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Bullying
Bedigunz
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So I caught this story on CNN:
Bullied Canadian Teen's Story
Needless to say, I was pretty bummed out. So this thread is to talk about bullying we have seen, how bullying has affected us, and even stories of us bullying others.
I bullied someone once in middle school. I think I do so because I was bullied so it was different to be the bully. I realized how shitty it felt and apologized to the guy in high school and he was cool with it. Ever since, whenever I see someone being shitty I call them out because I goddamn hate bullies.
Bullied Canadian Teen's Story
Needless to say, I was pretty bummed out. So this thread is to talk about bullying we have seen, how bullying has affected us, and even stories of us bullying others.
I bullied someone once in middle school. I think I do so because I was bullied so it was different to be the bully. I realized how shitty it felt and apologized to the guy in high school and he was cool with it. Ever since, whenever I see someone being shitty I call them out because I goddamn hate bullies.
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but kids being driven to suicide and the persistent horrible way this stuff seems to manifest itself nowadays makes me think maybe kids are dealing with an entirely different permutation of harassment then we did as kids
and that sux
I do not understand how this dude who is older than me and has kids thinks he's demonstrating acceptable behavior.
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They clamped down pretty hard on bullying after that.
i would never accept being a dick to someone because of gender/orientation/any legitimate aspect of their lives. but i remember once a girl wore a super graphic anti-abortion t-shirt to high school and i made her cry, and i wonder, is that really just as bad as making fun of a gay kid
or hypothetically if someone is an absolute creepazoid, is that really as bad? i reckon the problem is that evaluating whether someone is a creep or not can't be objective and therefore will never be a good metric for whether or not it's okay to bully someone
i dunno i just feel like social pressure manifests itself in different ways and that's not always inherently bad
Nobody is perfect, but we all deserve to be treated equally.
Some people I work with are bullied and people will talk shit about them behind their backs and that really pisses me off. I'll defend them and I try to be nice to them even if they're goddamned annoying. Nobody wants to be the friendless weirdo that everyone dislikes.
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the bullies have bumped into me years later and been like 'oh i want to say how sorry i am for treating you like shit'
fuck them they aint getting my forgiveness for making my life misery (first day of school i was handcuffed to the bus seat and given a bloody nose just because i was 'the new kid' and it only got worse from there; spat on, called names, shit stolen every single day)
So glad there was no internet while I was in school.
That is really my only bully story.
Although I guess how my roommates/friends treated me last year might count as bullying idk.
The worst part of being bullied is that it sends you into a negative spiral. You're bullied so you don't socialize much. You don't socialize so you're an easy target for bullying. Etc etc. It's really hard to break out of that pattern - and even if you do, people who don't know you that well (i.e. your bullies) might keep acting the same way towards you for years onwards.
Now a days, occasionally when I talk to someone about bullying they go "why would anyone bully you? You're not weird at all," which I hate.
Pretty much this.
Life's really just way too short to spend time holding grudges.
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I still have awful self-esteem which I'm sure is tied to all the torment I endured, but I can't go back and change it. Just need to learn how to deal with it now.
Unfortunately I work in an environment where bullying is pretty commonplace and if I wast considered a favorite I'd get a lot more shit than I have already. Though in the 3 years I've worked there I've been made fun of for my mental illnesses, acne, and whatever else. As an adult it's hard to deal with I think because you assume at this age everyone has grown out of that kind of behavior.
I asked my dad for advice, and he said, "You gotta stand up to 'em! Tell those big kids they're assholes and they can kiss your ass."
The next day I was dangled off the playground by my ankles and got in trouble for swearing (the bullies got in trouble too)
In retrospect my dad was probably high as balls when he told me to do that, and had forgotten I was a very literal-minded child.
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It can be hard to let go. My life got waaaaaay better after I moved away and reinvented myself, but even now when I witness someone being willfully ignorant of their bullying or blaming the victim, it brings those memories up and I get pissed off all over again. Heck, there was a children's film out a few years ago where the main character, a young girl, was bullied and I basically had a nervous breakdown just watching it. Straight up shellshock. Hands shaking, uncontrolable crying, that kind of thing. Shit hit me hard.
I don't hold any grudges against the people who bullied me, and I actually think my life is kind of awesome at the moment, but it's not easy to let those experiences go.
Getting pissed at bullying isn't the problem. The problem is holding on to that resentment against the specific people who bullied you. It is by no means easy to let go of, but it's part of growing past it.
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Somehow I didn't get bullied much in High School. I guess I just kept to myself unless I was hanging out with the drama kids, and they were cool.
oh yeah. Formative experiences are formative. If a couple decades down the road, the largest consequences of you being bullied are that you don't allow bullying to go on around you and you are more tolerant of others, all while not holding grudges, that shows greater strength of character than hating the people who were awful to you, s'all I'm saying.
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First I tried just keeping my head down to avoid confrontation but that just seemed to increase the frequency and ferocity of the attacks. Next I began to the combat the bullying with humor which worked a little better and won me some sympathy and some friends but the worse bullies just tried all the harder to get a rise out of me.
I'm pretty sure some of them took my gentle nature and aversion to sports as some sign that I was gay because I got called faggot more than anything else. Teachers never did shit because I never spoke-up to the authorities because to me this was all normal behavior and maybe it was my fault for being different.
What saved me was that by high school I was the second-tallest kid in town and pretty heavy to boot. That meant that when I finally couldn't take it anymore and physically struck-back at some of my bullies I fucking leveled them. It didn't take long before they let me go. I changed to a much-better school for junior and senior year and did much better.
At least in my day the bullying stopped when I got home from school. Now with Facebook and shit out there I don't know if I would have made a serious attempt on my life or not. I was pretty low for a long time but I just kinda toughed it out for my family's sake.
Being small got me beaten up a lot through middle school. I was somewhat popular, albeit a little weird until about sophomore year. Then I became popular all of a sudden, but still would put a stop to bullying when I could.
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oh yeah, that shit absolutely blows.
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but nothing crazy, i went to small private school from 3rd grade - 8th grade so there weren't even enough people for there to really be groups of people to pick on people, it was just like 1 or 2 douche kids who were bullying me
oh
but i forgot
in like 1st grade i used to go to this afterschool program at the JCC or something cuz both my parents worked, and we'd take a car or something from there to the JCC, and it was with one other kid who was bigger than me
who would apparently like bully the shit out of me and was violent
my parents found out apparently because i was like trying to take toys with me because the kid was bullying me and like, give me toys or i'll hurt you more (and i didn't tell my parents)
fuckin
kids
no HS bullying really, i dunno, again went to small private school for hs with like 100 ppl a grade, i don't know if bullying was ever much of a problem there, at least not like on tv
It's all in fun. Those incidents were several lifetimes ago to me now so I no-longer feel pain or anger about it. It's more of a general disappointment in how people can be as kids.
If someone were to apologize to me I would accept it.
That means that if someone was bullied they were basically bullied by their entire grade. There was one kid who got teased everyday in middle school, a lot of it from me. I was in a weird situation where I was both one of his best friends and his bullies. Luckily almost everyone grew up in high school and realized how terrible they were being and although he never became popular he at least got less shit.
There was one day when it hit me like a load of bricks: this guy does not deserve the awful way I treat him. From that point on I made an actual effort to be a good friend to him and I still hang out with him every now and then, but I feel terrible every time I think back on middle school.
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