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The Ex Girlfriend
JPArbiter
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Ok, I am having this weird issue with my first serious girlfriend. in a weird twist of fate we gave each others virginity on april 15th, tax day in the USA. now while we were dating we always joked happy tax day to each other, and usually had sex again.
four years ago we split, and then there was some drama, and hatred, and then we made upat the insistence of my wife to be. basicly we are on amicable terms now. so I check out my myspace page, getting ready to post my thoughts about the whole Don Imus thing on my blog, when i see a message from her, dated april 15th.
James;
HAPPY TAX DAY!!!
now like a moron I write back saying
"Jeeze Ris, you know every time you do that you make me want to go back to you for an old times sake lay." now the subject line said j/k in it, but she writes back asking if I meant it.
so holy shit here I am. of course I don't but this chick is wired were she thinks I mean it, and she will still think I mean it, even if I tell her I won't. I am thinking about just ignoring her for a while.
is that wise or should I explain my sarcasam, yet again, to her.
four years ago we split, and then there was some drama, and hatred, and then we made upat the insistence of my wife to be. basicly we are on amicable terms now. so I check out my myspace page, getting ready to post my thoughts about the whole Don Imus thing on my blog, when i see a message from her, dated april 15th.
James;
HAPPY TAX DAY!!!
now like a moron I write back saying
"Jeeze Ris, you know every time you do that you make me want to go back to you for an old times sake lay." now the subject line said j/k in it, but she writes back asking if I meant it.
so holy shit here I am. of course I don't but this chick is wired were she thinks I mean it, and she will still think I mean it, even if I tell her I won't. I am thinking about just ignoring her for a while.
is that wise or should I explain my sarcasam, yet again, to her.
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oh god
dont ignore her. if she doesn't hear back from you the thing will grow in her mind and she'll start obsessing about it.
just say something along the lines of "just playing along
keep it short. don't elaborate.
good luck.
the sarcasam bug just keeps popping out., and the ego stroke she gave me couple six months ago about still being one of the best lover she has had does not help.
...Were you HIGH
or DRUNK
Because a person in their right mind does not say this.
Your "sarcasm" bug needs to die, because on the internet sarcasm doesn't come out. Neither does joking. Have everything you say be completely 100% true. Because "j/k" does not make what you said any less bad. Now, I don't know what myspace lets you do, but you need to get rid of anything you said. Because if your "wife to be" finds this, I'm pretty sure you're screwed.
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If not....yea, you might want to spell out that you were kidding and just wish her a happy tax day back.
Kinda wish I could still joke around with my first. heh.
Just post, publicly along side the original two posts on your myspace. "No, I'm happy with X and I was just messing around. What we had is done with, but you were still my first so I'll remember it."
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As for Mrs Arbiter wanting me to make up with her it was a dumb college story. Basicly I have a nasty habit of keeping tabs on people. I knew that the Ex went to Truman State after High School, and I never deleted her entry off of my messengers. so one saturday I am working my colleges student center help desk when Mrs Arbiter drops by for some company. she sees my laptop open asks who Marisa is, and i tell the story.
she messages Marisa while I am making rounds of the building, making sure no one set a bathroom on fire. when I get back she informs me we are going to a party in Kirksville cause She wants to meet the Ex. this is one of those arguments a guy WILL lose, and only has to work on damage control. we go up to kirksville that night, me objecting the whole way. I ntroduce Mrs Arbiter to Marisa, they talk, Marisa and I talk, remiss, drink, and get to where the bad blood came in.
she apologises profusly, I admit I was over it a long time ago and just did not talk to her cause I felt no reason to. Drunken tirade from Ex about how she always felt horrible about it and it has been eating her up inside for years and blah blah blah. she throws up in my lap and then falls asleep.
Mrs Arbiter and I clean up and get her in bed, inform her boyfriend and then leave.
when walking to the car, Mrs Arbiter says "you dated her"
"yup"
"and Lost your virginity to her"
"yup"
"would it be bad if I said I am not impressed"
"well she changed a lot since then, and she was already three sheets to the wind when we arrived"
"meh good point"
so we went home, and Mrs Arbiter pretty much is not intimidated by the Ex at all.
Just make it clear you are happy with your wife to be and didn't mean anything by your little comment.
Think nothing you say will make any difference? Then you need more sarcasm.
"hell yes I meant it in every single way possible. In fact I'm coming to get you right now so I can take you to paris and do you doggie style on top the eifle tower in the rain. I've got it all planned, I made flight reservations, quit my job, broke up with my fiance, set my house on fire, and killed man just to watch him die. Be there in 15 minutes.
P.s. You're paying for the hotel cause the dead guys credit card got declined"
"you mean it?" three words, nuff said
I've been with that type. If you sent one half-flirty email after 4~ years and she's ready to hop into bed the most you'll get back is "omg you're sooooooo funny! email me / call / stop by / wave from your window since i'm outside your house writing poetry to leave on your car."
you should know that she would sleep with you if you said "yes".
otherwise she wouldn't have asked "you mean it?" in the first place. she would have dismissed it and ignored it.
so proceed carefully.
I have to agree with ege. Write her back and make it clear that you were joking.