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so i've been real into snooker lately
my favorite dude is ronnie o'sullivan
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bpeBugHSCnU
he's full of cocaine and high pitched english twang
getting into snooker is drawing me ever closer to my final goal: being a fat english guy who lives in a cottage and curses lovingly at his wife
my favorite dude is ronnie o'sullivan
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bpeBugHSCnUhe's full of cocaine and high pitched english twang
getting into snooker is drawing me ever closer to my final goal: being a fat english guy who lives in a cottage and curses lovingly at his wife
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ok so basically:
a few weeks ago, i opened the store (which means i'm responsible for determining schedule of people pulling in carts from the lot etc). one of the baggers (with whom i'd never opened before) is an older guy. first thing i got with him and asked him if he's alright to do carts- if not, i can finagle a way to get it done without him. he says no, no, it's perfectly fine- it's a cool, overcast day. so long as i have a few hours of break in between shifts it's okay. i say okay, schedule him for two cart shifts (with a big gap between). he does the first one, i check on him halfway through, he's fine. a little later, my supervisor arrives for the day, bumps into me (off the front end, far from where we keep the schedules) and says oh hey, i noticed so and so was scheduled for a cart shift- just so you know, we don't put him on carts. not a big deal, but fyi. i respond ok, thanks, i will keep that in mind from now on. she says cool. i go to lunch.
i come back from lunch, get pulled into the big boss' office. she asks me why so and was on carts. i say, ah- i didn't know he wasn't meant to be scheduled. supervisor let me know, so it won't happen again. she responds, why was he on carts JUST NOW? i go oh! dang, my fault. from my conversation with supervisor, i thought she'd replaced his shift. i should have double checked that. she goes, DOUBLE CHECKED IT? like it was her responsibility in the first place!? and i say, nah, supervisor told me it was a concern and so i should have followed through and personally addressed it. i was wrong to assume she'd taken care of it. this is my fault.
to which she basically won't accept that. IF IT'S YOUR FAULT WHY DID IT HAPPEN? and it turns out, the reason they don't put him on carts is he has heart trouble! and had to go home that day from chest pain, while i was on lunch. i am apologetic, saying it was an oversight on my part, i feel terrible, etc. she refuses to let it go and basically drills into me for a while, tells me 'i don't know WHAT (meaning me, a who) that other store transferred to me', 'i don't want people managing my store if they're not interested', calls me 'pathetic' at one point, lel.
she sort of intimated at the end of the convo that she was considering transferring me, to which i basically shrugged. at the time i was upset (partially at how i was being spoken to but mostly with guilt and concern for my coworker who had the health issue). i left the conversation and talked to supervisor, explaining- hey, i hope it isn't framed as tho i threw you under the bus. i wasn't trying to say it was your fault- only that i made a dumb, snap assumption. you delegated and that's fine. and she's like no, you're being too charitable, i absolutely spoke as tho i'd already handled it and i was just giving you a fyi for future notice etc etc. please don't feel bad, it's 100% my fault. so i still felt kind of guilty and upset, but glad at least that someone thought my mistake was within the realm of reason.
i complained about all this to my previous boss and tho i didn't explicitly request it, she put in for a transfer request to bring me back to her store, knowing how uncomfortable i am with this new woman. it got approved and i go back sunday, which is great.
today my still-current boss called me in to her office to talk about the fact that i'm being transferred back. and she's like, did you request this because of that incident? and i said i didn't request it at all but yes, i'm sure former-boss put in for it mostly because of that conversation. and the woman is flabbergasted- how do you feel wronged? you're the one who made the mistake, you're the one who endangered the health of a coworker.
and thankfully i managed to rein in my emotions and respond sort of clinically! yes, i made a mistake. i owned it, despite my immediate supervisor saying i was falling on the sword and wasn't actually responsible. i feel terrible about coworker (thankfully he's ok), but that doesn't entitle you to talk to me the way you did. and she is just thoroughly confused, like- how can you be mad about my tone? does that matter more than what you did? and i'm like, see, that's a false dichotomy. i can accept blame for an error and in the next sentence take issue with the way that error is addressed. i'm open to critique, remedial suggestions, or even discipline- but our conversation went way past that into humiliation. you explained what i'd done wrong, i offered suggestions for how to avoid it in the future, you conveyed your anger at the situation- and then for the next few minutes you continued to denigrate me and bully me, which i find unacceptable. she goes, so if one of your associates who i entrust you to manage made that mistake you'd baby them? and i said, it's not about babying- but if that's what you want to call it, sure. i'd baby them, in that i'd treat them with basic respect and dignity. those are not negotiable to me- regardless of the scope of the conversation, i would never treat my reports in that way, and i won't be treated in that way either.
she had nothing else to say to that, really, and then mentions how she only recently found out i lost a couple close loved ones in the past year- 'maybe that's why you're having trouble doing as well as you used to.' i found that hysterically inappropriate, too- but i just let it slide, since i was proud of not raging hard up to that point and wanted to keep it going. then she wished me well and i left.
p_q
-Indiana Solo, runner of blades
And it sounds like you handled it as well as you possibly could have
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
ay yo chu that boss can go get fucked
that kind of shit is just unacceptable and im glad you stood up for yourself in a way that didn't lower you to her level
I have a disguise for you to sneak you out of your house and into the safe house.
*googles*
...HM.
Y'know, if you feel the need to preface your article with a big banner image that suggests you're about to just call-out a group of people as a bunch of crybabies... why not just save everyone (including yourself) the time & just write something like, 'AMERICAN COLLEGE STUDENTS / MILLENNIALS ARE ALL JUST A BUNCH OF WHINY CRYBABIES!'
Put it in 72 point Impact font.
Boom, done.
Collect paycheck, move to next article.
this is the greatest thing to ever happen on a football pitch
Every month the company pays for these immensely expensive outings in which everyone gets drunk... so drunk.
It also notably improves company morale.
the morale is that people should be in altered states around each other more often, I think.
Let's play Mario Kart or something...
I hate this so fucking much.
Everywhere I worked in Japan basically did this.
Nomikais are good.
I also uhh found a meetup in DC called Nomikai DC. Drinking and Japanese conversation.
I uhh, might go to that.
this sounds gross as shit
It's a violation of privacy and also just stupid.
you totally should.
These things are the best thing.
there was tension between me and a coworker that was erased tonight over booze and open conversation.
Let's play Mario Kart or something...
Like, legit, your beau is awesome and I think the two of you will have a wonderful life together.
But I awesomed this because the fantasy of you and chu together is unshakably cute.
Let's play Mario Kart or something...
I do go to my team's monthly happy hours. Due to locations I rarely have more than one drink though since I have to drive home. Just the timing and days and such. Also since metroing is an hour and a half to get to work, driving is 25 to 35 minutes.
i kind of innocently said 'that's really weird, none of them brought those concerns to me'
and she's like 'yeah it's frustrating, everyone comes to me for coaching and development when they see problems'
and i was like 'that definitely is frustrating, since none of this was mentioned to me and so i was neither coached nor developed'
and she just kind of stuttered
either you're lying about people bringing this stuff to you or you failed in your explicit role to coach your team, since i'm a full time worker who is the face of the store, running the checkout area- and i've heard nothing but good things
hue
I would absolutely have been the same dealing with my boss talking to me like that.
Summer would stab me or hit me with a hammer. She is a viking after all.
Let's play Mario Kart or something...
Oh he's totes lovely and thank you duder !
look all i'm saying is i ain't forgot, that image is seared
http://i.imgur.com/3UeSFph.gif
Like, I showed the pics from the engagement posted in the forum to Summer and she melted.
And then she got real salty with me about when that shit was going down for us.
So the expected response.
Let's play Mario Kart or something...
I wonder how someone using that service will react to a person like me who doesn't use any of those sites
I swear, 'privacy' is just going to slowly become an outmoded concept over time. Like, when my nephew is my age, he'll have no fucking concept of what we used to mean when we talked about privacy or privacy rights.
If you boot Landshark tonight I have a place for him to stay
Wooooooow
Good job chu
I would have gotten my ass fired from my reaction to that