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Alone and Abandoned
rockykumar189
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For the past 5 months, my elder brother does nothing but terrorize my life. He hates my guts. He does not care about my interests and it has been a great while since he ever said something nice about my style of coping with life. He just thinks that I am an incompetent disappointment who has not done anything worthwhile in life. I try to tell him that I am not interested in his line of business, but the asshole doesn't understand that I wanted to be more of a poet/writer rather than a businessman. I know money matters at some point in all our lives, but it does not give us the joy that we truly seek from showcasing our talents and skills in unique and creative ways and in the end, it was an endless mental assault that took a toll on my mind and my emotions. I wish sometimes he was dead but the man keeps coming back to torment and abuse my family in many ways. He only cares about money and he wants me to be like him, but I just can't. Am I being irrational or crazy or are others experiencing this type of problem that is very hard to ignore?
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Why does your brother care what you are doing or how much you are making? Being a writer/poet is all well and good as long as you have another job that allows you to pay the bills until is pans out. From what I could interpret from your post, it sounds like he might be on your back because you don't.
Money doesn't have to matter to you (I mean it will at some point, but some people are okay with retail in a pinch and there's nothing wrong with that), and you are under no obligation to follow in his footsteps. If it's really as bad as it sounds, you should consider getting some counseling or therapy to deal with your feelings, especially if you are feeling like you might become violent, but you don't have to live your life the way he does if you don't want to.
Do you live with your brother? Are you both living at home?
Is he providing financial support for you?
Why does he care enough to make your life difficult if you want to do things differently then he does? how does your life impact him?
Also, what changed 5 months ago that initiated this treatment?
But to give you useful advice as to what to do next, we need to know what your situation is.
But fuck you — no, fuck y'all, that's as blunt as it gets"
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