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satdallas
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Hi guys. I am a 27 yr old single male. I moved in with a girl 34 yrs single. Both of share this home with seperate bedrooms. I can't read this girls mind. She one starts to watch gigalos series on tv with me. We both were seeing the gigalos having sex on tv. Suddenly she went into the room and took her laptop and told me that she is going to search for gigalos in the city. I that moment i was dumbstuck and i didnt reply to her. After few weeks she started to bring guys to home. I have seen already 3 guys in 3 consecutive days. For me i don't know how to handle this situation. I am kind of frustated seeing strangers coming. Dont know what decision to make.
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Did you know this woman before you moved in with her? Are you interested in her sexually or romantically? These could all be factors.
Also where are you at? Is prostitution particularly illegal in your area?
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The best indicator that she doesn't want to have sex with you is that she's not having sex with you.
I'd suggest moving out at your earliest convenience
So is your main worry that she is bringing dudes home that may or may not be sketchy, or that you are not sleeping with her yourself?
1. No, until and unless she's indicated that she's interested in you.
2 or 3. Nothing, she's an adult and can do what she wants.
As well if she is hot (like you say she is) why would she need to pay a gigolo, she probably is just hooking up with dudes off of PoF or Okcupid.
She's not interested in you. The issue here is that you're not mature enough to live with a "hot" girl because you're not able to see an attractive women as anything more than something that by all rights should be having sex with you.
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Secondly there are only three possibilities that actually impact you. The first is that there are unacceptable noise levels happening often during week nights, the second is she's been in her bedroom due to a week long sex marathon and she hasn't taken out the garbage even though its clearly her turn and the last is you lack the emotional maturity to handle the idea of her having sex. The last is not fair on her and you should work to fix it.
Finally what if the situation was reversed and were on a hot streak bringing home ladies every night. How would you like it if she said you weren't allowed to?
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I too would be perfectly fine with people bringing prostitutes into my home. What, after all, could go wrong?
Who said anything about prostitutes except the incredibly goosey OP who obviously is lacking in the "having a clue" department. I'm going to lay this out for you, it is much more incredibly easy for girls to go out to a bar and take someone home then it is for a guy.
His roommate is just going out and bringing home one night stands. Unless she's 300+ pounds and has a face like George Foreman, she's not going to have much trouble getting laid. Facts of life.
Wrong.
As long as she isn't leaving the house to go to work and telling them, treat it like your house and do whatever, it is again. None of the guy's business.
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Again, unless this is about her having sex and is somehow related to her perceived hotness, in which case you're weird and kind of scary.
Or you know, if the sex is so loud that you physically can't sleep, in which case you should still buy headphones before you talk to her.
I'm seconding the move out when you can advice.
Also I don't think she watched a show about male prostitutes and went out and hired a bunch of them. If anything she online dates.
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I'd just ask her to go somewhere else if it makes you uncomfortable.
My roommate last year kept bringing over increasingly gross girls that would eat my shit and use my stuff. It got old. Turns out one of them was a hooker and he was her pimp or something. She was doing blow in his room and everything. Bad situation.
If it's just her having sex, or even worse just that it's not with him. Well, too bad, so sad, get over it.
If they are actually being a problem or disruptive in ways that were not specified, there may be things to discuss with her that are legitimate.
No, the problem is pretty clear. She watched a movie with him and somehow that means he's entitled to sex with her. Now he's angry because he has to "see strangers coming"
That's what he's worried about because that's what he's posted. Not "my roommate fucks people and then they stink up the place" or "my roommate brings people home who steal my stuff." Nope, he's specifically worried about her having sex with people who aren't him, and any additional problems he might have are going to be incidentals that help us have more sympathy for him.
But if it's because of all the strange people coming over, I can understand that especially if it's a different guy.
She knows them just as well as my roommate did inviting random internet people over all the time. I felt like I had to be at my place all the time to protect my things. "Lock your door" it was well known the doors were easy to unlock with a card or something. "Tell your comlex" did, multiple times, they did nothing.
I read the problem as the OP had issue with all of the callers that were coming over, because that can be kind of intimidating because they're essentially a stranger to both him and his roommate. Let her have sex all she wants, but there's a point where the influx of random people coming in and out is enough.
You obviously never met me then.
I am not getting the "she should have sex with me" vibe nearly as strongly as all of you are; there is only where he says he "cannot read her mind," which seems like he may have thought there may be some attraction or possibility of sex there.
In any case depending on past behavior and how well he knows his roommate, I can understand feeling some degree of shock when she suddenly out of the blue announces her intention to start soliciting prostitutes and then brings prostitutes back to the house, assuming they actually are man-whores, constantly. OP doesn't say where he lives or whether prostitution is even legal there. If the roommate is engaging in illegal activities there that is something I can also understand causing some degree of consternation, although even if prostitution is illegal wherever the OP lives I hardly think there's much chance he's going to get raided by the police or whatever.
I can only assume you missed his second post:
Part of my post about prostitution stands though. As does my suspicion that there is a bit of a language/communication factor here - which is greater with a sample size of two posts to examine rather than just one.
There are really two separate issues here:
1. "Does this girl want to bone me?" The answer pretty clearly seems to be "No" and I agree with the consensus here that he should just deal.
2. "This girl is bringing random dudes/prostitutes home all the time." This is strictly speaking unrelated to the first issue, except insofar as the OP's unrequited lust for his roommate is making him more upset about it. Anyway there are too many things unclear about this, chiefly: Is he sure these dudes are prostitutes? If so, why is he so certain? And, is prostitution legal where he lives? Also, whether or not they are prostitutes, are they doing anything bothersome aside from sleeping with his roommate when he isn't?
If they potentially are 'pros,' the legality of that can actually be a very big deal. The minor criminal proclivities of a cohabitant can have pretty serious implications if you're employed or are seeking employment in a position of public trust.
I'm, um, guessing that the OP isn't an aspiring FBI special agent, however.
Okay, when a woman pays for sex, and just trust me here, sometimes they do, but when a woman pays for sex its because of trust.
Because, sometimes when you want someone to choke you almost to the point of unconsciousness or to shit on you and call you a whore, you tend to want someone you can trust to do that. And more importantly, you want them to leave after they're done and not sit around being a dopey idiot like some people do after sex.
That being said, there is no way on earth she's paying a steady stream of guys to come in and fuck her, and especially not when she can get the same thing for free.
Before all this happened, she was watching the gigalos program on tv with me on the week i moved in. On that day she was so horny i guess when i was working on other stuff she took her laptop and said to me that "i am going to find out some gigalos here in the city". To be honest with you guys i dont how to react to that. I didn't reply to her.Is that sign she wants to get fucked with me? But she dropped the laptop to the floor after a minute and started watching the show. Other thing is whenever i go out in the night she asks me where you went? each freaking time. dudes i don't what she wants. With all that being going on for a month. I had seen 3 guys starting on thursday, saturday, sunday. Usually girls go to a man's place after a date, but don't why she is bringing them to her room where you have a guy staying and it is not that private. Hope this explain my situation
Okay, well I guess this is worth asking, but what country do you live in?