Anything You Can Do I Can Do Better [Feminism]
Usagi
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In light of recent events and the general ongoing crapshow, let's have a discussion about feminism, racism, misogyny, and the trials and tribulations of day to day living in a patriarchal society!
Admittedly, I'm very uneducated in the academic schools of feminism and would love to learn more, so let's learn together! But let's not just limit ourselves to feminist theory, let's talk about what your personal brand of feminism is, how you live it day to day, why you need feminism, whatever your gender may be, because yes! men benefit from feminism as well.
What are your hopes for the future? Your fears for the present? What do you want and need changed in our culture? Who are your feminist heroes and why?
I thought about noting that we should be polite in this thread, but fuck that. This is an angry topic, a painful and personal topic close to many of our hearts and lives, so politeness really doesn't have a place as things get heavy and difficult. But please, be respectful or I will end you.
So tell me, what have you done to smash the patriarchy today?
Admittedly, I'm very uneducated in the academic schools of feminism and would love to learn more, so let's learn together! But let's not just limit ourselves to feminist theory, let's talk about what your personal brand of feminism is, how you live it day to day, why you need feminism, whatever your gender may be, because yes! men benefit from feminism as well.
What are your hopes for the future? Your fears for the present? What do you want and need changed in our culture? Who are your feminist heroes and why?
I thought about noting that we should be polite in this thread, but fuck that. This is an angry topic, a painful and personal topic close to many of our hearts and lives, so politeness really doesn't have a place as things get heavy and difficult. But please, be respectful or I will end you.
So tell me, what have you done to smash the patriarchy today?
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What I wanted to say but couldn't figure out how to.
GoFund The Portland Trans Pride March, or Show It To People, or Else!
YES I CAN
e:This series of tweets, while not a direct response to the above, is a pretty good response to the above
anyways the photo of our meetup gets posted in the over-arching expat community and the first fucking comment is from a dude saying, "So when do we get our mens only meetup??"
I was poised to awesome that until the last part because that sounds lovely.
I dunno if I'll ever have kids but if I end up with a daughter I want her to have an easier time of things than my sister did, or my wife did - if not an easier time of things, then at least a culture that's less assumptive about certain differences that are assumed to be inherent to sex or gender
I am very loud about my feminism
her name is rin nakai and look at her fight history
But I'm loud
The biggest thing I try to do - I try and use my privilege to push back against the patriarchy. I've only got about 2K followers on Twitter, but whenever something happens I make sure to retweet women, amplify voices and also take a firm stand myself. I've got a little bit of influence (not much, but some) and I try and use it in a positive way.
A lot of that just involves getting out of the way of women who want to talk. Because my role in this isn't to tell women's stories, or to mansplain. It's to not be one of -those- guys, and to push those men around me to also not be one of those guys.
But that's it. That's the worst I've been through and that I've seen.
Today I am smashing the patriarchy by not shaving my pubes. Also by exercising for my health rather than beauty. Can't do anything today because it's Memorial day but my goal for this week is to visit the doctor and discuss how to kick butt and take names. I want to take up boxing.
I know it makes me sound like an angry lesbian but seriously fuck shaving
we didnt shave 100 years ago and were still sexy as fuck
hair is awesome
Dr. Ride graduated from Stanford with an MS and a PhD in Physics, applied and was accepted to the NASA astronaut program in 1978. She was the first American woman in space (preceded by two lady cosmonauts), and also still the youngest American astronaut. And she wasn't just a passenger! She operated the robot arm (which she also helped design), and back on the ground she served as CapCom and was an active participant in the Rogers Commission to investigate the Challenger disaster.
The news was super focused on her because she was the first female American astronaut, but she handled it with class and grace and a healthy dose of who gives a fuck:
Post NASA, she continued to be an active participant in getting women interested in STEM, wrote books, gave speeches, started a company focused on just that. I won't list all of her copious awards, but of note is that President Obama posthumously awarded her the Presidential Medal of Freedom. While Sally was understandably tight lipped about her personal life during her life, her partner of nearly thirty years (Dr. Tam O’Shaughnessy, prof emeritus of school psychology at San Diego State) was able to accept this on her behalf.
Also Janelle Monae wrote a song about her, so badass lady intersection go:
Best advertisement for bio ware right here
This took me a minute.
See, if this was two friendly rivals just fucking with each other, I might actually laugh at it. But from what I can gather from that image, it's legitimately people being shitty to each other and in the nastiest way possible.
Edit: I am the weakest link.
but mostly I listen so that I can at the very least correct my own thoughts and behaviors and use my white male privilege to support the voices that can have a hard time being heard in our current culture.
I guess I do this but tumblr not twitter but the bolded part oh god
I honestly haven't had as much trouble calling out misogyny and then yknow like resolving it and teaching a lil something along the way
As I have trying to explain and raise sympathy and compassion for not using words like "rape" frivolously or even just the legitimate idea of trigger words and trigger warnings
It is an issue that means a lot to me and people just don't get it, they seem to want to defend to the death the "right" to use a word that makes other people super uncomfortable instead of just using ANY alternative
Grinds the shit out of my gears
N... No? They're good friends?
http://bookwar.tumblr.com/
Malki is a savage with those book covers though
So I'm glad this thread exists it feels like a space to relax, and where feminism and the simple act of standing up for yourself don't have to be justified and defended all the damn time.
I feel super dumb and also incredibly relieved at the same time.
Thanks for the correction, you guys.
http://www.theawl.com/2013/07/rape-joke-patricia-lockwood
1) More women work in this field
and
2) I never just quietly sit back and accept shit as it is and fight for women and quiltbag stuff as much as I possibly can
and trust me, I do. I really really try my hardest. When I was younger I'd just roll my eyes, but now I fucking say something and I like to think that I hear less shit these days. And I am incredibly fortunate to work in a very feminist pro-women company and in general pro-lgbt company, so when I say stuff and raise my voice, it's always met positively. Which owns. It owns so much, you guys.
But that isn't really how privilege works, I don't think: telling a friend of mine that he has issues with women that he needs to work on, or arguing with people with whom I disagree concerning portrayals of women in the media, isn't tantamount to giving up privilege. That shit doesn't go away like that.
I don't remember where I was going with this
http://www.liberateyourself.co.uk/survivors/you-are-not-alone-personal-experiences/to-all-those-men-who-dont-think-the-rape-jokes-are-a-problem/
It struck me the other day that I get misgendered more often when I speak out at meetings and offer my own opinion at work.
holy shit