrow who seems really mature and good looking so I'm definately going to give this one my best. Life is way too short.
k im a tard.
Nice reply there buddy...
And i think the separated issue is actually that: He's separated from his wife, not yet divorced. Reading comprehension ftw, you tard.
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