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if he lives he becomes king of the jungle.
if he dies ill blame simba.
Because throwing away an entire person's income is a hell of a lot of money?
everything the light touches
I don't mean to belittle or insult, and if you feel you're suffering from depression, you should seek some professional help, because they can help and all...
...but the bolded there? That's pretty fucking normal, dawg. Most people don't "accomplish" anything, and almost nobody "accomplishes" anywhere near as much as they thought they would. Coming out of High School, high on youth and hormones, we feel like fucking superstars, special snowflakes, everyone telling us how we're gonna change the world. It's all bullshit, man. Most people don't have the means to do much more than get by, and you know what? That's A-OK.
It's not about regretting the things you didn't accomplish, it's about focusing on the things you did. I put myself through college; sure my degree is worthless and never got me a job, but I got self-sufficient. I worked to pay my rent and bills. I met a girl, got married. My kids are awesome. Am I the superstar video game programmer I thought one day I'd be? Hell no; my job kinda blows most of the time. But at the end of the day, I still stand on my own two feet, and I take care of the shit that needs taking care of. And that's a pretty fucking big deal, when you really think about it.
*dramatic music*
monkey proceeds to bash babby against the rock
NO MONKEY NOOOOO
THIS IS NOT HOW IT WAS SUPPOSED TO GO.
My parents let my sister function on her own when she was 10. That's when she started middle school. They took me out of daycare when I was 8, with the understanding that my then-12 year old sister would make sure I didn't set the house on fire. The only times they needed to take out of work was doctors visits (then they'd do a half day), maybe one or two times when my sister was REALLY sick (they never did for me because I never had anything more than a bit of a stomach ache), and they came home pissed off when I got suspended in high school. Children are resilient, you don't need to be there all the time.
I do my favourite computer activity: open and close video games and movies repeatedly
maybe playing or watching one for a couple minutes then going "naaaah...."
a victory is finding something that manages to distract me. Which is a very pyrrhic victory most of the time.
what?! this is terrible!
Sounds like we have a feel bad among us.
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"where do you get off feeling sorry about yourself, do you know how much worse off I was at your age? you got a roof over your head and food on the table (as if the rent checks bear her signature or something, because I pay it)"
and logically its impossible to argue with that, me from 5 years ago would have told now me that he was an asshole for being upset about anything because that guy was living on charity in someone's basement
At least you got to keep the badge.
Yeah, definitely by "playing video games" I mean half-assedly attempting to find something entertaining to do and being too apathetic for it to work.
The benefits are longterm. All things being equal, it seems to be better for kids if one parent stays at home to raise them through to high school at least.
Doing things only because you need to is not the optimal mode for childrearing.
Ah, the old shame them out of their depression tactic.
Don't do it!
you are now a figurehead mod only
all your true power has been taken from you
for Icey giveth and Icey taketh away
he is a fickle e-god
Seriously, Indiana is the South of the Midwest.
no I'm saying the benefits look very small to me
I mean, for most of the time the one parent is just sitting at home being on call, the child isn't even there!
and if neither parent earns enough to carry the family on their own?
But it's in Indianapolis! And it's with a University.
It was just my example; some people wouldn't consider them accomplishments at all. What have you accomplished? Probably more than you think!
People complain about the Holocaust all the time, but the REAL crime of WW2 was when Hitler took geth access away from the French.
The jocks wished they were smarter instead of always getting the girls, sometimes, the smarties wished they could get the girl instead of always being smart.
You will always not accomplish something and feel like you're not living up to your potential. That's what makes you human.
That's always what makes you so god damned amazing. You stretch just a little bit more out of your comfort zone, hey, I got a girlfriend now! I'm 25 but hey, she loves me, I love her. Then, oh hey D&D guys, we should go on a road trip. Oh hey, you know what I'd like to do? Get my pilots license.
Just don't let the notion that you didn't accomplish everything you should have stop you from continuing. That's the hardest part, not being defeatist about yourself.
Largest thing that I overcame as a teenager was giving a fuck what other people thought. It was aces after that. Junior and senior year of high school was fucking fun as shit. College was scary, but, hey, I just overcame my insecurities, let's keep going.
I did drop out of college because I couldn't play Counter-Strike though. That pissed me off. Pfah, do academics with the internet? Not likely!
Like not huge amounts of torrenting, or camping outside a house with your laptop but just temporary normal usage?
is this the point at which the down-trodden slaves form an enclosing ring around the enforcer who no longer has a gun?
*pours one out*
It's a long road to work on getting your might back.
Are you a bad enough dude to walk it?
I got a little excited when I saw your ship.
Hmm. I feel like this is the kind of situation I'll be grappling with in a couple years when the Lady finishes her PhD and we have to go wherever she can get a job.
And I don't mean "I" like it would be my decision, but you know what I mean.
So you've accomplished a hell of a lot
I couldn't even manage to avoid being homeless so
good for you
Despite all the odds and to everyone else's disappointment you're still alive Dewie!
Whoooo fuck yeah! Take that world!
This thing is dying
I shoulda sprung for two-day shipping
You gotta do what you gotta do.
Reduce expense, or choose a solution that is less than optimal. Parenting is all about where you're going to compromise and what you're willing to sacrifice.