On the upside it should be good for him to be with his mother as opposed to your brother.
Plus I'm sure you can xbox live him.
Ehh, his mum ain't the best but his grandparents seem nice and he likes them, so at least he'll be with them.
And Thailand unfortunately has no Microsoft/Xbox Live support, I'll be keeping his 360 and HDD safe from my brother here, but I've taught him how to use email and he might start using Steam.
brohug for also having a shitty brother. I think yours sounds worse than mine, though.
I watch every couple of months. It's an amazing insight into beauty. And for me I stop wanting to call her disabled. Because its really hard to see her as having any disadvantage.
I watch every couple of months. It's an amazing insight into beauty. And for me I stop wanting to call her disabled. Because its really hard to see her as having any disadvantage.
The best bit was how her friend thought it was unfair that she could change her height. Jealous of her prosthetics.
My brother is the kind of person who calls me a "faggot" and "retard" because I prove him wrong. And then tells me he hopes I don't think he's an "angry person" it's just the people around him that make him angry totally.
I seriously cannot name a single family member who would spend any amount of time with him.
He bought a widescreen HDTV for his new place. He hasn't even started looking for a new home. He's just left this tv still in the box in our dining room.
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I watch every couple of months. It's an amazing insight into beauty. And for me I stop wanting to call her disabled. Because its really hard to see her as having any disadvantage.
I mean I know she's an olympic record breaker and everything
but I am blown away at how comfortably she can walk in heels without moving her ankles
Yeah I honestly believe that, at that age, a kid should be shown as much responsible love and care as possible by those around them and the topic of hate should not be bandied around lightly.
Hate is a very personal thing and if it's not handled reasonably and maturely it just becomes a horrible mess, like we see everywhere every day.
Of course, I'm definitely not meaning to imply anything about your particular situation, Gatsby. Everyone's circumstances are different and there are no set rules.
Also, I hope you're both ok. Close family moving away suuuuuuucks.
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it's not a very big leap for a young kid to go from "I hate my parent(s)" to "I hate myself"
particularly when he is leaving the family that he DOES have for somewhere more isolated from familiar faces
look Jules I ain't saying you did the wrong thing; like I said, I don't know your family and I could very well be projecting some shit
I'm just saying that ten year-olds have more (misguided, due to the immaturity) insight than we give them credit for, and tend to blame themselves for the shit going on around them more than we think they do
a kid can understand blame for something obvious, like breaking a vase
but the intangible, abstract, emotional stuff? they are as egocentric as they come
Wellllll I just had a bit of a prang in my car. On Great Eastern near midland gate, was wanting to get into the other lane so I checked my mirrors, then my blind spot, and then turned back to the front only to find out that the car in front of the car in front of me had decided to turn right at the last moment, so the car in front of me braked hard. I immediately braked hard as well, but just a little too late, and bumped into the back of them. Good news was that their car was barely even scratched. Bad news is that mine is a bit beat up.
It *seems* kinda minor, just superficial damage. One side of the front bumper has popped off a bit, the headlights and indicators have been knocked off their mooring (the plastic bits that are bolted to the metal of the car have snapped)- they still work and are all connected still though- and the bonnet is a teeny bit bent so it sticks up a little. Dad hasn't seen it yet, but from what I described to him over the phone he thinks it shouldn't be too terrible to fix up. A trick to the wreckers to get some replacement bits and then we might be able to fix it ourselves, I guess.
Still, really not something I needed right now -_-
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awww Ben, that sucks! glad you're okay though
something similar almost happened to me; wanted to shift into right lane, checked blind spot, made move, car in front of me had braked hard and had decided to turn right all of a sudden
I didn't have to brake hard or anything because I was a fair distance behind him, but yeah, still a bit scary
Yeah this section of great eastern gets a bit cramped, sadly, so I was probably closer than I would've normally been.
uggghhhh I hope this is going to be affordable to fix because this car cost me $900 and I only have third party insurance. Fingers crossed we can get some bits from a wrecker for not too much and be able to fix the rest up ourselves. Not so sure about the bonnet, but it seems kinda superficial so maybe I can just leave it be (or maybe there's just something blocking it and thus causing it to stick up a bit).
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I freakin' HATE changing lanes when there is a lot of traffic
I don't know how the jackasses who cut across 2 lanes with 1 car length's worth of space do it
It all just happened so quickly so I don't really know if I could've avoided it still or not
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If you can find the part and do it yourself then yeah it should be affordable.
When a guy bumped into the back of my car, putting a 2 inch crack into the bumper, I got quoted that it would cost $900 to replace, fit and paint. Plastic can't really be welded back together so it needed a whole replacement bumper, and the part wasnt that common even though it's only a 10 year old mazda.
Yeah I'm hoping it wont be too bad to get the parts. I'm really not sure about the bumper though. It's actually all intact- no cracks or anything- it's just that the corner of it on one side has come unattached and a little bit on the other side is leaning off a little. I doubt it's about to fall off or anything, but if any cops spot it they'll probably yellow sticker me or something, and if it gets bumped or anything it could get worse. The lights are what I'm worried about though, because I have no idea what we'll have to do to fix those.
Hopefully the bonnet wont be an issue either. It's only about my thumb's height sticking up so it looks pretty minor.
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Yeah this section of great eastern gets a bit cramped, sadly, so I was probably closer than I would've normally been.
uggghhhh I hope this is going to be affordable to fix because this car cost me $900 and I only have third party insurance. Fingers crossed we can get some bits from a wrecker for not too much and be able to fix the rest up ourselves. Not so sure about the bonnet, but it seems kinda superficial so maybe I can just leave it be (or maybe there's just something blocking it and thus causing it to stick up a bit).
Is the guy you hit wanting you to pay for any damages?
When you say you have third party
do you have comprehensive third party or compulsory third party?
because if you only have the third party you pay as part of your registration that doesn't cover damages to their car, only medical expenses.
Yeah this section of great eastern gets a bit cramped, sadly, so I was probably closer than I would've normally been.
uggghhhh I hope this is going to be affordable to fix because this car cost me $900 and I only have third party insurance. Fingers crossed we can get some bits from a wrecker for not too much and be able to fix the rest up ourselves. Not so sure about the bonnet, but it seems kinda superficial so maybe I can just leave it be (or maybe there's just something blocking it and thus causing it to stick up a bit).
Is the guy you hit wanting you to pay for any damages?
When you say you have third party
do you have comprehensive third party or compulsory third party?
because if you only have the third party you pay as part of your registration that doesn't cover damages to their car, only medical expenses.
Nah they didn't want anything actually. Looked at their car, looked at mine, shrugged and said it was only a scratch to theirs so they didn't care, but asked if I was gonna be able to drive mine. Didn't even want my contact details.
The only tricky thing about fixing this is that Dad and I aren't mechanics at all, so it'll be a bit of making it up as we go along. The lights look pretty straightforward, but I have no idea about the bumper. We'll probably get a bit better of an idea when we go check out the wrecker's.
Sadly, I have uni tomorrow and that's all day. Don't want to risk driving this all the way down there so that means 6:30am bus for me!
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You got lucky.
And to be honest. They were a bit dumb. If you ever get hit and don't care about the damage. Get their details anyway. There might be a problem that won't show itself for a day or two.
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My dad goes to the library and pulls up the workshop manuals from there if they're available. But then he is a former mechanic so I don't know how readable they would be for you.
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I understand what you mean Viv, but something I failed to mention was that my brother isn't the biological father. He's a guy who married my nephew's mum and has been absent since day one. He berates him constantly for not getting him ice for his drinks, he smashed his Xbox against a wall because my nephew didn't turn it off by accident, he makes him crawl under the table to get to his seat for dinner, and calls him everything from "gay" to "retard" every chance he gets.
And we had no idea about any of this until my nephew told us. And before that he thought we knew and approved of my brother's actions. My parents and I constantly reassure and have been slowly building up his self-confidence by shielding him the past few years and taking him home every day after school, tutoring him, feeding him, offering a place to stay, especially after finding out, but he thought we accepted my brother and were okay with all the shit he's pulled.
I had a talk with him afterwards about why we don't approve and why I personally hate my brother, and he told me in-turn he only asked because he's been witness to screaming matches my brother instigates with the rest of the family. He was confused, and my initial reaction wasn't the best response, and he was happy I later cleared it up with him.
He made it very clear he just hates my brother, he's hated him ever since my brother forced him to play games to up his own gamerscore, and because he knows none of the family likes him he feels more confident to come to us about problems and issues. He admitted he never told any of us about this abuse because he was scared we liked his step-dad and wouldn't listen.
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The thing that still surprises me, in the best way possible, is that he is the most social kid amongst those his age. He sings for friends for fun, he even asked me to print out T-Pain lyrics to sing to girls on one occasion, he plays games with his friends all of the time and goes over to their houses whenever he can, he has a whole list of email addresses from his class mates for when he goes back to Thailand, and he's found a lot of comfort with other kids playing Minecraft on Xbox Live.
It's heartwarming to know that despite his introversion regarding adults and his shitty home life, he hasn't let that stop him from living the life of a regular 10 year old.
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Gatsby I hate your brother
+1
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yeah your brother sucks
in other news
our rental application got approved, so hooray for our final 12 months of renting before we start thinking of buying a house
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brohug for also having a shitty brother. I think yours sounds worse than mine, though.
Even my nephew hates him. He once asked me on one of our walks "does your whole family hate my dad?"
"....Yes."
"I hate him, too."
I watch every couple of months. It's an amazing insight into beauty. And for me I stop wanting to call her disabled. Because its really hard to see her as having any disadvantage.
Satans..... hints.....
The best bit was how her friend thought it was unfair that she could change her height. Jealous of her prosthetics.
I seriously cannot name a single family member who would spend any amount of time with him.
He bought a widescreen HDTV for his new place. He hasn't even started looking for a new home. He's just left this tv still in the box in our dining room.
man I ain't know your family well at all
but telling a kid that the whole family hates his dad is kind of a dick move, even if it's true
end of the day something in that 10-year-old brain is reminding him that he is as much a product of his father as he is his mother
and that if his father is reviled by family, who are meant to love each other where others don't, eh
I cannot help but wonder what message that is sending to him
He's the one that asked the question; he's probably picking up on the way the rest of the family is behaving towards his dad.
I mean I know she's an olympic record breaker and everything
but I am blown away at how comfortably she can walk in heels without moving her ankles
Need some stuff designed or printed? I can help with that.
Need some stuff designed or printed? I can help with that.
And again! It's amazing that we are having this discussion of, what are your favourite prosthetics.
Because twenty years ago we'd be so busy discussing how sorry we are for her.
Like it is probably my favourite Ted talk.
Because it completely changes your view on the subject.
Satans..... hints.....
it is
terrible
Need some stuff designed or printed? I can help with that.
yeah
but that doesn't mean that shit doesn't hurt him to hear
just because you know something or have noticed something doesn't mean you want to be true
he's ten
kids want to love their parents at that age
for all anyone knows he says he hates his dad because he's his dad and that means he's now gonna be hated by the family, too
Hate is a very personal thing and if it's not handled reasonably and maturely it just becomes a horrible mess, like we see everywhere every day.
Of course, I'm definitely not meaning to imply anything about your particular situation, Gatsby. Everyone's circumstances are different and there are no set rules.
Also, I hope you're both ok. Close family moving away suuuuuuucks.
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particularly when he is leaving the family that he DOES have for somewhere more isolated from familiar faces
look Jules I ain't saying you did the wrong thing; like I said, I don't know your family and I could very well be projecting some shit
I'm just saying that ten year-olds have more (misguided, due to the immaturity) insight than we give them credit for, and tend to blame themselves for the shit going on around them more than we think they do
a kid can understand blame for something obvious, like breaking a vase
but the intangible, abstract, emotional stuff? they are as egocentric as they come
It *seems* kinda minor, just superficial damage. One side of the front bumper has popped off a bit, the headlights and indicators have been knocked off their mooring (the plastic bits that are bolted to the metal of the car have snapped)- they still work and are all connected still though- and the bonnet is a teeny bit bent so it sticks up a little. Dad hasn't seen it yet, but from what I described to him over the phone he thinks it shouldn't be too terrible to fix up. A trick to the wreckers to get some replacement bits and then we might be able to fix it ourselves, I guess.
Still, really not something I needed right now -_-
something similar almost happened to me; wanted to shift into right lane, checked blind spot, made move, car in front of me had braked hard and had decided to turn right all of a sudden
I didn't have to brake hard or anything because I was a fair distance behind him, but yeah, still a bit scary
uggghhhh I hope this is going to be affordable to fix because this car cost me $900 and I only have third party insurance. Fingers crossed we can get some bits from a wrecker for not too much and be able to fix the rest up ourselves. Not so sure about the bonnet, but it seems kinda superficial so maybe I can just leave it be (or maybe there's just something blocking it and thus causing it to stick up a bit).
I don't know how the jackasses who cut across 2 lanes with 1 car length's worth of space do it
When a guy bumped into the back of my car, putting a 2 inch crack into the bumper, I got quoted that it would cost $900 to replace, fit and paint. Plastic can't really be welded back together so it needed a whole replacement bumper, and the part wasnt that common even though it's only a 10 year old mazda.
Hopefully the bonnet wont be an issue either. It's only about my thumb's height sticking up so it looks pretty minor.
Is the guy you hit wanting you to pay for any damages?
When you say you have third party
do you have comprehensive third party or compulsory third party?
because if you only have the third party you pay as part of your registration that doesn't cover damages to their car, only medical expenses.
Need some stuff designed or printed? I can help with that.
Also I just spent two days troubleshooting a stupid UDK bug and now I've fixed it, and it is not fulfilling at all
Nah they didn't want anything actually. Looked at their car, looked at mine, shrugged and said it was only a scratch to theirs so they didn't care, but asked if I was gonna be able to drive mine. Didn't even want my contact details.
I have comprehensive.
Sadly, I have uni tomorrow and that's all day. Don't want to risk driving this all the way down there so that means 6:30am bus for me!
And to be honest. They were a bit dumb. If you ever get hit and don't care about the damage. Get their details anyway. There might be a problem that won't show itself for a day or two.
Satans..... hints.....
Pretty much.
Satans..... hints.....
Need some stuff designed or printed? I can help with that.
And we had no idea about any of this until my nephew told us. And before that he thought we knew and approved of my brother's actions. My parents and I constantly reassure and have been slowly building up his self-confidence by shielding him the past few years and taking him home every day after school, tutoring him, feeding him, offering a place to stay, especially after finding out, but he thought we accepted my brother and were okay with all the shit he's pulled.
I had a talk with him afterwards about why we don't approve and why I personally hate my brother, and he told me in-turn he only asked because he's been witness to screaming matches my brother instigates with the rest of the family. He was confused, and my initial reaction wasn't the best response, and he was happy I later cleared it up with him.
He made it very clear he just hates my brother, he's hated him ever since my brother forced him to play games to up his own gamerscore, and because he knows none of the family likes him he feels more confident to come to us about problems and issues. He admitted he never told any of us about this abuse because he was scared we liked his step-dad and wouldn't listen.
It's heartwarming to know that despite his introversion regarding adults and his shitty home life, he hasn't let that stop him from living the life of a regular 10 year old.
in other news
our rental application got approved, so hooray for our final 12 months of renting before we start thinking of buying a house