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See you next fire alarm?
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Here is the situation - I live in a small apartment building, there is 26 units in the 4 story building. Last Saturday the building fire alarm went off, as I was taking a nap in the afternoon which was fun. I didn't see any signs of a real fire and figured it was being tested or someone pulled the alarm by mistake. I take a few minutes to at least throw some cloths on and head out to the parking lot. As I walk out the front door a fire truck is pulling into the lot. I see a few people standing in a group and so go talk to them. One of them is an older lady who lives on my floor, another woman who I haven't seen before, and this super cute girl about my age who I think I might have seen once as I was driving out and she was driving in. Anyway we make small talk and I joke about being woken up to cover my disheveled appearance, I was rocking some awesome bed head, the cute girl laughs and says she was taking a nap as well, I notice she is barefoot at this point and we talk and joke about it while the fire department does it's thing. I realize this would be a good time to introduce myself to everyone because as I'll explain in a minute, pretty much no ones knows each other in the building. So I'm about to introduce myself when one of the fire people says we can go back inside. So I missed my chance at anything.
Now for my deliema, the girl I was talking to really struck a cord with me and I would really like the chance to talk to her again. However I have no idea which apartment she lives in, and even if I did just knocking on her door out of the blue seems strange. Here is where it gets a little more tricky, my building is like a blackhole of not seeing your neighbors. It is really weird, I've lived thee for 3 years and almost never bump into anyone else that lives there. In fact it's such a strange thing, that when I do cross paths with someone on the stairs, doing laundry etc, we talk about how strange it is that we never see anyone as we come and go.
So I need ideas on what, if anything I can do to try and talk to this girl again. I'm stuck right now hoping I bump into her at random, but given the rarity of seeing any of my neighbors I think it's unlikely at best.
Any ideas, thoughts, comments would be great. I'm realing hoping I don't have to resort to pulling the alarm and hoping she is home....
Now for my deliema, the girl I was talking to really struck a cord with me and I would really like the chance to talk to her again. However I have no idea which apartment she lives in, and even if I did just knocking on her door out of the blue seems strange. Here is where it gets a little more tricky, my building is like a blackhole of not seeing your neighbors. It is really weird, I've lived thee for 3 years and almost never bump into anyone else that lives there. In fact it's such a strange thing, that when I do cross paths with someone on the stairs, doing laundry etc, we talk about how strange it is that we never see anyone as we come and go.
So I need ideas on what, if anything I can do to try and talk to this girl again. I'm stuck right now hoping I bump into her at random, but given the rarity of seeing any of my neighbors I think it's unlikely at best.
Any ideas, thoughts, comments would be great. I'm realing hoping I don't have to resort to pulling the alarm and hoping she is home....
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Okay, don't do that.
This kind of situation is tough, and other than doing something that may or may not be seen as "creepy" (like investigating her or standing outside the front door with binoculars or whatever) you may just have to chalk it up to fate: Either you'll see her again or you won't. I highly recommend you just ask her out if and when you ever get the opportunity again. It's not like there's much risk of awkwardness - as you said, you don't see your neighbors on a regular basis. Life's too short to dick around.
I mean, I can't think of anything else except for maybe asking other neighbors or a doorman or whatever "hey, do you know <girl's description>?"
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Deadfall, that is a great idea, I thought about it a little this morning. We don't really have space for that but the lot could work if done right. However there is so many things that could go wrong with trying that, that I'm just not sure. I live in Massachusetts so cold weather is here, she may not come, no one may come that would really suck, she could show up with a significant other. I guess at least I would know and that's fine. I mean if it worked it is a great story to be able to ultimately tell her I threw a get together just to meet her. It's like Drez's idea of setting the building on fire, but hopefully with less jail time.
Good cover for when you "accidentally" set the place on fire.
Are there no communal areas in the place? Laundry room, mailboxes, etc? My brother lived in a two storey place where the top floor had a power issue (old building, too many appliances on the circuit) so it was common to find someone in the lobby on a laptop or charging their phone. Then the building was rewired, so nobody should have been there, but people kept going down to hang out.
Try changing your routine. Leave the house a few minutes earlier, spend more time in communal areas (don't just dump your laundry in and go. Take a book (conversation starter, so pick carefully) and do all the washing in one night. She doesn't show? Next week, pick a different day. You don't have laundry every week? Bedsheets, you slob.)
Big point, don't do anything radical. Just make an adjustment to what you would normally do.
If all else fails, you can always burn your toast.
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That'd be creepy.
I suggest just a "meet the neighbours party." But don't be disappointed if she doesn't turn up. You'll probably run into her again, especially if the fire alarm is faulty.
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Just walk around your building more often to increase the chances you'll bump into her if you really liked her that much. If you see her, say hi and ask if she wants to go out. If not, you clearly won't have to see her very often so it probably won't be embarrassing.
Aside from that, the common area suggestions are great, and the party hosting idea is fantastic. Trust me, if you're grilling up some free chow and have beverages handy, people will show-up if they have the time. Just post signs in the common areas / halls / whatever to let people know what you're doing and when.
Don't do this. At worst it's creepy and a huge turnoff, and at best you'll get in trouble for making a mess in your complex.
Slight alterations to your routine are fine. Camping out the parking lot for days on end, nope.
Should you run into her at this hypothetical game, the wording is key. "I was hoping that I would run into you" is not as good as "I was wondering if I would run into you." Scanning the crowd during play stoppage is fine. Scanning it during play, nope.
Really, you should be asking yourself, "How would I stalk her?" and then DON'T DO THAT.
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Without those prerequisites, leaving a note just screams "dude creeped on me while I was getting in my car"
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That seems like a bit of an overreaction. He said he never sees her, not that he doesn't have the confidence to approach.
Unless you're thinking he's lying about that, but that seems kinda unnecessarily cynical.
Is asking the landlord out of the question? He or she might know who you're talking about and could possibly give you her room number or phone number.
God, I hope not. That would be very irresponsible since all he knows about you is whether your cheques clear.
I like to think there's a reason no one suggested this earlier.
Print flyers for bbq
Tape to doors/common areas
Meet new friends/neighbors
We met several new interesting neighbors at our old apartments by going to common area picnics. And even if she doesn't show up maybe someone more awesome will.
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Hire a private investigator to find her and follow her and take lots of pictures of her and install cameras and microphones in her apartment and find out where she works and call up and make repeated complaints about her so she gets fired and spends more time at home and kidnap her friends and sell them into slavery so she spends more time by herself and lonely and kill her family so she has no-one to turn to, to rely on, so you can swoop in and be there for her.
Just an idea.
But maybe it can still work out. Next time you see her just say something like, "hey last time at the fire alarm I meant to ask you to coffee but it was just so crazy then. So how about that latte?"
Good luck!
I thought pulling the fire alarm was creative!
Certainly the most likely to work in a romantic comedy, and should we really have any other criteria in life and love? Also, try roaming the corridors, with a huge paper bag full of unwieldy groceries in your arms. You are certain to trip over her, and fall in love while mutually scrabbling for rolling oranges.
Or, if you live in Japan, run out of your place with your breakfast toast in your mouth! It's foolproof!