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Your gonna have to talk to him sooner or later. I would just ask him whats going on since you feel hes acting a little weird towards you. Let it go from there.
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You're not trying to date her, right? I mean, really?
And also, this seems like a fight between the two of them and whatever flak you're getting is just kind of the fallout from that. It sounds like the focus isn't really you, but in some uncanny way you've managed to become a part of the environment of their relationship so you are on the periphery of the main problem.
If I were you I would recognize that the male friend still probably has feelings for the female friend and is lashing out a bit at anyone whom may threaten his chances of getting back together with this girl. I don't mean to say that he really wants to but there is always a weird sub-conscious element to dealing with an ex and anyone who wants to become involved with them sexually and emotionally.
Like I said, if you're not trying to date her then you're just going to have to keep acting like it. If you are considering it then.. well... what do you expect?
Anyway, this seems like an issue which only marginally involves you.
But, take my forum posting with a grain of salt, what do I know?
Fuck this guy. They're broken up, man. You're not trying to take her from him, because he was an idiot and ruined it for himself. You did nothing aside from being a good friend, which you're doing now. You're not obligated to do shit for him, seriously. If he wanted to keep her as a good friend, he wouldn't have let things deteriorate the way the have.
So in short? Just blow him off. You only barely talk to him anyway, so it doesn't seem like you want to keep in true touch with him anyhow. If it DOES mean that much? Tell him over IM so it doesn't become some confrontation if you're afraid of that, but even if you are afraid for it just straight up tell him you're only a friend caught in the middle. Your fault for asking what was wrong, but you can't blame someone for just being nice.
If he's "ZOMG THEYRE CONSPIRING AGAINST ME" then seriously, shrug him off or just say, "Dude, we're just friends, ok? I don't have any interest in her." If that's the case, then say it. If you do have interest in her? Tell him the same, but you're digging her. It's not your fault their relationship fell to crap.
He messed up, confided in you. He took your advice, and did the right thing. She was a bit upset that he had told you before without her knowledge, but seems to have made it all the better in the end that she sees the brilliant advice actually came from you.
Well now I can see why he'd be a little upset, but still. Not this bad and you really are over thinking this.
It's kinda one of those situations that has to blow over. He seems to be obsessing over her a little and generally unhappy with what happened, so he's taking it out on you because of your position in the whole deal. You can either let it resolve itself, which may be a long, awkward process with no sure outcome, or you can have a sitdown. Face-to-face, though, none of this electronic shit. Maybe next time he's around, try and hang out with him alone, then wait for some uncomfortable silence and bring up the fact that you think he's unhappy with you.
If he's still a dick, you get the bonus of being able to go after her if you ever feel like it :P
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Yeah, it sounds like he's being obsessive and possessive and is now accusing you of getting involved. Not that there's really anything to get involved in, kind of like saying "you can't go to that sandwich shop, that's my sandwich shop."
You can tell him that he needs to get over her, or that there's nothing going on between you two other than that you're friends, or you can just deal with it as it happens. The problem is more on his end, and I would advise that you *don't* change your activities -- it'll only look more suspicious.
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On another note, just a friendly reminder that it tends to be frowned upon in these parts to sign your posts.
You're not trying to date her, right? I mean, really?
And also, this seems like a fight between the two of them and whatever flak you're getting is just kind of the fallout from that. It sounds like the focus isn't really you, but in some uncanny way you've managed to become a part of the environment of their relationship so you are on the periphery of the main problem.
If I were you I would recognize that the male friend still probably has feelings for the female friend and is lashing out a bit at anyone whom may threaten his chances of getting back together with this girl. I don't mean to say that he really wants to but there is always a weird sub-conscious element to dealing with an ex and anyone who wants to become involved with them sexually and emotionally.
Like I said, if you're not trying to date her then you're just going to have to keep acting like it. If you are considering it then.. well... what do you expect?
Anyway, this seems like an issue which only marginally involves you.
But, take my forum posting with a grain of salt, what do I know?
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So in short? Just blow him off. You only barely talk to him anyway, so it doesn't seem like you want to keep in true touch with him anyhow. If it DOES mean that much? Tell him over IM so it doesn't become some confrontation if you're afraid of that, but even if you are afraid for it just straight up tell him you're only a friend caught in the middle. Your fault for asking what was wrong, but you can't blame someone for just being nice.
He messed up, confided in you. He took your advice, and did the right thing. She was a bit upset that he had told you before without her knowledge, but seems to have made it all the better in the end that she sees the brilliant advice actually came from you.
Well now I can see why he'd be a little upset, but still. Not this bad and you really are over thinking this.
If he's still a dick, you get the bonus of being able to go after her if you ever feel like it :P
dream a little dream or you could live a little dream
sleep forever if you wish to be a dreamer
You can tell him that he needs to get over her, or that there's nothing going on between you two other than that you're friends, or you can just deal with it as it happens. The problem is more on his end, and I would advise that you *don't* change your activities -- it'll only look more suspicious.