Please help clear my mind. should i visit a prostitute for my sexual need?

koolkaran321

Hi,
Lately, i feel a very urgent need to be with a woman and i have been contemplating of visiting a prostitute for long time now. But i feel like it would be a mistake if i go to a prostitute (not in terms of legality but in terms of ethics/morality). i am worried that this would haunt me in future when i get a wife. right now i am 24. This thinking is bugging me so much that i remain worried quite a lot of time. I couldn't bring myself into controlling my sex needs and this is driving me crazy. I would really be glad if someone could help me clear my mind

Jebus314

Unless you live in very few select places, advising you to see one will get anyone who does so banned. Even if you do live in those places my guess is this is still not an allowed topic on these forums.

Still, on the off chance that this thread isn't locked I'll just throw in my two cents in that there's usually never a good reason to see a prostitute. Much better to get yourself out there and try and find someone who actually has some feelings for you as well.

Zombie Hero

No, This sounds like a really bad idea. There are far too many downsides and it isn't going to solve your problem.

AnonymousHA

This is an anonymous account. When I was in a failing relationship, I had many thoughts of visiting a prostitute. I started to look online and research it, but never took the plunge because it's illegal in my home country. However, due to circumstance, my ex and I ended up taking a trip to another developed country where it was legal. This was a work trip for her, so for a couple of the days she was at work while I had the day to myself. I did some touristy stuff and then went through with visiting a brothel and having sex with a prostitute. Two days later, I went back. I was sexually safe, she never found out, and the relationship failed a short time after anyway.

There is nothing that visiting a prostitute solves. It is entirely its own thing, and it's very fleeting. Having sex with a prostitute, ignoring the illegality in many parts of the world, is psychologically equivalent to eating a delicious dessert. You may crave it and enjoy it, but after a few moments, it's gone and you have nothing to show for it. Visiting a prostitute will not solve any need you feel to be with a woman. It it essentially fancy masturbation. Given how you're talking about this, I don't think the problem is at all related to sex, but is instead something deeper. If you live somewhere where prostitution is illegal, it is absolutely a bad idea. Not only will it not solve whatever it is you're looking for, but you have a risk of being caught committing a serious crime. Further, there's little proof that anyone you would contact is not a victim of human trafficking. If you live somewhere where prostitution is legal, I still don't recommend it as I don't think it will help you. Paying money to have sex did nothing to fix my relationship, put my mind at ease, make me think about sex less (or more), or otherwise improve my life. I have to live with the fact that I have been with a prostitute which, as evidenced by this account, is not something I really tell anyone.

So, from experience, even if you go to great lengths to do this legally, I don't think it will help you.

zepherin

It's probably best that you don't. It's not going to solve anything, and at best you feel better for a week maybe two. The best solution would be to get out there and start meeting people. A not as good solution would be to get an aid to help slake your lust.

I'm not sure if specific products can be mentioned in this thread so it rhymes with flashlight, and that is a good product.

There is a great deal of risk associated with prostitution. Here are the major ones, One is legal, two is pathological, three is physical and the forth is psychological. The reward is a feeling of togetherness, an upshot in dopamine and serratonin for a few hours, and your desire to breed being slaked for a few days.

ceres

Jebus314 wrote: »

Unless you live in very few select places, advising you to see one will get anyone who does so banned. Even if you do live in those places my guess is this is still not an allowed topic on these forums.

Pretty much this. The topic is allowed but no one is allowed to advise you to do it or tell you it's okay unless we know you live somewhere where it's legal. Unless that's the case, the answers you get are going to be pretty unilaterally "don't."

naporeon

AnonymousHA wrote: »

This is an anonymous account. When I was in a failing relationship, I had many thoughts of visiting a prostitute. I started to look online and research it, but never took the plunge because it's illegal in my home country. However, due to circumstance, my ex and I ended up taking a trip to another developed country where it was legal. This was a work trip for her, so for a couple of the days she was at work while I had the day to myself. I did some touristy stuff and then went through with visiting a brothel and having sex with a prostitute. Two days later, I went back. I was sexually safe, she never found out, and the relationship failed a short time after anyway.

There is nothing that visiting a prostitute solves. It is entirely its own thing, and it's very fleeting. Having sex with a prostitute, ignoring the illegality in many parts of the world, is psychologically equivalent to eating a delicious dessert. You may crave it and enjoy it, but after a few moments, it's gone and you have nothing to show for it. Visiting a prostitute will not solve any need you feel to be with a woman. It it essentially fancy masturbation. Given how you're talking about this, I don't think the problem is at all related to sex, but is instead something deeper. If you live somewhere where prostitution is illegal, it is absolutely a bad idea. Not only will it not solve whatever it is you're looking for, but you have a risk of being caught committing a serious crime. Further, there's little proof that anyone you would contact is not a victim of human trafficking. If you live somewhere where prostitution is legal, I still don't recommend it as I don't think it will help you. Paying money to have sex did nothing to fix my relationship, put my mind at ease, make me think about sex less (or more), or otherwise improve my life. I have to live with the fact that I have been with a prostitute which, as evidenced by this account, is not something I really tell anyone.

So, from experience, even if you go to great lengths to do this legally, I don't think it will help you.

This is truly great advice. All of it. Although I do not have personal experience with prostitutes exactly, I have similar enough experiences that I can tell you the dessert analogy is a great one.

If you are missing the human contact element, and the affection of a woman, there is nothing this will solve. Nothing. I'm not saying it will leave you feeling worse. I can't know that. But it really will be like fancy masturbation, as our alt account friend said, and you will still feel just as frustrated, alone, and unsatisfied shortly thereafter.

Again, I have no experience with actual prostitutes, but I can absolutely tell you that seeking out this sort of sex when you are feeling lonely will not help that in any way.

Pantshandshake

Since we can't actually have a discussion about illegal things, I'll say this:
OP makes me think of
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