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Better. I'd definately write it. Any undue grief will surely be soothed by him appreciating the gesture and the kind thoughts towards him and his family.
I really don't think there is any statute of limitations on a really thoughtful gesture.
If you really feel self-conscious, just mention that you only recently heard the bad news. Every bit of support helps during though times, no matter the source.
Write it. Someone close to me lost their son nearly 15 years ago and they still grieve. The loss of a child (or anyone close to you) is something that will be with you forever and I sincerely doubt that in three weeks he's already back to normal. It will be comforting for him to know there are others there who share in his pain and are there to support him.
It's never too late to extend your condolences and let someone know you care. Sure, it may stir some tthings up, but in the end it will only make him stronger by both continually confronting his own feelings on the matter as well as knowing that people, even short (relatively) time students, are there for him. I know if I lost a relative, regardless of circumstance, every little bit of support would brighten my day and help me keep going forward.
Write it, for sure. Anyone who's lost someone close to them knows that every letter of support is very helpful, even more so if you share your memories of the stories and pictures. He will be moved by it, and will appreciate it none the less. When we're grieving we don't just reach a point where everything is a-okay unless someone mentions the person who died. For a long time everything reminds us of them. Sending a letter will do only good things for your former teacher.
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Write. He will be glad that you remembered his son and cared enough to write. It's so hard to lose someone . . . and then after a short period of time everyone expects you to be "over it" and never mention that person again.
I'm sure nothing you do will make the pain he's feeling any worse. You condolences can only make him feel better, however slightly...
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Writing condolences for the lost of a loved one isn't too late if it's just weeks - hell, even months. You think about that for years without a day going by that you don't think of them. I guarantee you it's still on his mind.
Yeah, write. A few weeks is nothing when it comes to the loss of a family member. You won't be stirring anything up, and every strand of support will help.
The fact that people care always makes you feel better. When my grandma died, I was working in a place away from home with a bunch of people some of whom I saw on a yearly basis and some of whom I'd know for about a week and a half at that point. The word spread pretty fast at my own request, and everyone was so supportive and kind about it that even the cliches in the end started to help just because you know someone's there.
It's not like you missed a birthday. What your teacher is going through is a life-long thing, as mentioned above. He definitely hasn't gotten over it in just 3 weeks, but by writing and showing how you remember him and his son could very well help show him that his son lives on in people's memories. So yeah, I'd say write the letter.
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If you really feel self-conscious, just mention that you only recently heard the bad news. Every bit of support helps during though times, no matter the source.
So yeah, write the letter. Let him know.
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