I was stuck with pills. I wanted the implant or to stop having periods entirely because I am poor and I wanted to save money by not buying pads or tampons all the time.
If we have the medical technology to end it, why do we still need to have it?
is it bad that i want to go to grad school, but i want to find a professor in my field who isn't an old white man?
cause holy fucking shit you want diversity look at top-tier grad schools and cry
Each of the science departments at my alma mater had precisely one female professor, and they were all pretty amazeballs to the tune of being several times as knowledgeable as their male counterparts and having far more credentials.
Because you have to be, if you're a woman.
Which is a problem.
I fully realize this sounds very entitled and totally up my own arse
But I really hate being a fucking poster child for women engineers
You're too competent. Nobody has ever tried to make me the poster child for anything. They know I'd ruin it for everyone.
What if you're the poster child for ruining things?
is it bad that i want to go to grad school, but i want to find a professor in my field who isn't an old white man?
cause holy fucking shit you want diversity look at top-tier grad schools and cry
Each of the science departments at my alma mater had precisely one female professor, and they were all pretty amazeballs to the tune of being several times as knowledgeable as their male counterparts and having far more credentials.
Because you have to be, if you're a woman.
Which is a problem.
I fully realize this sounds very entitled and totally up my own arse
But I really hate being a fucking poster child for women engineers
Aw shit I'm probably guilty of doing this to you and I'm sorry if I have.
Aww no, it's not really an issue here! On the boards I'm defined mostly by whatever I happen to be talking about at the time, though that does sometimes end up being math/engineering/boats/etc
Its more of an issue when I'm introducing myself, or being introduced, because there's the inevitable "what do you do?" and once we get on that topic it's all there is.
Makes me want to change my business card from Engineer to Farthuffer and see if anybody notices
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CorehealerThe ApothecaryThe softer edge of the universe.Registered Userregular
I was stuck with pills. I wanted the implant or to stop having periods entirely because I am poor and I wanted to save money by not buying pads or tampons all the time.
If we have the medical technology to end it, why do we still need to have it?
Because the medical establishment is run by old white dudes
It gets stronger with the number of people supporting it! And it blew Buu to bits when the entire population of earth got behind it.
+1
Brovid Hasselsmof[Growling historic on the fury road]Registered Userregular
I need feminism because when I first started the course I'm doing I was told I would have to work twice as hard and achieve twice as much, because I'm female.
Certain of the work placements at the end of the course aren't even open to me, because I'm female.
It is actually kind of refreshing how blunt the sexism is here, though. I think I might prefer it over the kind where everyone thinks they're being equal but really they're just in denial.
Like, try to talk to a doctor about voluntary sterilization as a nulliparous woman
The lengths people go to in order to sidetrack you, or try to talk you out of that is just fucking absurd
Even births have to be done on their schedule, more often than not.
With my three kids, all three PCPs we saw wanted to go ahead and schedule the c-section right from the get-go.
It was all about old white guys not having to get up and out of bed because their patient went into natural labor at 3 in the morning and nothing at all to do with what's best for the kid or the mom.
Sometimes a c-section is necessary, or desirable! But when we said we wanted to do natural childbirth, the doctors of the latter two kids dropped us as patients.
Like, try to talk to a doctor about voluntary sterilization as a nulliparous woman
The lengths people go to in order to sidetrack you, or try to talk you out of that is just fucking absurd
Even births have to be done on their schedule, more often than not.
With my three kids, all three PCPs we saw wanted to go ahead and schedule the c-section right from the get-go.
It was all about old white guys not having to get up and out of bed because their patient went into natural labor at 3 in the morning and nothing at all to do with what's best for the kid or the mom.
Sometimes a c-section is necessary, or desirable! But when we said we wanted to do natural childbirth, the doctors of the latter two kids dropped us as patients.
CorehealerThe ApothecaryThe softer edge of the universe.Registered Userregular
I need feminism because I've become more and more aware over the last few months of the kind of absolutely appalling shit transwomen have had to and continue to have to deal with every day, already mentioned here and in the trans thread by other posters. And how the majority of these injustices are ignored by a good portion of the LGBT rights community and wider society at large, because of course they aren't really women.
Legally, employers can't ask you about your marital status or whether you have/want to have a family in the near future, or deny you employment based on those answers
However, interviewers are sneaky as fuck and will (have, on my last two in-persons!) ask roundabout questions that take them in that direction, or get their admins to muck through a set piece about family to test the waters
Like, I get it guys, I'm in my 30s, you assume that anyone with a uterus is babycrazy at that age because you're fucking stupid pieces of misogynistic donkey turds, but unbelievably I can perform my job whether or not I am housing another human inside my body.
Legally, employers can't ask you about your marital status or whether you have/want to have a family in the near future, or deny you employment based on those answers
However, interviewers are sneaky as fuck and will (have, on my last two in-persons!) ask roundabout questions that take them in that direction, or get their admins to muck through a set piece about family to test the waters
Like, I get it guys, I'm in my 30s, you assume that anyone with a uterus is babycrazy at that age because you're fucking stupid pieces of misogynistic donkey turds, but unbelievably I can perform my job whether or not I am housing another human inside my body.
If they could, they'd ask about potential medical conditions too. I'm pretty sure that's 90% about not wanting to hire someone who they might have to accommodate wanting an extended leave of absence. Because if you're working for them you should be beholden to their schedule, regardless of your life outside work. Sadly, they just assume women will be a problem in this area, because of their crazy biology or something.
There's a number of transwomen in the area and they come into work to get groceries. There's one I can think of that wears broken shoes of the wrong size because they can't afford to wear better fitting ones.
Most of them use the self-checkout so they don't have to talk to people.
I also see a lot of men who just decided to put on makeup and wear a skirt that day.
I have a bad habit of staring though because I'm not used to such a gender-diverse place, and there's a rise in LGBT discrimination going on as more people working for Amazon move in. If I was more wealthy in time and money I'd spend more time donating. There's a Lifelong AIDS charity that's opening a thrift store nearby. I'm mostly straight, definately cis-gendered so I probably won't fit in but if I feel comfortable in going I'll try to support their business.
I don't feel welcome in the LGBT community and I feel that I might be stealing from them if I were to shop there.
I'm awesomeing the diversity of your life experiences, platy
Always take the opportunity to appreciate the moments you are thrown out of your comfort zone. Like when my 40-kg sister had to interview long-term men's prison inmates for a hepatitis survey, and found she could bond with them over tattoo stories.
Mythbusters is the science equivalent of a big dumb action movie. It's bad science, but the spectacle of it all makes it enjoyable to watch nonetheless.
I'm a page late but this is
not entirely true
it's true that it uses big explosions, zombie episodes and weird goofs to gain an audience,
and it's true that it's not 100% scientifically rigorous and sometimes doesn't even do great science at all
but it is an internationally successful television show on a major network on which they question and test the validity of claims on incredibly broad subjects, they show simple, fun and enlightening experiments people can do at home alongside their grand show pieces, they address and retest things when they receive criticism
It is not a big dumb action movie masquerading as a science lecture to get an audience
is it bad that i want to go to grad school, but i want to find a professor in my field who isn't an old white man?
cause holy fucking shit you want diversity look at top-tier grad schools and cry
Each of the science departments at my alma mater had precisely one female professor, and they were all pretty amazeballs to the tune of being several times as knowledgeable as their male counterparts and having far more credentials.
Because you have to be, if you're a woman.
Which is a problem.
I fully realize this sounds very entitled and totally up my own arse
But I really hate being a fucking poster child for women engineers
Aw shit I'm probably guilty of doing this to you and I'm sorry if I have.
Aww no, it's not really an issue here! On the boards I'm defined mostly by whatever I happen to be talking about at the time, though that does sometimes end up being math/engineering/boats/etc
Its more of an issue when I'm introducing myself, or being introduced, because there's the inevitable "what do you do?" and once we get on that topic it's all there is.
Makes me want to change my business card from Engineer to Farthuffer and see if anybody notices
Oh hey you huff farts too WAIT A MINUTE.
+1
Brovid Hasselsmof[Growling historic on the fury road]Registered Userregular
I need feminism because when a guy offers to carry something for me I would like to be able to say "Thanks, but I'm all right." without getting a sarcastic "Ooh check out superwoman over here" in response
I need feminism because when I first started the course I'm doing I was told I would have to work twice as hard and achieve twice as much, because I'm female.
Certain of the work placements at the end of the course aren't even open to me, because I'm female.
It is actually kind of refreshing how blunt the sexism is here, though. I think I might prefer it over the kind where everyone thinks they're being equal but really they're just in denial.
When I first told my folks "Hey I think I might have depression and I should see a therapist." they lost their shit and my mother told me that I would never find work because they will ask and they won't hire me. Probably to keep me depressed. (I know that these are my problems and not every woman's problems, it's just a huge part of my life and I don't have any other way to describe things I guess. OH LOOK AN APOLOGY WITHOUT SORRY IN IT, DAMNIT.)
More women have depression than men. It's a fact because oh hey guess what we're not treated like people. I'll post a source and edit this post when I can find one that doesn't blame it on hormones.
So not only do we not get hired because we might have a baby but we also might not be able to work more often because of mental disorders.
I'm so fucking thankful I have a job, and no I did not mention to the woman in HR that I have a history of severe depression.
I need feminism because when a guy offers to carry something for me I would like to be able to say "Thanks, but I'm all right." without getting a sarcastic "Ooh check out superwoman over here" in response
That is the second time in seven pages that you have "Oh yeah, I sympathize because that also happens/can happen to me/guys too"
Shit, that is not at all what I intended. Sorry. And thanks for pointing it out--my natural instinct in conversations is to try and find ways to relate, but I understand how reductive that can be here.
is it bad that i want to go to grad school, but i want to find a professor in my field who isn't an old white man?
cause holy fucking shit you want diversity look at top-tier grad schools and cry
Each of the science departments at my alma mater had precisely one female professor, and they were all pretty amazeballs to the tune of being several times as knowledgeable as their male counterparts and having far more credentials.
Because you have to be, if you're a woman.
Which is a problem.
I fully realize this sounds very entitled and totally up my own arse
But I really hate being a fucking poster child for women engineers
Aw shit I'm probably guilty of doing this to you and I'm sorry if I have.
Aww no, it's not really an issue here! On the boards I'm defined mostly by whatever I happen to be talking about at the time, though that does sometimes end up being math/engineering/boats/etc
Its more of an issue when I'm introducing myself, or being introduced, because there's the inevitable "what do you do?" and once we get on that topic it's all there is.
Makes me want to change my business card from Engineer to Farthuffer and see if anybody notices
Oh hey you huff farts too WAIT A MINUTE.
oh my god today in the R&D department wow
our embedded engineer is seriously allergic to gluten, dairy and eggs. He doesn't die or anything he just gets the worst intestinal trouble. Well I don't know what he ate today but at one point everybody who wasn't me got up and left. Not just the area, the entire floor.
Anosmia has its benefits but I'm worried that now my clothes smell.
That is the second time in seven pages that you have "Oh yeah, I sympathize because that also happens/can happen to me/guys too"
Shit, that is not at all what I intended. Sorry. And thanks for pointing it out--my natural instinct in conversations is to try and find ways to relate, but I understand how reductive that can be here.
Relating is good!
But yes, that particular tactic can come off as reductive in threads like this--its a similar thing to when someone feels like they have to apply a situation to their mother, or their sister, or their daughter, in order for the awfulness to be valid. The awfulness is valid regardless.
When I first told my folks "Hey I think I might have depression and I should see a therapist." they lost their shit and my mother told me that I would never find work because they will ask and they won't hire me. Probably to keep me depressed. (I know that these are my problems and not every woman's problems, it's just a huge part of my life and I don't have any other way to describe things I guess. OH LOOK AN APOLOGY WITHOUT SORRY IN IT, DAMNIT.)
More women have depression than men. It's a fact because oh hey guess what we're not treated like people. I'll post a source and edit this post when I can find one that doesn't blame it on hormones.
So not only do we not get hired because we might have a baby but we also might not be able to work more often because of mental disorders.
I'm so fucking thankful I have a job, and no I did not mention to the woman in HR that I have a history of severe depression.
Maaan I wish I knew what to say to this other than "nuka that sucks and it sucks you're going through that, I hope one day we won't have to worry about that rubbish".
Liiya on
+2
Brovid Hasselsmof[Growling historic on the fury road]Registered Userregular
I need feminism because when a guy offers to carry something for me I would like to be able to say "Thanks, but I'm all right." without getting a sarcastic "Ooh check out superwoman over here" in response
So you bit him, right?
I have been with these people eight weeks and have somehow already gotten a reputation as being violent, so I'm trying to tone down the biting a little bit.
I had a conversation with a woman today that identified herself as "Anti-feminism, pro-gender equality" and I was kind of at a loss because as a man, who am I to explain what I think feminism is to a woman, exactly? What's a good way to handle something like that?
Uh-oh I accidentally deleted my signature. Uh-oh!!
I had a conversation with a woman today that identified herself as "Anti-feminism, pro-gender equality" and I was kind of at a loss because as a man, who am I to explain what I think feminism is to a woman, exactly? What's a good way to handle something like that?
I have a friend who is incredibly smart that genuinly thinks women dont need to be equal to men
It is dumb founding and there really isnt anything you can do about it without mansplaining
Posts
If we have the medical technology to end it, why do we still need to have it?
This I could get behind.
Aww no, it's not really an issue here! On the boards I'm defined mostly by whatever I happen to be talking about at the time, though that does sometimes end up being math/engineering/boats/etc
Its more of an issue when I'm introducing myself, or being introduced, because there's the inevitable "what do you do?" and once we get on that topic it's all there is.
Makes me want to change my business card from Engineer to Farthuffer and see if anybody notices
Because the medical establishment is run by old white dudes
heavens
The lengths people go to in order to sidetrack you, or try to talk you out of that is just fucking absurd
It gets stronger with the number of people supporting it! And it blew Buu to bits when the entire population of earth got behind it.
Certain of the work placements at the end of the course aren't even open to me, because I'm female.
It is actually kind of refreshing how blunt the sexism is here, though. I think I might prefer it over the kind where everyone thinks they're being equal but really they're just in denial.
Even births have to be done on their schedule, more often than not.
With my three kids, all three PCPs we saw wanted to go ahead and schedule the c-section right from the get-go.
It was all about old white guys not having to get up and out of bed because their patient went into natural labor at 3 in the morning and nothing at all to do with what's best for the kid or the mom.
Sometimes a c-section is necessary, or desirable! But when we said we wanted to do natural childbirth, the doctors of the latter two kids dropped us as patients.
holy shit!
Unless it's Hobo That Jacks Off In An Alley, they're lying.
My mother still believes that the most important thing any woman can do is produce a healthy male baby.
It's pretty sickening.
depends on your definition of jacks off
Oh my God, that ending.
Cuz it sounds like you're implying women can't jack off
because they don't have penii
and
well
you see
the thing is
you'd be wrong.
And it makes my blood boil.
Legally, employers can't ask you about your marital status or whether you have/want to have a family in the near future, or deny you employment based on those answers
However, interviewers are sneaky as fuck and will (have, on my last two in-persons!) ask roundabout questions that take them in that direction, or get their admins to muck through a set piece about family to test the waters
Like, I get it guys, I'm in my 30s, you assume that anyone with a uterus is babycrazy at that age because you're fucking stupid pieces of misogynistic donkey turds, but unbelievably I can perform my job whether or not I am housing another human inside my body.
One successful use is a pretty lousy track record.
If they could, they'd ask about potential medical conditions too. I'm pretty sure that's 90% about not wanting to hire someone who they might have to accommodate wanting an extended leave of absence. Because if you're working for them you should be beholden to their schedule, regardless of your life outside work. Sadly, they just assume women will be a problem in this area, because of their crazy biology or something.
Only if you define success as killing the opponent!
Most of them use the self-checkout so they don't have to talk to people.
I also see a lot of men who just decided to put on makeup and wear a skirt that day.
I have a bad habit of staring though because I'm not used to such a gender-diverse place, and there's a rise in LGBT discrimination going on as more people working for Amazon move in. If I was more wealthy in time and money I'd spend more time donating. There's a Lifelong AIDS charity that's opening a thrift store nearby. I'm mostly straight, definately cis-gendered so I probably won't fit in but if I feel comfortable in going I'll try to support their business.
I don't feel welcome in the LGBT community and I feel that I might be stealing from them if I were to shop there.
Just an FYI
That is the second time in seven pages that you have "Oh yeah, I sympathize because that also happens/can happen to me/guys too"
Oh, Tynic, why'd you awesome that
I worked with homeless people for a while
Always take the opportunity to appreciate the moments you are thrown out of your comfort zone. Like when my 40-kg sister had to interview long-term men's prison inmates for a hepatitis survey, and found she could bond with them over tattoo stories.
I'm a page late but this is
not entirely true
it's true that it uses big explosions, zombie episodes and weird goofs to gain an audience,
and it's true that it's not 100% scientifically rigorous and sometimes doesn't even do great science at all
but it is an internationally successful television show on a major network on which they question and test the validity of claims on incredibly broad subjects, they show simple, fun and enlightening experiments people can do at home alongside their grand show pieces, they address and retest things when they receive criticism
It is not a big dumb action movie masquerading as a science lecture to get an audience
It's the other way around.
Need some stuff designed or printed? I can help with that.
Oh hey you huff farts too WAIT A MINUTE.
Wow.
More women have depression than men. It's a fact because oh hey guess what we're not treated like people. I'll post a source and edit this post when I can find one that doesn't blame it on hormones.
So not only do we not get hired because we might have a baby but we also might not be able to work more often because of mental disorders.
I'm so fucking thankful I have a job, and no I did not mention to the woman in HR that I have a history of severe depression.
So you bit him, right?
Shit, that is not at all what I intended. Sorry. And thanks for pointing it out--my natural instinct in conversations is to try and find ways to relate, but I understand how reductive that can be here.
Just gonna go into observe mode for a while.
oh my god today in the R&D department wow
our embedded engineer is seriously allergic to gluten, dairy and eggs. He doesn't die or anything he just gets the worst intestinal trouble. Well I don't know what he ate today but at one point everybody who wasn't me got up and left. Not just the area, the entire floor.
Anosmia has its benefits but I'm worried that now my clothes smell.
Relating is good!
But yes, that particular tactic can come off as reductive in threads like this--its a similar thing to when someone feels like they have to apply a situation to their mother, or their sister, or their daughter, in order for the awfulness to be valid. The awfulness is valid regardless.
Just be aware, ok?
Maaan I wish I knew what to say to this other than "nuka that sucks and it sucks you're going through that, I hope one day we won't have to worry about that rubbish".
I have been with these people eight weeks and have somehow already gotten a reputation as being violent, so I'm trying to tone down the biting a little bit.
(I'm not violent, they're all just wusses)
Uh-oh I accidentally deleted my signature. Uh-oh!!
I have a friend who is incredibly smart that genuinly thinks women dont need to be equal to men
It is dumb founding and there really isnt anything you can do about it without mansplaining