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I Just Don't Know What to Do With Myself
Akilae729
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So I'm 19, a retarded sentimental teenager and I just broke up with my first serious girlfriend. The first girl that I actually cared about, on more than just a superficial level.
And I don't even know why I'm really making a thread, cause its not like i can get advice, there is no going back but I wasnt even planning on doing this today. I was just toying with the idea in my mind, and when she asked me what was wrong it just came out. It was even stupider, becuase we were in a long distance relationship between coasts.
But honestly, I'm deathly afraid that I made a brash decision on ground of being ninteen and wanting to 'see the world' so to speak. I'm deathly afraid that I'm going to end up like silent bob in chasing amy. I'm going to end up chasing this girl for the rest of my life. But then again, i'm only 19 and I dont know shit. I'd be nice if i could just be like fuck you and leave. But shit is really painful for myself.
Sorry, my life is like a bad eighties movie right now and i really dont know what to do with myself.
Maybe i'll just grab some 40z and watch the departed
then listen to some sad music and regrtet my desicion for years
And I don't even know why I'm really making a thread, cause its not like i can get advice, there is no going back but I wasnt even planning on doing this today. I was just toying with the idea in my mind, and when she asked me what was wrong it just came out. It was even stupider, becuase we were in a long distance relationship between coasts.
But honestly, I'm deathly afraid that I made a brash decision on ground of being ninteen and wanting to 'see the world' so to speak. I'm deathly afraid that I'm going to end up like silent bob in chasing amy. I'm going to end up chasing this girl for the rest of my life. But then again, i'm only 19 and I dont know shit. I'd be nice if i could just be like fuck you and leave. But shit is really painful for myself.
Sorry, my life is like a bad eighties movie right now and i really dont know what to do with myself.
Maybe i'll just grab some 40z and watch the departed
then listen to some sad music and regrtet my desicion for years
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Two, in your situation I would, regardless of frame of mind, gather up some friends and do something, admittedly probably involving alcohol. It is important to be around friends when sad as they will improve your mood and distract you.
Three, yes. You're 19. You have lots of time.
Four, most romantic relationships, especially long distance ones, fail. It's a part of life. That's why it's so incredibly rare for people to actually stay with their high school sweethearts and what not. You've got to keep looking, keep dating, and keep figuring out what it is you're looking for.
Five, yeah. Your post might not have been entirely necessary but at least you didn't go make a MySpace with Linkin Park blaring in the background and a picture of you cutting yourself while wearing your sister's jeans. You didn't, did you?
Its just weird, its been a half hour, and I already want her back
fuck being a teenager
If you were in front of me right now I would probably slap you and say, "snap the hell out of it dude!"
Seriously.
You're nineteen. You got out of a long term relationship. There is no reason whatsoever to feel pathetic about yourself. Feel bad, fine, it was your first serious relationship and understandably you might feel a little devastated. But comparing your life to a bad 80s movie? Come on.
At your age, life is just starting for you. If you have a positive attitude about it, a lot of great things will happen to you and you will enjoy it a lot. If you have a negative attitude, you're right, it will suck and you will end up like silent bob. So make your choice... for it is a choice.
For the time being, find something you're good at doing. Fix something. Move your room around and clean it. Delete your current songs, download new ones. Hell, change your desktop background even. Hang out with your friends (ones that are single). Make plans about the future, be it on education or work.
Do not allow yourself to brood dude. Every time you feel depressed, demonstrate some willpower and force yourself to think about things you have going for yourself in life.
P.S. Don't drink. Not only will it make you feel worse, chance are you'll probably do something stupid. Don't be a fool.
Yes, at first, you'll be thinking "Shit, what have I done?", but really, you're young, and there's a lot more people out there, many of them living perhaps on your side of the country.
Go to a college party or hang out with some friends or something, you'll be fine in no time.
It'll hurt like hell for a while. Then you'll see a chick at the coffee shop or whatever and suddenly it'll all feel better.
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freaked out a bit
and i guess we are gonna talk later
but as the day goes on, I dont really think im going to change my mind.
Maybe it was just that my friends cant kick it till 4 and I'm not doing shit right now that is making me mope around
and she changed our facebook status
and of course, facebook is a huuuuuge deal /sarcasm
Where could you go from here? Anywhere. That's what gets me through the day. Any-fucking-where. Yeah, this also includes the shitter side of life, but you do all you can NOT to be there. There literally millions roads people have already paved, and no matter what people say to you, you can't take those roads. You have to make your own.
Moral of the rambling is this: You can't rely on anyone but yourself. On a base level, you can't. Impossible. Feel sad, it's good for you, just make sure you turn that sadness into something positive. Who knows, maybe you'll share these hard times with your future wife, or great friend and laugh. And get something viable out of it.
(By the way, if one of her serious priorities is to change her status on FaceBook...then, well, you know what I mean.)
but pretty much if this girl isn't so awesome that you wouldn't have to second guess dumping her because of long distance shenanigans than you're probably making the right call. you'll both open up more experiences for yourselves -- the key is recognizing that you're 19 and its not the end of the world which you have already done, congratulations.
You're 19, and if it's a coast to coast distance thing, that's a 4 hour difference. Now ask yourself, is it worth it to be with her when things are going ot be hard and confusing, or would you rather nerd out on tv and videogames for a couple days and just get over it?
You'll find someone else, we all do, so don't worry too much. Yeah, it's normal to regret it, but trust me, after a few weeks you won't.
So in other words, because you are a teenager, when you should feel good about something, you instead feel bad. The better you should feel, the worse you actually feel.
Or something.
You're right though - there's a chance you'll be chasing amy for years, but at 19, it's MUCH more likely you'll discover true love further down the line. The kind of love that makes you realize that everything up till then was just practice.
i called her yesterday and we met up in the evening, and we're together but on different terms considering our long distance situation.
Basically terms so that if something happens, something happens
its all good