Telling a group of people who call themselves Christians that they aren't really Christians just strikes me as silly and rude and no-true-scotsmany.
The more people you discount as not being real Christians, the fewer "actual" Christians there are, which means it's easier to act like you're a minority!
Yeah, how are you supposed to be both elitist and persecuted without some kind of paradoxical thinking?
Believing in contradicting things is not really unusual for a lot of religious people.
May I ask a question? Often when I see trans people complain about their looks and them not passing. Is it a bad thing for me as a cis person to comment if I think they do? Cause I've almost made those posts (and other times have) but worried that it looks kind of pandery? Are comments welcome or not?
Depends on the person.
I would say if you don't know them, then maybe say something generic like "you look great".
Once (if) you get to know them, then you could tell what they like.
Some people I know aren't close enough for me to be comfortable with "passing" type comments.
But if I'm wallowing over my 'passing' and my best friend says I shouldn't be, I trust her judgment on this subject because I know I have the occasional demon in my head telling me I suck.
tl;dr: depends on the person, depends on your relationship with that person
passing as a quantifiable unit of personal measure for how society views your meeting the criteria of looking like a woman versus a self esteem thing are different entities. as uh, silly as it feels typing that out
im fine with how i look but uh i gotta go out of my goddamn way to be acknowledged as "she". obviously that sucks, but shit that is the situation
I know its a personal thing, I was just trying to say, theres a whole lot of world out there and a wonderful gaggle of different permutations of people in it, Sorry if I came across like an ass.
But if me coming across like an ass helped you be 1/10th of one percent less concerned, worried, or whatever, then I'll gladly be the biggest ass I can be
Urgh, someone started an argument on the Twokinds forum over what gender pro-noun to use for describing Natani (who is a transmale and a fantastic character).
The excuses that came up basically came down to 'He's just oppressed by sexism', 'He occasionally does girly things and has a crush on a man' and 'he was born in a female body so must be female'.
Sometimes it's hard not to try and say something encouraging but I hold back because I don't want to be read the wrong way or hurt anyone unintentionally.
The thing is, trans people "passing" sometimes sounds like the women who are totally attractive/cute/beautiful but think they aren't "pretty" because it isn't the Photoshopped standard from magazines, television and movies.
It's not a perfect analogue I know. It's so much deeper than beauty and sometimes your health and safety can depend on it. I just wish people could cut themselves more slack about appearances.
"Passing" as a compliment strikes me as weird because it's basically saying "Way to go on living up to our culture's arbitrary standards!" when the person just wants to look and feel the way they want. It also implies that the goal is to pass, which seems like a bad thing?
I'm back in Portland after a long train ride. I bawled like a baby half the way back.
Anyway, I can't make phone calls or send text messages because I have no phone service. And I can't pm people here because lolmobilesite? So if anyone needs to reach me just like... send a raven.
sure, as a statement about one thing, that's kinda fine. At least for me personally. But if it's a general statement about passing/etc, then it's kind of eeehhhh
I found out that the surgeon had also narrowed the nasal bone a bit during my jaw surgery.
I am happy with this.
This is awesome but
How did he sneakily get to your nose while mucking about with your jaw??? Surely thats a noticable difference/distance away isnt it?? Did he not make an incision??
sure, as a statement about one thing, that's kinda fine. At least for me personally. But if it's a general statement about passing/etc, then it's kind of eeehhhh
I found out that the surgeon had also narrowed the nasal bone a bit during my jaw surgery.
I am happy with this.
This is awesome but
How did he sneakily get to your nose while mucking about with your jaw??? Surely thats a noticable difference/distance away isnt it?? Did he not make an incision??
I don't honestly know.
Maybe there's a small incision deep in my nose, or maybe he could snake his way from my jaw?
Didn't think to ask
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edited March 2014
When my dad had a brain tumour removed the surgeon cut along above his hairline and folded his face down out of the way. Apparently the muscles of your face aren't affixed to your skull so it just kind of flops out of the way!
When my dad had a brain tumour removed the surgeon cut along above his hairline and folded his face down out of the way. Apparently the muscles of your face aren't affixed to your skull so it just kind of flops out of the way!
Theres a few segments where muscle attaches to bone.
Mainly in your temples and your lower jaw, so's you can munch foods.
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I just hope that someday someone will be willing to dig under it and find the beautiful, gleaming hoard that is my true self.
I think it's one of those "If you're in doubt, then don't" sort of things.
Believing in contradicting things is not really unusual for a lot of religious people.
The problem is you tried to get it on your own. You want to wait for the delivery service.
Depends on the person.
I would say if you don't know them, then maybe say something generic like "you look great".
Once (if) you get to know them, then you could tell what they like.
Some people I know aren't close enough for me to be comfortable with "passing" type comments.
But if I'm wallowing over my 'passing' and my best friend says I shouldn't be, I trust her judgment on this subject because I know I have the occasional demon in my head telling me I suck.
tl;dr: depends on the person, depends on your relationship with that person
Chico, to me you will always be a beautiful, gleaming-
Oh, you said "hoard".
I know its a personal thing, I was just trying to say, theres a whole lot of world out there and a wonderful gaggle of different permutations of people in it, Sorry if I came across like an ass.
But if me coming across like an ass helped you be 1/10th of one percent less concerned, worried, or whatever, then I'll gladly be the biggest ass I can be
The excuses that came up basically came down to 'He's just oppressed by sexism', 'He occasionally does girly things and has a crush on a man' and 'he was born in a female body so must be female'.
Now I feel kinda depressed.
The thing is, trans people "passing" sometimes sounds like the women who are totally attractive/cute/beautiful but think they aren't "pretty" because it isn't the Photoshopped standard from magazines, television and movies.
It's not a perfect analogue I know. It's so much deeper than beauty and sometimes your health and safety can depend on it. I just wish people could cut themselves more slack about appearances.
Now I'm sad.
Steam Me
I am happy with this.
Now I'm sad.
Nobody can be sad with pictures of Corgi Huskies!
Hurgis?
Corkies?
That's totally a fake.
you can see fence posts in distance! MAN NEVER WENT TO THE MOON #Teachthecontroversy
for a brief few moments, I thought those were grave crosses.
Ha ha, no, we stopped doing that eons ago
Some say that it was..a grave mistake.
You think you're watching a meteor shower?
they even got some quotes from my surgeon, Dr. Marci Bowers
Twitch (I stream most days of the week)
Twitter (mean leftist discourse)
Anyway, I can't make phone calls or send text messages because I have no phone service. And I can't pm people here because lolmobilesite? So if anyone needs to reach me just like... send a raven.
Or a Facebook message.
This is awesome but
How did he sneakily get to your nose while mucking about with your jaw??? Surely thats a noticable difference/distance away isnt it?? Did he not make an incision??
The nose bone's connected to the... jaw bone
I don't honestly know.
Maybe there's a small incision deep in my nose, or maybe he could snake his way from my jaw?
Didn't think to ask
If you get a chance, ask him for me. Tell him kochi is curious
Theres a few segments where muscle attaches to bone.
Mainly in your temples and your lower jaw, so's you can munch foods.