I've never really had this kind of problem before, and I assume someone out here in the forums probably has, so I'd like to see maybe how they dealt with the same problem...soo here goes...
I recently met someone after about a year and a half of avoiding relationships. Technically I still wasn't really looking for one, but as they say...when you aren't looking is probably when it will happen. In any case I really like this girl, and she admitted that she is very into me as well. We started out as just kind of friends, hanging out and such, with her and her circle of friends (We share a few friends in common, it's how we met.). Her best friend is another girl, and they hang out with each other A LOT, so much so, that me and said new girlfriend can't seem to get any time alone, we can't even seem to chat on facebook without this best friend getting offended in some manner.
Now to be clear, I actually like the best friend most of the time, and would never ask her to ditch her best friend, and I do my best to not make this best friend feel like a third wheel so I generally do a "hands off" approach when we are with other her, or other people as I know how much it sucks for anyone to feel like a third wheel. Now this new girlfriend and I started becoming a lot closer over the past couple weeks, and started trying to have our own alone time, our own private conversations ect and ever since this started happening the best friend has started turning into a real pain in the ass. Every time my girlfriend and I start talking or hanging out without her she gets real bitchy, sends bitchy text messages and lays on the guilt trip on my girlfriend about how we are ditching her and how we are going to leave her behind or something. We can't seem to get a single day alone. We even all went out to the bar once and the best friend had a big freakout after about how all the guys like my girlfriend and don't like her and asked me why I like my girlfriend and put me in this huge awkward situation. I think the worst part is is all the guilt tripping she pulls on not only my girlfriend, but she's started doing it to me too now. It makes me feel bad and its making my girlfriend feel bad for the two of us wanting to be together.
Now my girlfriend is VERY VERY picky with guys, she has never really even had a real boyfriend, and is still a virgin. She's 25. It isn't because she is ugly or unattractive or something (Far from it, shes very pleasant and very attractive personality and looks wise.) and I'm the first guy she's ever really been interested in seriously. Now this situation is already really hard on me, as I am not a virgin, and this is not my first time to the ball game, so to speak. But I really like her and as I wasn't looking for a relationship when this all came about, I am totally cool with taking things really slow, in fact I prefer it right now.
Now my girlfriend has gone to visit family for 2 months in Australia (where she is from, but she lives where I live the other 90% of the time.) and so she's been skyping me a lot and keeping in touch, she actually didn't even want to go to australia, because our relationship is still fairly fresh and she didn't want to leave me for 2 months. I pushed her to go as I think family is important and she doesn't get this opportunity very often. I mean I can live 2 months with just skype dates, I'm ok with that. So off she went. Now her best friend is getting pissy because she is skyping with me a lot and keeping in touch, and is complaining that my girlfriend "doesn't need her best friend anymore" because she has me now and all this. Is really laying on the guilt tripping. She is also doing it to me, asking me to come hang out with her and stuff, and asked me to spend the night at her house (Which i did when my girlfriend did a couple times.) but I told her I wasn't comfortable with that but i'd be happy to hang out some time. Now comes today, she asks me to hang out, I tell her I can't I have homework to do (My final is in August.) so she goes off on me "Oh now beacuse (my girlfriend.) isn't around now we aren't friends." Once again putting me in a really awkward situation.
I just don't know how to deal with it, this best friend was fine at first, but it seems like the closer my girlfriend and I get the worse she gets. This isn't fair to me, or my girlfriend, especially since my girlfriend is so picky with men. I mean it I don't think it's fair at all that she finally found a guy she really likes (me) and her best friend decides its a good opportunity to act like this, I dont want this best friend to drive us apart with this crap and I am really worried that's what will happen. My girlfriend does not seem to be interested in the least in splitting up, but that doesn't mean this isn't going to cause problems for us...
So any advice would be awesome.