So as a reward for me saying "OK, you can get out of the friendzone, let's try dating some more," in response to her impassioned e-mail plea to get out of the friendzone, I'm getting a play-by-play via text of a date she's on tonight. She really likes him and it's going well.
Women be cray.
People are so much better at dating when they're already in a relationship.
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HacksawJ. Duggan Esq.Wrestler at LawRegistered Userregular
Pfffffffffft false.
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ShivahnUnaware of her barrel shifter privilegeWestern coastal temptressRegistered User, Moderatormod
"One beer" doesn't even specify an amount of liquid, much less a dose of active ingredient. Is it supposed to be like one of those old laws about not allowing a moose on the sidewalk or whatever?
That said, I stare judgementally when somebody tries to drive, claiming to be "only buzzed". Sure you are, toughguy.
I sometimes get blocked for absolutely no reason on POF. I send a single, non-insulting message and then I'm blocked. Does anyone else experience this? It seems bizarre to me. I assume that they're blocking everyone they're not interested in but it still feels insulting.
Post an example message. You may be being creepy or somesuch without realising.
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I sometimes get blocked for absolutely no reason on POF. I send a single, non-insulting message and then I'm blocked. Does anyone else experience this? It seems bizarre to me. I assume that they're blocking everyone they're not interested in but it still feels insulting.
I've experienced that with one girl. Well, maybe more than one, but only one that I noticed. Meh, like you said, they're blocking everyone they're not interested in, so moving on.
It was only noteworthy for me because the girl also selected me in the "want to meet" feature. After blocking me.
It was only noteworthy for me because the girl also selected me in the "want to meet" feature. After blocking me.
There was a girl that I completely screwed it with. She was incredibly nice though, and replied to more of my messages than what the average person would.
Confused the crap outta me because she did the "want to meet" thing after I had screwed up and she wasn't replying. Probably just an accidental thing or didn't realize it was me from the picture.
After a great deal of creepiness on my behalf (it was one of those things I didn't fully realize at the time, but now I'm ashamed of), she still replied to a question I asked pertaining to a subject she had more knowledge of than me, which I managed to turn into a half-assed conversation. And that was that.
Trouble is I may very well run into her come November...
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Pointing out things like that can be more of a revelation about how much information people actually are giving on the internet without meaning to. Most people do not react well to that. I wouldn't recommend using it as a strategy to get to know someone.
I would find that creepy if I received it. Don't elaborate on your stalker skills. A message should only reference things either directly stated in the profile or things directly stated in photo captions. The end.
Welp, as a girl, I'm telling you that I would find that creepy. You earlier were wondering why you get blocked for seemingly no reason. I'm saying your message comes across as creepy and slightly stalkery. That's why you're getting blocked. You may have some success with it, but I would say with fair certainty that when you are getting blocked, it's because you seem like a stalker who's trying to deduce where girls live from random photo details. Just saying.
Wait, because she mentions something about a city in Norway and has a picture of herself in Norway, it's creepy to ask if she's from Norway? Or was it something else that came off as creepy?
Because if a girl has pictures of herself at the Golden Gate Bridge, I think it's perfectly reasonable to ask if she ever lived in San Fran or was it a vacation.
Post an example message. You may be being creepy or somesuch without realising.
"Hi. Nice profile. Are you from Norway? How awesome is it that I guessed correctly? The clues were subtle: you mention Lilyhammer and you're in front of fjords in one of your photos. Columbo himself couldn't do better."
Maybe a Murder She Wrote fans but you just don't have to reply if you're not interested.
I'm going to give you the best piece of advice you can ever get.
No matter how much you know about another person, don't ever disclose that information (to a woman).
Let her come to you and disclose that information herself.
I had to learn this the hard way, but all I ever wanted to show was that I had taken an interest in the other person. But if she hasn't allowed you to be part of that information, it will come off as creepy or invasive to her privacy (even if it is something totally open on her facebook or similar).
Start out small and prod/lead the conversation towards X if you want to find out more. Don't open with "I saw you do X - tell me about it". She might not be ready for that.
It's not so much that he asks if she's from Norway (although that's kind of over-the-top since she apparently doesn't say "Oh hey, I live in Lilyhammer/Norway, and it's super great.") as that he then goes on to explain how he scrounged and Columboed his way to a conclusion about her that she apparently did not specify.
Difference: "I saw you mentioned doing X in Lilyhammer. I've never been/been there such and such a time. Were you visiting?" or "I really liked that 3rd picture. Are those fjords behind you? I enjoyed visiting X one time and seeing the fjords/I've always wanted to take a cruise on the fjords myself."
This type of message references something in their profile or picture while using a question to start a conversation. It doesn't show awkwardly specific interest in where a girl lives. Again, unless a girl says, "I adore living in X!" it's a little weird to explain how you gathered she likely lives in X because she mentions a city and has a picture of a thing.
I send a variation of that message to just about everyone and have had success with it. Most people have blank profiles on POF so it's a struggle to come up with more than "sup dawg". This is a harmless and witty response to this situation.
Generally it's up to the other person in the conversation to decide if you're witty. Just because you think it's harmless and witty, doesn't mean it's being received that way. And given that women are blocking you when you message them it sounds like they don't consider it witty or harmless.
Post an example message. You may be being creepy or somesuch without realising.
"Hi. Nice profile. Are you from Norway? How awesome is it that I guessed correctly? The clues were subtle: you mention Lilyhammer and you're in front of fjords in one of your photos. Columbo himself couldn't do better."
Maybe a Murder She Wrote fans but you just don't have to reply if you're not interested.
I'm going to give you the best piece of advice you can ever get.
No matter how much you know about another person, don't ever disclose that information (to a woman).
Let her come to you and disclose that information herself.
I had to learn this the hard way, but all I ever wanted to show was that I had taken an interest in the other person. But if she hasn't allowed you to be part of that information, it will come off as creepy or invasive to her privacy (even if it is something totally open on her facebook or similar).
Start out small and prod/lead the conversation towards X if you want to find out more. Don't open with "I saw you do X - tell me about it". She might not be ready for that.
"Women aren't impressed that you can deduce details of their life they didn't give you, they are uneasy" is a lesson I learned in college. Glad I got that one out of the way early.
In other news, I had the following exchange with a Tinder match last night:
Him (first message ever): Hey do you want to come over tonight and hang out in my hot tub? Bring a six pack.
Me: No, thanks.
Him: Great I'll see you at 8?
Me: . . .
Him: Don't forget your bikini.
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People are so much better at dating when they're already in a relationship.
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She likes Whedon and Who and country music.
Well, 2 outta 3 ain't bad...
Also, this creepy woman is still texting me... If I end up as a bone wind chime please direct CSI: Atlanta to my OKCupid profile.
Sadly I think when people say "country music" they're thinking something more like Garth Brooks and less like Johnny Cash.
Boo hisss
I think they mean less like Garth Brooks and more like Taylor Swift and The Band Perry these days.
"One beer" doesn't even specify an amount of liquid, much less a dose of active ingredient. Is it supposed to be like one of those old laws about not allowing a moose on the sidewalk or whatever?
That said, I stare judgementally when somebody tries to drive, claiming to be "only buzzed". Sure you are, toughguy.
"Country Music" is sung solo, and is about someone else's partner.
"Western Music" is sung in harmony, and is about someone else's horse.
I am choking on my hatred
Coulda just said... Nah, not gonna go for the cheap joke. Gonna take the high road on this one.
Post an example message. You may be being creepy or somesuch without realising.
It was only noteworthy for me because the girl also selected me in the "want to meet" feature. After blocking me.
There was a girl that I completely screwed it with. She was incredibly nice though, and replied to more of my messages than what the average person would.
Confused the crap outta me because she did the "want to meet" thing after I had screwed up and she wasn't replying. Probably just an accidental thing or didn't realize it was me from the picture.
After a great deal of creepiness on my behalf (it was one of those things I didn't fully realize at the time, but now I'm ashamed of), she still replied to a question I asked pertaining to a subject she had more knowledge of than me, which I managed to turn into a half-assed conversation. And that was that.
Trouble is I may very well run into her come November...
Cheating. Your avatar is never not appropriate for your posts.
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Because if a girl has pictures of herself at the Golden Gate Bridge, I think it's perfectly reasonable to ask if she ever lived in San Fran or was it a vacation.
Doesn't matter if it's obvious, as I mentioned people don't realize how much information they leak and it freaks many out.
You asked why they block you for such messages, well.
I'm going to give you the best piece of advice you can ever get.
No matter how much you know about another person, don't ever disclose that information (to a woman).
Let her come to you and disclose that information herself.
I had to learn this the hard way, but all I ever wanted to show was that I had taken an interest in the other person. But if she hasn't allowed you to be part of that information, it will come off as creepy or invasive to her privacy (even if it is something totally open on her facebook or similar).
Start out small and prod/lead the conversation towards X if you want to find out more. Don't open with "I saw you do X - tell me about it". She might not be ready for that.
Difference: "I saw you mentioned doing X in Lilyhammer. I've never been/been there such and such a time. Were you visiting?" or "I really liked that 3rd picture. Are those fjords behind you? I enjoyed visiting X one time and seeing the fjords/I've always wanted to take a cruise on the fjords myself."
This type of message references something in their profile or picture while using a question to start a conversation. It doesn't show awkwardly specific interest in where a girl lives. Again, unless a girl says, "I adore living in X!" it's a little weird to explain how you gathered she likely lives in X because she mentions a city and has a picture of a thing.
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Generally it's up to the other person in the conversation to decide if you're witty. Just because you think it's harmless and witty, doesn't mean it's being received that way. And given that women are blocking you when you message them it sounds like they don't consider it witty or harmless.
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No biggie, Ron. Do what works for you. Or keep doing what's not working for you.
You can't let them know WHEN you're going to have at them. You need to keep them guessing.
That's psychopath 101!
Him (first message ever): Hey do you want to come over tonight and hang out in my hot tub? Bring a six pack.
Me: No, thanks.
Him: Great I'll see you at 8?
Me: . . .
Him: Don't forget your bikini.