I had a nice dinner with break girl just to say good bye before I go home for a week, and it was nice and cordial and then when we're leaving she starts crying for like five minutes and
I mean, man, that just sucks the life right out of me.
I'm running out of things I can pack, but I'm enjoying my room looking emptier. A nice reminder that I move in 3 weeks!
"Jul 02 6:22 am
wish I was the lucky man to have a treasure like you....................#sobs"
And
"Jul 02 6:48 am
Merry morning little bear. May I just say I find you to be the most enchantingly beautiful girl I have yet to peep upon here. I hope your day is as lovely as you seem to be x"
I feel a lot better today than I did Thursday. On Thursday, we met to sign cars over to each other at a notary, and it was a big deal. That's probably the last time we will interact until the divorce hearing or whatever happens.
We were polite strangers to each other, and then I went back to an empty house. It was my idea, ok, to leave and file for divorce, but I am still... mourning? Not sure if that's the right word.
I slept for maybe two hours total Thursday, spread over seven awful hours of effort.
But I had a good day yesterday at work, went for a big walk, ate a tasty burger, and talked to a bunch of friends and am feeling good today. I made plans to see friends in the next few weeks and its helping tremendously.
Staying busy helps. I think somebody already said it but I will constantly harp on the benefits of rigorous, mindless labor as a cure for a troubled head. Going to a gym, doing yard work, or chopping up a log can help soothe things out. The more you sweat the better.
Just if things get to be a little too much. If you can stay happy and healthy by eating burgers then by god, man, you eat those burgers. Eat them like there's no tomorrow.
I think its "how long is a piece of string" scenario, just when you feel you know that person enough to be comfortable meeting them. I wouldn't let it get too long, but equally don't jump the gun. Hard to say.
As someone who will do everything in his power to avoid having difficult or uncomfortable conversations, I'm gonna keep bugging you about this until you do this (I mean not right now, it's the weekend). You gotta sort this shit out.
In other news, there's a bat hanging out on the screen of one of the windows next to my apartment. I prodded at it a bit and it just hissed at me so I can't tell if it's stuck or just obstinate. I should probably let the front office know when they open, so they can call animal control but part of me just wants to leave it. I've never gotten to see a bat up close before.
I had a bat in apartment situation about six years ago. It was a terrifying thing to wake up, here a noise at the window, pull up the blinds, and have a bat in your face.
I like bats well enough but I wouldn't want to have to deal with one indoors. Which is why I'm glad this fella's just chilling on the outside of the screen.
@Juggernut
Yeah, I'm eating way better I used to eat
Im working on a 5k
Solar
Do you like this work lady?
How closely do you work with her?
somewhat closely
I do like her, but recent situations have cooled me a little bit
I have respect for myself. If I thought for an instant she was deliberately messing me around as opposed to just not good at this stuff (i.e. she knows she doesn't want to date because co-workers, but also likes me, and this is a struggle) then I'd be pushing her away, but I'm not without sympathy. And to be fair, I can hardly throw stones.
Hey, things get awkward when you like someone but aren't in a place to do anything about it sometimes.
Clear boundaries are important though in any relationship romantic, platonic, or professional.
I think it's likely that she is as confused and anxious as your are, talking about it and setting those boundaries and making your relationship to each other very clearly defined can only help. And you can only do that by talking about it.
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DepressperadoI just wanted to see you laughingin the pizza rainRegistered Userregular
@Juggernut
Yeah, I'm eating way better I used to eat
Im working on a 5k
Solar
Do you like this work lady?
How closely do you work with her?
somewhat closely
I do like her, but recent situations have cooled me a little bit
I have respect for myself. If I thought for an instant she was deliberately messing me around as opposed to just not good at this stuff (i.e. she knows she doesn't want to date because co-workers, but also likes me, and this is a struggle) then I'd be pushing her away, but I'm not without sympathy. And to be fair, I can hardly throw stones.
tell her to get busy livin'
like, this isn't The Office
nobody's gonna enjoy six seasons of this will they won't they
I think its "how long is a piece of string" scenario, just when you feel you know that person enough to be comfortable meeting them. I wouldn't let it get too long, but equally don't jump the gun. Hard to say.
CambiataCommander ShepardThe likes of which even GAWD has never seenRegistered Userregular
Just going on my on preference, I prefer a few messages to see if this person sounds interesting, then meeting. Dragging out messaging for weeks and weeks just means I have nothing to talk about when we meet on a first date.
Peace to fashion police, I wear my heart
On my sleeve, let the runway start
messaging is just, ugh. lets send someone a message out of the blue hoping to start a conversation but probably won't and there has got to be a better way
Just going on my on preference, I prefer a few messages to see if this person sounds interesting, then meeting. Dragging out messaging for weeks and weeks just means I have nothing to talk about when we meet on a first date.
That seems like more my preference too
I'll suggest that we maybe meet up since there is definitely a mutual interest
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Stumbling across a Butt Street when you're shitfaced after being at the pub is the best.
A gift from on high.
They made their thing kinda hard to navigate though.
I mean, man, that just sucks the life right out of me.
"Jul 02 6:22 am
wish I was the lucky man to have a treasure like you....................#sobs"
And
"Jul 02 6:48 am
Merry morning little bear. May I just say I find you to be the most enchantingly beautiful girl I have yet to peep upon here. I hope your day is as lovely as you seem to be x"
All a bit dramatic on PoF this morning.
We were polite strangers to each other, and then I went back to an empty house. It was my idea, ok, to leave and file for divorce, but I am still... mourning? Not sure if that's the right word.
I slept for maybe two hours total Thursday, spread over seven awful hours of effort.
But I had a good day yesterday at work, went for a big walk, ate a tasty burger, and talked to a bunch of friends and am feeling good today. I made plans to see friends in the next few weeks and its helping tremendously.
Staying busy helps. I think somebody already said it but I will constantly harp on the benefits of rigorous, mindless labor as a cure for a troubled head. Going to a gym, doing yard work, or chopping up a log can help soothe things out. The more you sweat the better.
Just if things get to be a little too much. If you can stay happy and healthy by eating burgers then by god, man, you eat those burgers. Eat them like there's no tomorrow.
What's the etiquette for being all "you're fun and cool let's meet"
Like
Do people tend to chat for a good while and then once you've got to know each other do that
or are messages sort of a short preamble to a meet
I guess there's just no rules
also fuck off, spam bots, I don't want a message from you I want it from this nice lady who loves Cookson dramas
In an amount of text sort of way, I've read War and Peace in less time
WHO KNOWS I GUESS
Also I mentioned to work lady that I made an okc account and she got a bit funny about it
what is going on there? She says no, but her manner suggests otherwise
WHO KNOWS I GUESS
Tell her she had her chance, then snap your fingers and wiggle your butt on the way out the room.
Stop letting her hurt you and confuse you like this.
you'd have thought I would be but no
it's more just, I dunno
just seems weird
I will talk to her about it probably but it's just finding a good time
when you are at work, there's never a good time eh?
I find asking people probing questions while holding a ladder they're balancing on can focus the mind wonderfully.
yeah I will talk to her about it
it's just not an easy thing to do, and at the moment I'm dealing with so no desire to make anything awkward
Yeah, I'm eating way better I used to eat
Im working on a 5k
@Solar
Do you like this work lady?
How closely do you work with her?
Batman picked a good theme.
I've never opened it and don't intend to.
somewhat closely
I do like her, but recent situations have cooled me a little bit
I have respect for myself. If I thought for an instant she was deliberately messing me around as opposed to just not good at this stuff (i.e. she knows she doesn't want to date because co-workers, but also likes me, and this is a struggle) then I'd be pushing her away, but I'm not without sympathy. And to be fair, I can hardly throw stones.
Clear boundaries are important though in any relationship romantic, platonic, or professional.
I think it's likely that she is as confused and anxious as your are, talking about it and setting those boundaries and making your relationship to each other very clearly defined can only help. And you can only do that by talking about it.
tell her to get busy livin'
like, this isn't The Office
nobody's gonna enjoy six seasons of this will they won't they
Think about it a little
Then
Talk about it
12'!
Nice round number
On my sleeve, let the runway start
That seems like more my preference too
I'll suggest that we maybe meet up since there is definitely a mutual interest
Besides I'm more charming in person anyway
I think it's because I tidied my kitchen
I reckon if I clean the whole flat this weekend I'll feel loads better next week
Plus I've had some good support from friends last week so I feel very blessed in that sense!