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Sikarian
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My girlfriend of 3 years and I broke up a bit ago, and I'm still having troubles moving on. I'm leaving town (I can't get my mind off her living here), and moving back home with my family...my biggest concern right now would be dating again. I don't think I could date again right now, I'm waaayy too heartbroken, but how best to get back into the dating scene?
She was my first girlfriend ever, and we met online and moved in together later, so I havn't had any experience doing that whole "hey, I'll call you?" dating style.
Also, I seem to have this fear that the entire dating pool is filthy and covered in STDs and dirty girls, so I'm afraid to go out and try to find someone new.
Any advice, anyone?
She was my first girlfriend ever, and we met online and moved in together later, so I havn't had any experience doing that whole "hey, I'll call you?" dating style.
Also, I seem to have this fear that the entire dating pool is filthy and covered in STDs and dirty girls, so I'm afraid to go out and try to find someone new.
Any advice, anyone?
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Is the dating pool as contaminated as my mind thinks though? Everyone always says to wear condoms all the time because of how bad it is out there...I guess I missed that whole aspect of living during my highschool and post highschool years
It's not that it's so bad, it's just that if you're going to be diving into one night stands you don't know how bad it will be. It's a precaution, but it's not like your dick will melt if you meet a new girl and date her for a while and then have sex. If you do meet some girl and have sex with her without knowing a thing about her though, it could be trouble because you know nothing about her.
Ah I don't plan on going out laying anything that moves, if anything at all for quite some time (as recommended in this very thread,
Heh, is there a certain etiquette? 8th date, "So, do you have herpes?"
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oh and if you live with your parents you are unattractive to the opposite sex. about as unattractive as it gets.
good luck ;-)
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However, the dating scene isn't necessarily rife with STDs, but the chance is sufficient to screw up your life for a considerable time. In addition to that, there's the possibility that if you don't wear a prophylactic that your partner will fall pregnant. And getting roped to someone for the rest of your life by a child is another good way to screw up your life. You can't know what kind of contraception if any random girl number 5 uses, and that's not a risk you wish to take.
I shall be living at the fire station, being a firefighter and doing firefighting things, such as rescuing people, saving buildings, etc
did you look up how to spell prophylactic? if not, I am impressed.
yeh chicks dig firehumans so ive heard.
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Don't jump right into some expectations regarding having sex with girls and stuff, I don't reccomend speed dating, girls in that loop are probably the kind you really want to avoid.
Try making friends first, friends introduce you to their other friends, and that's where you're going to meet girls. Basic steps are easy, get numbers, wait a few days, calls and dinner dates, casual dating. It's not that hard and once it happens once--you'll be surprised as to how easy it really is.
I'd say if you're still having trouble getting over it, don't even think about dating yet. You shouldn't date someone until you're ready, otherwise you might be (consciously or nay) using that person to get past your ex.
As for meaningless sex...I'd advise against this in all but the most extraordinary situations.
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And no, it's not as bad as you think, not every woman out there is "as crudded up as that monkey from Outbreak" but that doesn't mean you shouldn't be careful when the time comes. And as for them volunteering the information, they may not know. A good number of people (in fact I believe 1 in 10 or less) carry Herpes and are completely unaware. Similar with chlymidia.
(I had a UTI once, turns out it was brought on by stress but I got paranoid as I thought it was an STD so I did a LOT of research on STDs, and whilst unpleasant, herpes isn't a life alterer, it's just coldsores on a less than desirable place. For the vast majority of people that get it there are no symptoms. Those with symptoms rarely experience it again. I only mention it as people often bring up that one)
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Here's the best advice I can give you because I'm in a similar situation and I was kind of down for a while: It's not a race.
If you can remember that you'll be ok.
And if you get with a chick and you're not exclusivly dating her, make sure you wear a rubber. I'm of the mind that you should ALWAYS wear one, but if you get in a relationship with a girl it's your business, but always wear one when you're having a casual hookup.
Are you a masochist?
Seriously, this is not good advice
You left out some important parts. It's transmissible even when there are no obvious symptoms. If you ever become immunologically suppressed from disease or other medical treatments (such as for any cancer) it can become fatally systemic and kill you. If you're pregnant and about to give birth, you need to suppress it with drugs before the birth or else it will spread to your child, go systemic, and kill it. This means that your future sex partners must always be made aware of the fact that you have it and why they need to care that they could get it.
Wear the rubber every time. If you see active sores, do not touch them with any part of you. Active sores = no sex. No sores = sex with a condom is probably okay. The most popular way to check inconspicuously? Go down on her, look before you leap.
Meaningless sex can spring forth from a variety of sources. And a good deal of those would be very bad choices. STDs have already been mentioned.
Besides which, I really doubt it's going to help this guy get over anyone.
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as for moving on/finding new tail - put yourself out there but be sure to have other things in your life going on. the firefighter thing sounds great; it'll take up a great deal of your time/energy and it's a noble career (that pays well, if I'm not mistaken). not that I'm accusing you of doing this, but due to the inconsistent nature of meeting new women that are not strippers, it's always best to have plenty of other important distractions. sounds like you're on a great path!