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Help me name my child...
Weeping Rupee
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... if it's a girl. We have a set boy name, but if it's a girl we're open to almost anything-- need a First and Middle with good synergy... here are some front runners for inspiration (feel free to throw 'em in there or simply recombine them):
Mona
Luna
Zoe
Lux
Clementine
Vivi
Sylvie
Raeko
O'lillya (Lilly)
Tamsyn
Mona
Luna
Zoe
Lux
Clementine
Vivi
Sylvie
Raeko
O'lillya (Lilly)
Tamsyn
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Get what I mean? Tim doesn't need to be spelled Tym. It doesn't add anything, it just makes you, and them, look silly.
If you do make something up, it should be generally pronounceable. I'm not certain how Tamsyn is supposed to be pronounced. Best I can think is close to Thompson, which sounds like not a very good girl first name. While Lux is unusual, it is pronounceable and easily spelled.
O'lillya just looks overly complicated, i'd just go with Lilly if you decide on that.
but they're listening to every word I say
I'm pretty sure every name up there is a real name in one culture or another... O'lillya I actually thought I made up myself but came to find out it was a real name (pronounced just like Olivia but with an L). I even made sure spell it slightly odd (O'lillya instead of O'lillia) but even the spelling was the same on those baby name sites.
Tamsyn (pretty close to what you guessed: Tam-Zin) I heard on an Australian show called Sunny Heights High.
Lux and Clementine are from Virgin Suicides and Eternal Sunshine respectively.
As for the Sylvie vs. Sylvia, the story with that is that my grandmothers name is the classic and we had been debating over Sylvia and Vivi/Veve for a while when my fiance pointed out we could have the best of both worlds if we tweeked Sylvia to Sylvie and called her Vivi for short...
but I get your point. Still, I have to contend that compared some of the names out there these ones are pretty tame and Anglo-Saxon America friendly.
As for the list you have there, I'm a fan of most of them, excepting O'lillya, Raeko, and Tamsyn. They come across as just randomized letter sets in my mind. Also, not a fan of Luna, but I was going to be named Luna Miranda were I girl (thank goodness not), so I'm biased.
Vivian, with Vivi for short is another idea. Violet could also be shortened to Vi.
Myckynzy? Is that you?
J/K
My sister went through her family tree and took a derivative of a common family name.
To meet your quirk quotient, middle name Eris (as in, the goddess of discord.)
If she picks up Sylvie, they combine to Sylvie-Eris, or Silviarus, which sounds like a badass spaceship or something.
You can then call her whatever you like, she has two normal (ish) names. You can have "the best of both worlds" as your fiance pointed out... you just don't have to do it all in the first name. My opinion is to not give your child a nickname as an actual name.
I once knew a girl who taught preschool. One year one of her students was named Ravyn. She felt so bad for that little boy.
I have to use my middle name Allen because my first name is Gavriel, which is Hebrew for Gabriel, but 1st grade teachers don't know that.
If a child wants a normal name but has a 'novel' one then they will blame their parents forever and carry a burning resentment unto the end of their days.
Just something worth bearing in mind.
I have a "normal" name that can be spelled two ways and it's annoying having to constantly correct it. Doing that intentionally will just lead to more problems through her school and professional life.
But the thing where you just spell a basically regular name a bit differently has always seemed dumb to me; you lose all the fun of "oh cool is your name really [whatever]" but retain all of the irritating "how do you spell that" conversations. Plus, I promise nobody will ever care what obscure reason you had to transpose vowels or use a C vs. a K. Also if you do decide to go with some sort of oddball given name, give the kid a normal middle name so that they can go by that if it turns out they don't like it.
From your list, I have always liked Zoe. Vivian is good too.
that's why we call it the struggle, you're supposed to sweat
Natalie
Kira
Quinne
Ariana
We ended up going with Kayleigh (both of our moms' middle name is Kay and my mom goes by it), but I was able to get Brienne as the middle name.
Q'uinn-igan Demonbane.
You can do whatever you want with the nickname. It doesn't even have to sound like your child's legal name, and has little bearing on your child's chances of future employment. My legal name is only passingly similar to what I usually answer to, and it was never really an issue. (In some ways it's helpful. You always have a "fake name" for playing house!)
For example, I worked as an English teacher in China for a spell and many of my younger kids picked outrageous names: Giraffe, King, Dragon, Tank.
Forcing a strange name on a child might not seem like the best thing during their young years. Bullying, ridicule, their hatred of you... lotsa problems.
But, if a kid comes out of their teenage years with a name like Conan, Aurelia, Beatrice, or Wolfgang, they are almost guaranteed to be baller. Odd names get a lot of added value in the adult world. There have been studies on the tangible benefits, albeit some point to penalties in the cases of African American naming conventions.
So I suppose I vote for Lux. Even as a middle name, that would be awesome.
I should probably also throw out there that Zoe is the name of a very close friend who died shortly after highschool, not exactly family but i big influence on my life (maybe moreso in death than in life). I too love the "story behind the name" thing (My first son is gonna have a hell of one if he ever finds out certain things.) but I have always veered away from names that seem to play to my heritage (Irish mostly) just because I personally have always found it kind of oppressive (half kidding-- imagine I said that with david cross' on-stage voice). However, I love my Nana. Alot. Plus my girlfriend sort of hinted at Sylvia for a name in front of her so it kinda put me in an awkward position.
@ Zepherin -- HA! Chet Awesomelaser... is a perfect name for my female baby.
@ Zurg and Dispatch -- Thanks for being the first to actually indulge me. I love the way Sylvie-Eris rings, it almost sounds like one single long name and I like that (I'm assuming Eris is pronounces "Air-is"...) As for Sylvia Vivian-- I definitely like it okay. Alot of folks seem to be throwing out Vivian/Violet/etc... but I think if we went with a longer name for Vivi it would be Genevieve.
@ Eat It--
Phew, thanks. For a moment I was kinda feeling like a terrible person for having a will to be weird. I don't think it's going to hurt anyones employment chances to be named Clementine Tamsyn Dewalt, for example. (By the by Dewalt is the last name, my girlfriends surname which our first son has as his last name.) My first son is Niko Huxley Dewalt. I think that has approximately the same amount strangeness that any combination of the Names above could have.
I mean hell, if I let society sway me in naming my child some messed up things could happen. For example, I've read that there is some statistical evidence of employers discriminating against "black sounding" names (http://www.nber.org/digest/sep03/w9873.html). Should black people avoid using thier grandparents name simply to give their kids a shot at more gainful employment? Hell, thats a whole 'nother thread in itself... my point is... I think these names are all beautiful and I thin its terribly sad and cynical to say "No, with a name like that she'll never be a lawyer. That would look SO WEIRD on a billboard!"
I like weird, and I don't think it will hurt.
I don't know if it will change anything but just for the sake of hearing the ring of the whole name I'll mention again that Dewalt is the last name.
I like how my parents named me. They picked a relatively normal first name and a weirder middle name. Turns out the middle name suits me waaaay more and I've been going by it for most of my life. I'm also named, in part, after my grandmother who passed away shortly before my mom found out she was pregnant, and I rather like the family tie-in (amusingly we sign our first name the same way based off my moms birth certificate, but my moms cursive style is vastly different than mine or my grandmothers was)
Total personal opinion time now, but "Clementine" to me reads like the name of an 80 year old, and the easiest way to short it is to "Clem" which I find a bit inelegant. "Lux" sounds a bit like a crazy name like "Apple", but perhaps because I've heard it used as a descriptor a lot lately.
<Qs23> I just need to get my dicks in a row
<prox> i work for dicks
#paforums_pax, all about the dicks.
Well now you absolutely HAVE to name your daughter
Eighteenvolt Hammerdrill Dewalt.
I disagree.
Chopsaw Dewalt.
Also have fun with the initials, as there are all sorts of fun 3 letter words that you can make that end with D
The name Sylvia/Silvia actually has pretty cool ancient roots in case you were wondering or didn't know. I studied Latin for awhile and I've always thought it was a pretty name.
Dignified unique names are lovely. But odd spellings of normal names are just awkward.
Every single goddamn person I interact with, their first reaction is "that's different!", to which all I can say is "yeah my parents found it in a book and it's just the German spelling of Aaron". There isn't a story or any real reason for it. The only nice thing is that it pretty much guarantees I can get an email address of just my name.
Tamsyn... Raeko..... no
Also if you have a son you should name him Walt
I am not a creative man, and my wife apparently didn't care.
Well, the problem with this is that you are essentially saying that a girl with Japanese ancestry would probably be excluded from this position because of her name, or that if she attained the position it would sound silly. You have to be careful passing that kind of judgement on a name.
That's probably my only regret about the names we gave our boys.
Aidan, Aiden, Aidyn, Ayden, Adyan,...
Sean, Shaun, Shawn
I see many spelling corrections in their futures. :?
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