Getting back my Mojo.

Nerf ICBM

I found myself single a few months ago, after being in a relationship for six and a half years. Recently, I've decided it's high time that I start getting out there again. Only problem is, I've lost my mojo. I mean, I've forgotten all the things that happen between "Hi there" and "Here, have some of my bodily fluids". Truth be told, it's a bit daunting.

Any and all advice is appreciated.

Nerf ICBM

Oh yeah, I should probably mention that I'm mid-20s, if that changes anything.

Esh

Be yourself. Talk to people. You don't have to use some set of moves or lines.

EggyToast

There's no script, although it tends to go better when your objective isn't so obviously sex. If you have no clue, consider visiting the online dating thread in Debate & Discourse.

MrMonroe

I recommend drinking, but not too much

also, OkCupid won't hurt; just don't take it too seriously or feel bad when your dates aren't as good looking as you thought they would be

Esh

MrMonroe wrote:

I recommend drinking, but not too much

also, OkCupid won't hurt; just don't take it too seriously or feel bad when your dates aren't as good looking as you thought they would be

I'm sure they're thinking the same thing. But yeah, go over to the OkCupid thread in D&D, make yourself an account, and let them tear it apart.

Nerf ICBM

Thanks for the advice.

Truth be told, I'd prefer to avoid the internet dating scene until I've tried in person first.

Riale

I understand your reticence, but it helps if you think as OKCupid as a system for arranging meetings with people rather than 'online dating'. Usually, if anything is going to happen it progresses from text to a meet up in a few messages, and it can be useful for someone back in the dating scene. It allows you to initiate contact and set up a first date (arguably the hardest part of the whole experience) without as much stress as you might feel trying to find people in real life. It's not so much dating 'online' as it is another resource to meet people, much as you might go to a bar or social event with the hopes of finding someone.

Raneados

Nerf ICBM wrote:

Thanks for the advice.

Truth be told, I'd prefer to avoid the internet dating scene until I've tried in person first.

Internet dating IS "in person" dating, as you quickly progress to the "hey do you want to grab coffee?" stage and see their face and talk at their head

don't knock internet dating, in this day and age it's getting to the point where a large chunk of relationships start with it

Chases Street Demons

I always found that the best dates are about doing something different together that takes the stress off of the meeting.

As for the internet thing, I recommend it. I personally believe you're much more likely to find someone who you can stand to be with by finding out about them in an online profile than by trawling bars or nightclubs.

Skoal Cat

Internet dating is an awesome exercise is learning how to communicate with people casually and datey.

Nerf ICBM

So, I came home drunk on Friday night after a night on the town with some mates and made an OK Cupid profile. After sobering up, I decided to keep with it. Thanks for the advice folks, it's definitely appreciated.

Nerf ICBM

Not sure if it's a complete taboo to perform an act of thread necromancy on this topic, but I feel that I should mention that following the advice in this topic has seen me experience good times, some rather bizarre times and eventually discover a lady who is entirely awesome.

admanb

Thread necromancy for H/A updates is often encouraged. Glad to hear it's worked out so well for you!

ceres

Yep, totally legit.

Really glad to hear it.

Organichu

did you do the thing i said with the butt and the floss?

proud of ya

Nerf ICBM

What thing? Oh god, am I not doing something important with the butt and the floss? Is this like the three seashells? Oh god.