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Alone and Abandoned

rockykumar189rockykumar189 Registered User new member
For the past 5 months, my elder brother does nothing but terrorize my life. He hates my guts. He does not care about my interests and it has been a great while since he ever said something nice about my style of coping with life. He just thinks that I am an incompetent disappointment who has not done anything worthwhile in life. I try to tell him that I am not interested in his line of business, but the asshole doesn't understand that I wanted to be more of a poet/writer rather than a businessman. I know money matters at some point in all our lives, but it does not give us the joy that we truly seek from showcasing our talents and skills in unique and creative ways and in the end, it was an endless mental assault that took a toll on my mind and my emotions. I wish sometimes he was dead but the man keeps coming back to torment and abuse my family in many ways. He only cares about money and he wants me to be like him, but I just can't. Am I being irrational or crazy or are others experiencing this type of problem that is very hard to ignore?

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  • tinwhiskerstinwhiskers Registered User regular
    Moreore details, less hyperbole, and a line break our two would help answer your question more definitively, but just looking at what you wrote I'm going with the former even if it's a soft bet at this point.

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  • rockykumar189rockykumar189 Registered User new member
    so you think I am going crazy?

  • TychoCelchuuuTychoCelchuuu ___________PIGEON _________San Diego, CA Registered User regular
    Um, I wouldn't go that far. It would just help us get a better perspective on what is going on if you could give us more details. If your brother is literally terrorizing you for not earning enough money, I would cut him out of your life. Nobody needs that shit. But, it's hard for us to know what's going on here. What do you mean by "terrorize" - does he say mean things? What sorts of things? Have you told him how these things make you feel?

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  • LostNinjaLostNinja Registered User regular
    You really do need to give more info if you want any type of reasonable response.

    Why does your brother care what you are doing or how much you are making? Being a writer/poet is all well and good as long as you have another job that allows you to pay the bills until is pans out. From what I could interpret from your post, it sounds like he might be on your back because you don't.

  • ceresceres When the last moon is cast over the last star of morning And the future has past without even a last desperate warningRegistered User, Moderator mod
    In what way is he harassing you, and how is he abusing your family? Why is this so hard for you to ignore?

    Money doesn't have to matter to you (I mean it will at some point, but some people are okay with retail in a pinch and there's nothing wrong with that), and you are under no obligation to follow in his footsteps. If it's really as bad as it sounds, you should consider getting some counseling or therapy to deal with your feelings, especially if you are feeling like you might become violent, but you don't have to live your life the way he does if you don't want to.

    And it seems like all is dying, and would leave the world to mourn
    Cambiata
  • VivixenneVivixenne Remember your training, and we'll get through this just fine. Registered User regular
    edited May 2014
    Has it only been for the past 5 months? How old is your brother? How old are you?

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  • The EnderThe Ender Registered User regular
    I think you need to calm down. Why is his opinion of what you're doing / not doing so important to you? If you're constantly thinking about wanting someone to die, you need to go see a therapist and / or psychiatrist immediately.

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    ceresEncLostNinja
  • ThundyrkatzThundyrkatz Registered User regular
    edited May 2014
    I second the request for more information.

    Do you live with your brother? Are you both living at home?

    Is he providing financial support for you?

    Why does he care enough to make your life difficult if you want to do things differently then he does? how does your life impact him?

    Also, what changed 5 months ago that initiated this treatment?

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  • V1mV1m Registered User regular
    What, in short, is your actual situation?

  • CambiataCambiata Commander Shepard The likes of which even GAWD has never seenRegistered User regular
    Please don't take people's requests for more details to mean that anyone thinks you're "crazy" or wrong for feeling the way you feel. Even if you are completely financially dependant on your brother (don't know if that's the case, just making a hypothetical) that does not give him the right to abuse you, and you are allowed to have boundaries even if you're living in the same house as he is.

    But to give you useful advice as to what to do next, we need to know what your situation is.

  • CelestialBadgerCelestialBadger Registered User regular
    I'd guess you are 15 and experiencing typical sibling conflict, without further information.

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