I don't know how much of this is going to be actually asking for advice, and how much is just going to be a vent/release for me.
My wife and I have been together for more than 10 years. When we first started dating in High School she was pretty big into her church, and I was still riding the fence - having been raised catholic and having my doubts about it. After we both left for college, she had a blow up with some of the members of the church and more or less walked out. I figured that part of her life was over, and for the most part is was. For the next 7 years we lived our lives without it being much of an issue, in fact it wasn't an issue at all.
We went to college, graduted, got married, and now have a beautiful little girl (who just turned 3). Now not to go into to too much detail here, but when my wife was around 3-4 years old she suffered some abuse from a family member, and this has been something that has hanged over her, her entire life. And since my daughter has gotten around she been very tense and there has been kind of an odd feeling around the house. She has a religious friend at work who she talks to frequently, she seems like a nice lady - despite our philosophical differences, but for the past month or so my wife has started attending church with her, and has started really getting into it. Almost like when we first started dating.
As i said, i was raised catholic, so a 'service' to me is usually 1-hour and some change. But this is a more 'main stream' church, I guess, and their service lasts around 2-hours and change. So the first Wednesday my wife went to a 7 o'clock service and by the time 9:30 was rolling around I got angry that she wasn't home yet and had a bit of a blow up. We had a pretty big fight and quite a few issues were brought up - but we made up and found some common ground and realized that we both have some issues to deal with and we just have to deal with them in our own way. I would rather her find a way to deal with her issues without getting back into a church, but I am willing to be supportive of her.
So the big question/advice is how does this work? Does anyone have any experience with being married to a christian while yourself being atheist or agnostic?
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