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Best Friend's Girlfriend Woe's
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So basically my best friend had this girlfriend that pretty much sucked all the life out of him. So because of this during the relationship (Which lasted 1.5 years) I had always been a dick to her but played it off as a joke. Then a few months ago she broke up with him expecting him to beg to take him back because she loves attention like that (Pseudo-emo shit) but of course, he was happier than ever.
I took this as a free ticket to be as big of a dick as possible to her, but as of Friday they are now back together, do I continue being a dick? Do I apologise? What am I supposed to be doing here? I still don't like her in the slightest but we're going to HAVE to be around each other.
I took this as a free ticket to be as big of a dick as possible to her, but as of Friday they are now back together, do I continue being a dick? Do I apologise? What am I supposed to be doing here? I still don't like her in the slightest but we're going to HAVE to be around each other.
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Define 'being a dick'.
Basically brutal honesty.
Does it cause you to not hang out with your friend? has the relationship actually changed at all?
How you choose to be perceived by other people is your own discretion. If you've "been a dick" to her consistently, I can't imagine she would think too highly of you regardless of whether you changed your approach.
Talk to the friend about it. Ask him why they're going out again, and if it's still seemingly problematic, try to talk some sense into him.
If it looks like things have changed, then apologize. You don't have to be all like "omg i was so wrong forever" but at least "i'm happy you two have changed and are getting along." No need to jump to conclusions, though, and it sounds somewhat reboundy. Who knows, maybe they're both horny and nothing's come up in the last few months. Is this high school age?
But during their relationship the whole being a dick thing was played off as a joke and she just thought I was being funny but I kinda increased my out put 10 fold because she kept coming to me to "Put a good word in". But I the first thing I'm asking the friend tonight is what the hell he was thinking. He doesn't want to be with her, he's been a better man during the 2month break they had. And yes, this is high school age but I had always thought of this friend as being beyond all that.
Cut the passive aggressive bullshit.
If you really feel the need, go ahead and let him know what you think about her.
After that, stop bugging him about it and keep your interactions with her civil.
But I'm gonna try Dioltas advice and see if that does anything.
Even if you can't stand them, you just gotta go with the flow.
I'm actually VERY much the opposite, and essentially was the most distant person ever last time I hung out with a friend of mine and his girlfriend (who I can't even remotely stand).
So, learn from me, and just be civil, and somewhat sociable, if not entirely friendly.
most of all, most of all
someone said true love was dead
but i'm bound to fall
bound to fall for you
oh what can i do