This is kind of long, my apologies.
I’m active duty and I’m currently splitting rent with a shipmate, his wife, and a civilian in a split-level home. I only recently made E-5 and started receiving my housing allowance, and I only have a year left in the service.
I wanted to split rent to save as much as I could on my way out, money for furniture, random school expenses, emergencies, etc.
My living situation has gotten increasingly more complicated and dramatic. My shipmate and his wife entered an open relationship, she does not have a job. I gave them the benefit of the doubt, because aside from some occasional spats their relationship seemed stable. He didn’t seem to mind that she wasn’t working and his housing allowance covered their rent. He appointed her as “household manager” and asked her to manage bills and keep the house clean since she wasn’t working. When I had signed the lease, she was attending classes and had been working her way towards becoming a medical transcriptionist. She stopped going to classes while we were at sea.
She basically smoked pot all day and left the house a mess, she spoke endlessly about "fostering a community" and incessantly complained about how dirty the house was despite the fact that she was the one making the vast majority of the mess. It was the responsibility of THE COMMUNITY to clean the house. Basically, those of us that were working 12-18 hours a day were expected to do just as much cooking and cleaning as the unemployed wife and her equally jobless friends/partners who spent most of their idle time sleeping, smoking pot, or spewing buzzwords about harmony, energy, and balance.
I couldn’t really afford a move at the time, so I thought I’d just endure the remainder of my lease and move once I had secured a nice safety cushion of funds.
Well, their drama has accelerated ten-fold and I may have to move soon, but my lease doesn’t expire until December. Her husband is filing for separation. She won’t be receiving his housing allowance anymore and now she’s desperately trying to get some money. Yesterday she accused me of owing her a thousand dollars in utilities, which is complete and utter bullshit. I’ve paid every month, with the exception of one month when I was at sea and she told me I didn’t have to pay, and last month because she still hasn’t given me a statement despite several emails and inquiries in person.
She then accused me of not contributing to THE COMMUNITY because I hadn’t been cleaning the house or buying furniture. I clean up after myself and I stopped buying furniture because her friends/other partners destroy everything they touch. It was evidently my responsibility to clean up after everyone else. I told her to get a fucking job, she got angry and said something along the lines of “being just like everyone else.” Her new boyfriend kept pushing himself between us and started yelling at me. I left the house and stayed the night elsewhere.
I don’t know how to go about this, the lease is in her name and my portion of the rent is sub-leased. I'm on orders away from the ship for the remainder of the week so I can’t pull up my copy of the sub-lease right now. My job is stressful and I've only just started to get some savings going. I'm also a year away from being a civilian, I have my entire future to worry about and an adult who is perfectly capable of working is lashing out at all of us because her gravy train is coming to a halt.