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So, I don't have a lot of male friends...
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The general reasons for this are a whole ball of wax unto itself, but I was just reminded of one of the reasons.
My supposed friend is berating me in a rather obnoxious way because I don't want to go to Happy Hour tonight. I feel like shit and want to go home and rest. Apparently this makes me an "asshole" among other, some even worse, things.
I'm sure this is just "good natured" alpha male ribbing on his part but it irritates the fuck out of me. And I would come out and say so but he's pretty cool most of the time and I know I can be a bit intolerant and distance myself from guys when they start in on their aggressive bullshit. Plus I think it's healthy to have friends that are the same gender as you that you can hang with. I'm a dude and my female to male friend ratio is like 9:1 or some shit.
So how do I tell him to STFU without alienating him?
My supposed friend is berating me in a rather obnoxious way because I don't want to go to Happy Hour tonight. I feel like shit and want to go home and rest. Apparently this makes me an "asshole" among other, some even worse, things.
I'm sure this is just "good natured" alpha male ribbing on his part but it irritates the fuck out of me. And I would come out and say so but he's pretty cool most of the time and I know I can be a bit intolerant and distance myself from guys when they start in on their aggressive bullshit. Plus I think it's healthy to have friends that are the same gender as you that you can hang with. I'm a dude and my female to male friend ratio is like 9:1 or some shit.
So how do I tell him to STFU without alienating him?
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Edit: The guy I work with is sorta my friend, and he'll say stuff like "Breaking Bad is thr worst" even though he's never seen the show. So I tell him all the time how dumb he is, but it's just playing around type of stuff. I'm guessing that's what your friend is doing to you.
But I guess that's how guys are.
I do not know the particulars of your situation, or any of their balls of wax. So, maybe there is some particular quality to your friendship that would complicate things.
But if he's pretty cool most of the time, then you can likely just tell him.
Male friendships are usually not that complicated.
Honestly though I have a really hard time dealing with people that are sensitive to the way I joke with them. When someone constantly decides to take the things I say personally, it's awful. I feel like I need to walk on egg shells around them and get really uncomfortable. That's probably because my way of communicating with them is this stupid teasing crap and I it sucks when one of my main forms of communication is rejected.
Anyways, that's not really advice, just wanted to give you another person's perspective on the problem. It doesn't mean your friend isn't annoying or immature because he very well might be. But maybe in the interest of friendship, just call him an ugly cunt before you close the door in his face.
"hahah no fuck off I'm tired. I'll catch you later, see ya buddy"
If you come off as judgmental in turning him down that could also play a bit into the aggression or hostility. Dunno if that's why he called you an asshole, but you never know. Maybe how your turned him down rubbed him the wrong way?
What brunch?
I called him the son of a motherless goat but that's about it. (I didn't really call him the son of a motherless goat.)
Oh god I'm so alone.
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As said above, some people are just stuck in that mode with friends but if they're not actual jerks, they'll try to scale it back with you if you say something.