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Trials and Tribulations of Hockey Parent
Azarius
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Background: My step son is goalie, 2nd year... he'll be 8 in December. Last year, the organization he played for had 2 novice teams in the Hockey Association.... One team was stacked (they went 64-0) and won every tournament/city championship... His team was battling .500 all year... There were a lot of upset parents last year over it...
This year, the league *BARELY* has enough players for two teams... in fact they had to get an exemption from the Association they play in to put a 12 man roster in (we'll call them the "B" team). They also have no coaches/management in place.
2nd practice of the year, we were informed of which team he would play on. This team has 4 coaches a manager, 14 players and a decent skill set (We'll call them the "A" team). He attended the two team practices after as well we were going to attend the Tag Day.
There were two goalies in Novice this year. Our guy and the nephew of one of the coaches on the "A" team.... The other goalie was picked for the "B" team originally.
At the practice last week, we were advised that "the teams were never picked", and the league shuffled the teams. (Which of course was total bull****) We were informed of this at the start of practice as they divided the teams up again. Our guy was now the "B" team goalie. I've been working with him on the ice as his "goalie coach" - and all of a sudden I found myself trying to run some drills as the two other 'helper parents' were kind of clueless and the kids were just standing around. There was a parent of another child who was just furious about being moved from A to B and he stormed into the dressing room... Later he said it was 'all a misunderstanding' and his was still with A. The mom of the "B" goalie raised a fuss as well, which is what we believe lead to this 'restructuring' of the two teams.
"A" team had all of our little guys friends from the past couple of years. When we told him that wouldn't be his team this year, he cried all the way home.
Screw with me, I can take it. Screw with the kidlets and we've got a problem. Momma bear was beyond pissed, and this week we have been looking for another organization to play for. I have already been in contact with a couple of them that actually need a full time goalie for one of their teams... one organization has an excellent reputation...
Although him leaving this organization for another may be the 'final stone' for the collapse of the second team, I feel it's in the best interests for our family to move away from this organization. I'm hoping they'll put a few kids on the other team and transfer the remaining kids who want to play to another organization.
Does it sound like we're overreacting? Thoughts/comments?
This year, the league *BARELY* has enough players for two teams... in fact they had to get an exemption from the Association they play in to put a 12 man roster in (we'll call them the "B" team). They also have no coaches/management in place.
2nd practice of the year, we were informed of which team he would play on. This team has 4 coaches a manager, 14 players and a decent skill set (We'll call them the "A" team). He attended the two team practices after as well we were going to attend the Tag Day.
There were two goalies in Novice this year. Our guy and the nephew of one of the coaches on the "A" team.... The other goalie was picked for the "B" team originally.
At the practice last week, we were advised that "the teams were never picked", and the league shuffled the teams. (Which of course was total bull****) We were informed of this at the start of practice as they divided the teams up again. Our guy was now the "B" team goalie. I've been working with him on the ice as his "goalie coach" - and all of a sudden I found myself trying to run some drills as the two other 'helper parents' were kind of clueless and the kids were just standing around. There was a parent of another child who was just furious about being moved from A to B and he stormed into the dressing room... Later he said it was 'all a misunderstanding' and his was still with A. The mom of the "B" goalie raised a fuss as well, which is what we believe lead to this 'restructuring' of the two teams.
"A" team had all of our little guys friends from the past couple of years. When we told him that wouldn't be his team this year, he cried all the way home.
Screw with me, I can take it. Screw with the kidlets and we've got a problem. Momma bear was beyond pissed, and this week we have been looking for another organization to play for. I have already been in contact with a couple of them that actually need a full time goalie for one of their teams... one organization has an excellent reputation...
Although him leaving this organization for another may be the 'final stone' for the collapse of the second team, I feel it's in the best interests for our family to move away from this organization. I'm hoping they'll put a few kids on the other team and transfer the remaining kids who want to play to another organization.
Does it sound like we're overreacting? Thoughts/comments?
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i had a rather craptastic piano teacher when i was a tyke, and my parents only kept me going there until they found a better alternative. when they did find someone better, we switched overnight.
sometimes no alternative can be found. then it's a judgement call on whether or not an ongoing bad experience is preferable to a neutral non-experience. sometimes you have to appreciate the good times, cut your losses, and move on.
i can also understand partly wanting to stay out of sympathy to the other kids in the same situation. but i think your instincts are right here - and your example will likely free others to do the same.
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Maybe it's time to try out football or something.
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