Sexual Anxiety Disorder

King Moves 44

There really is no diagnosis as such regarding the title. However, I'm sure that's what I have. I was once married, enjoying regjlar sex. When the marriage started to fail, I began to feel the pains of withdrawal. Restlessness, feelings of isolation, depression, feelings of futility and a serious sense of abandonment. I see uffered extreme sexual desire, while suffering from a severe case of importance. My penis had been officially shut down for months. I had no resources to fund treatments, so I did my own rogue treatment. It was crude but effective. I slept with as many women as I could until my erection came back. I had to untrain my body from the sexual neglect and state of unresponsiveness. I also suffered erectile disfunction as a result of the psycho-sexual trauma of being cheated on. My sexual system was trying to protect itself, and as a precaution from any further psycho-sexual trauma it shut off the nerve to my erotic state. It felt as if my penis was in some sort of arousal coma. Yes, my methodology was dangerous, but it had to be done. Years removed, I now suffer a lesser condition where I find myself aroused while being tired, restless, shaking from inward tremmors, night mares, uncontrolled arousal and loss of apetite in the wake of a recent break-up with my recent ex-gf. I feel sexual nerve endings reaching out to be touched bodywide on the surface of my skin. Is anyone else suffering from the induction of forced celibacy?

admanb

Your understanding of human sexuality is... kind of a mess. I would recommend seeing a therapist as they'll help you dig through what's really going on.

joshofalltrades

It sounds like you're having some psychological issues with things going on in your life.

I highly recommend you stop having sex with many partners in an attempt to revive your libido. Not only is that... not necessary to overcome impotence, to put it lightly, it could end up causing you lasting harm through STDs, unwanted pregnancies, and it's also potentially ethically messy, depending on how you're going about it. Unless every single woman you are sleeping with understands that you are also having sex with multiple alternate partners, and still enthusiastically consents, what you're doing is not great.

You should see a therapist. You should make a list of goals that you want to achieve through therapy, but I would recommend in the meantime you halt the "sexual healing".

If you're not regularly tested for STDs, you should do that too.

Basar

Sleeping with as many partners as possible is not going to help your libido in the long run. In fact (or at least the way I see it), it will destroy it further than what it was in the beginning. I had a friend who had something similar, he was married for 6 years, the last 5 extremely unhappy. He got divorced with a rock bottom libido. He literally forced himself to have sex by spending lots of money on high-end prostitutes (like 3 at a time) (yes, he was loaded) and slept with as many as hundreds of them over 3 years. Then he hit rock bottom again as even extremely attractive prostitutes would not arouse him. I am talking about Russian and Ukrainian beauty pageant level women here. He got extremely depressed, questioning his sexuality, thinking and talking about suicide to us. Somehow somebody convinced him to see a therapist and after only a few sessions, he went back to living a normal life. Never asked him about specifics of his therapy but he highly praised the therapist.

I really think the science behind sexual disorders is extremely complicated. I agree with the above posters and highly recommend you see a therapist to help you through your problems.

Good luck.

joshofalltrades

I want to be clear that my post wasn't intended to disparage polyamoryous people. That is obviously a very different situation than sleeping with as many people as possible to be able to get an erection.

Dug Danger

Dude, you need to see a therapist.

I think you are trying to pin a myriad of issues on your sex life and I think you have it backwards.