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Omg I wish Mori’s parents would stop giving Niko naps already. He’s actually like clockwork in the evenings.
No nap = guaranteed out by 7.45 pm
Nap, no matter how long = guaranteed does not fall asleep until 9.45 pm
I remember we had this issue with Anya too and it really made me grumpy after several months of simply having no downtime in the evenings
I would be absolutely ropeable if my parents/in laws did that to me. Like, "do that again and you're not seeing the kids again until they're teenagers" levels of angry. They hassled you so much about getting jobs, and now they're deliberately sabotaging your sleep schedule? What kind of gaslighting bullshit is that?
My family, parents in particular, are some of the most judgemental people on the whole entire planet. And they'll occasionally be ballsy enough to criticize something about my parenting style with the boys, but I don't think a one of them would dare actively undermine what our clearly laid out parental parameters were, even if they disagreed with it. Probably *especially* if they disagreed with it. My mom might pout about it for an hour and my dad might roll his eyes, but actively not doing the thing we said needed to be done wouldnt happen without a damn good excuse if someone didn't want a war to break out
Anya had her kindergarten graduation today! It was very sweet, and props for the music teacher for getting 80+ kindergarteners to sing four songs in a row.
There is literally nothing I can do until we can move out, which will hopefully be sooooon.
I try not to think about it too much because otherwise I can really wallow over lost parenting and the fact I’ll never get to make my own decisions while my kids are this young. I just have to do better in the future.
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There is literally nothing I can do until we can move out, which will hopefully be sooooon.
I try not to think about it too much because otherwise I can really wallow over lost parenting and the fact I’ll never get to make my own decisions while my kids are this young. I just have to do better in the future.
Bah, you're already doing really great, both you and Mori are.
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Who's standard to invite for a first birthday party? Babies&co or adult friends?
Please everyone, raise your hand if you remember who was at your first birthday party?
First birthday parties are for the parents, "congrats, you didn't give up, sell the kid to traffickers and move to a beach in Fiji"...
Invite your friends. Babies barely recognise themselves at one year of age, any 'friends' they have will likely be the kids of people you've befriended.
Who's standard to invite for a first birthday party? Babies&co or adult friends?
Please everyone, raise your hand if you remember who was at your first birthday party?
First birthday parties are for the parents, "congrats, you didn't give up, sell the kid to traffickers and move to a beach in Fiji"...
Invite your friends. Babies barely recognise themselves at one year of age, any 'friends' they have will likely be the kids of people you've befriended.
Basically our thoughts, yeah, just wanted some validation. Thanks!
For our daughters first birthday we invited our friends and family, plus a couple of her friends (met through a mommy group of my wife, and those parents are close friends now). Like 50 people all in all. I spent the whole day grilling to keep up with the meat demand, saw my friends only when they came by the grill to chat (we had set up tents in yard not near grill which is in deck too small to support that many people). Saw my daughter for cake time and that's it. Never doing that again.
C was bitten by another kid at preschool today. Hard. C asked for the toy the kid was holding, and the response was a bite to C's CHEST. 5 hours later and there's very clear teeth marks and a bruise coming in.
The teachers didn't know it was a bite at the time, since he still isn't easy to understand, they thought he'd run into a fence outside. He told me when I picked him up, and the teachers now know but will have to now deal with it next week.
What do I do? I'm shattered my beautiful boy has been attacked at such a young age. He was quite sad for an hour or two, but perked up when he got to play Mario Maker.
Oh and I was pissed at my in-laws who several times probed to ask C if he provoked the attack somehow, or tell him that sometimes other kids just lose control.
Oh and I was pissed at my in-laws who several times probed to ask C if he provoked the attack somehow, or tell him that sometimes other kids just lose control.
Jesus Christ it starts early.
It's hard to strike that balance between "my child is perfect and has done nothing wrong" and "you shouldn't provoke other children"
We know for a fact that ours will happily share toys with others but his idea of a fair turn for them is about 90 seconds before he asks for it back. Sometimes the other kids will go nuts when they've been given something and then not long after are being asked for it back. He's been pushed over, punched, kicked and bitten once when asking for things back that he's let other kids use.
It's hard to let him know that that isn't OK behaviour and he's right to be upset and to tell a teacher, but at the same time you want him to share and actually give other kids the same amount of time that he was using something. It's getting easier as his speech improves and he can articulate what happened but at the same time he's also improving his lying at times.
The one about the fucking space hairdresser and the cowboy. He's got a tinfoil pal and a pedal bin
Most teachers take bites pretty seriously, but kids are in the process of learning appropriate/inappropriate reactions and communication, so it's just going to happen when you put 10+ toddlers in a room for 8 hours. On the other hand, if a pattern emerges, that's when it's time to probe.
My son's best bud at school bit him once, but it never happened again once he had the impacts explained. For my son, he was grabbing and squeezing too hard, so we had to correct that behavior as a team (teachers+parents). Kids try stuff, it's our job to help them understand what stuff is good in what situation.
When my son was 4 he hit another kid with a toy dinosaur. I could not keep a straight face while I told him it was not ok to hit other kids with toy dinosaurs. He got the message though.
When my son was 4 he hit another kid with a toy dinosaur. I could not keep a straight face while I told him it was not ok to hit other kids with toy dinosaurs. He got the message though.
Not the exact same thing but man is it sometimes hard to discipline or explain why what my daughter just did was wrong while stifling laughter. The most recent event was when she was getting frustrated at a video game and instead of actually swearing she was yelling "D-word. D-Word" and then there was silence and then really loudly "F-word". Now those are direct quotes, she didn't actually say the word but the intent was there. It was so hard to try to explain to her why what she was doing was still not okay while laughing so hard my wife and I were almost crying. We gave her points for creativity but I swear sometimes she's too clever.
I think I deserve my own smash cake for her first birthday, tbh.
More cake for the parents, says I.
my third child turned 1 in February, my wife made this great cake for him that would be good for babies to eat, with icing and everything. She decorated it with blueberries and strawberries which are his favorite things to eat. We sang to him, he's clapping and we're video-ing and yaaay eat your first cake.
He then proceeded to carefully and expertly extract every berry off of the cake and left the rest, he looked more confused about why we had tried to hide this food in this weird bread thing.
When my son was 4 he hit another kid with a toy dinosaur. I could not keep a straight face while I told him it was not ok to hit other kids with toy dinosaurs. He got the message though.
Not the exact same thing but man is it sometimes hard to discipline or explain why what my daughter just did was wrong while stifling laughter. The most recent event was when she was getting frustrated at a video game and instead of actually swearing she was yelling "D-word. D-Word" and then there was silence and then really loudly "F-word". Now those are direct quotes, she didn't actually say the word but the intent was there. It was so hard to try to explain to her why what she was doing was still not okay while laughing so hard my wife and I were almost crying. We gave her points for creativity but I swear sometimes she's too clever.
We were trying to discipline my daughter the other day about something or other in the bathroom (probably that she has to wash hands) and she said something and we cracked up and she goes "stop laughing at me!" so yeah, but it can be hard not to with the stuff that comes out of their mouth.
My son got bit a couple times at daycare, one time I could see the full bite mark. I just do my best to tell him it wasn't his fault he's tasty and move on.
I would like some money because these are artisanal nuggets of wisdom philistine.
We stopped saying "use your words" to my son after I said that when he was just saying gibberish and he tucked his head down and got all sullen. I felt like such a shit parent that day.
I would like some money because these are artisanal nuggets of wisdom philistine.
We stopped saying "use your words" to my son after I said that when he was just saying gibberish and he tucked his head down and got all sullen. I felt like such a shit parent that day.
I think age might matter here. Both my wife and I get quite annoyed when our 8 year old will start using baby talk and purposely mispronounce words. If she's having legit problems pronouncing a word we'll help her. But willfully choosing to talk like a toddler drives us crazy. I had a cousin growing up that did that constantly and everyone thought it was cute until it developed into his normal speaking voice he did it so often. Took years of speech therapy to correct.
I just wish everyone's timing was better on doing activities together. I always feel bad that she finally wants to do something with me as I'm either on my way out the door for some reason or getting ready to do yard work or I'm in the middle of doing my own thing. When it's the third thing I need to be better about stopping what I'm doing and hanging out with her. It flows both ways though. I keep trying to ask her to do things together and it's mostly met with "no thanks". I've accepted that she just likes to spend more time with her mom or on her own, but man it sucks feeling lonely when everyone is home. Reading other people's stories about a kid seemingly preferring one parent helps though. Nice to know it's not just me.
We stopped saying "use your words" to my son after I said that when he was just saying gibberish and he tucked his head down and got all sullen. I felt like such a shit parent that day.
I think age might matter here. Both my wife and I get quite annoyed when our 8 year old will start using baby talk and purposely mispronounce words. If she's having legit problems pronouncing a word we'll help her. But willfully choosing to talk like a toddler drives us crazy. I had a cousin growing up that did that constantly and everyone thought it was cute until it developed into his normal speaking voice he did it so often. Took years of speech therapy to correct.
I just wish everyone's timing was better on doing activities together. I always feel bad that she finally wants to do something with me as I'm either on my way out the door for some reason or getting ready to do yard work or I'm in the middle of doing my own thing. When it's the third thing I need to be better about stopping what I'm doing and hanging out with her. It flows both ways though. I keep trying to ask her to do things together and it's mostly met with "no thanks". I've accepted that she just likes to spend more time with her mom or on her own, but man it sucks feeling lonely when everyone is home. Reading other people's stories about a kid seemingly preferring one parent helps though. Nice to know it's not just me.
Baby talk was why we didn't allow Max & Ruby in our house (along with the obvious fact that Max is terrible). Luke would emulate the way Max talked and we didn't want to go down that path. I totally understand shows wanting to show a variety of voices, but we found things like Max or Baby Bear on Sesame Street actually reverted him backwards to speech patterns he had outgrown and it was super frustrating.
We stopped saying "use your words" to my son after I said that when he was just saying gibberish and he tucked his head down and got all sullen. I felt like such a shit parent that day.
I think age might matter here. Both my wife and I get quite annoyed when our 8 year old will start using baby talk and purposely mispronounce words. If she's having legit problems pronouncing a word we'll help her. But willfully choosing to talk like a toddler drives us crazy. I had a cousin growing up that did that constantly and everyone thought it was cute until it developed into his normal speaking voice he did it so often. Took years of speech therapy to correct.
I just wish everyone's timing was better on doing activities together. I always feel bad that she finally wants to do something with me as I'm either on my way out the door for some reason or getting ready to do yard work or I'm in the middle of doing my own thing. When it's the third thing I need to be better about stopping what I'm doing and hanging out with her. It flows both ways though. I keep trying to ask her to do things together and it's mostly met with "no thanks". I've accepted that she just likes to spend more time with her mom or on her own, but man it sucks feeling lonely when everyone is home. Reading other people's stories about a kid seemingly preferring one parent helps though. Nice to know it's not just me.
Baby talk was why we didn't allow Max & Ruby in our house (along with the obvious fact that Max is terrible). Luke would emulate the way Max talked and we didn't want to go down that path. I totally understand shows wanting to show a variety of voices, but we found things like Max or Baby Bear on Sesame Street actually reverted him backwards to speech patterns he had outgrown and it was super frustrating.
Huh, that's interesting. Our daughter loved that show as a toddler but more tried to be like Ruby. Whenever she would want to play Max and Ruby she was always Ruby and wanted whomever she was playing with to be Max. Made playing easier when you get to be kind of a jerk and only say one thing over and over again. But yes, Max is pretty awful. Whenever our daughter asked for a sibling we asked her if she really wanted Max for a brother and then she'd change her tune.
On the opposite end of the speech spectrum, yesterday she said to my wife when a Wednesday 13 song came on, "Mother, if this is going to be anything like that 'What the Night Brings' song it is not going to be a pleasant experience for me. I'm going to plug my ears now."
I was eating enchiladas when Anya came up and snatched an olive off my plate.
This was rude enough, but when it proved too spicy (I guess she got a little salsa on it) she tried to spit it out on top of my food. I yelled at her to stop her doing this.
She cried, stormed off, etc. I normally apologize for yelling but in this case I felt justified and stood my ground. She sulked and Niko told me off for yelling at his sister. Then both kids proceeded to ignore me for the rest of the evening. They actually played really nicely together with their toys (a VERY rare thing!).
We had an awesome time riding a train and feeding bison yesterday. Today we planned on camping in the back yard but Leah is a bit feverish and having to nap on my lap. Poor thing is all stuffed up. Hopefully not strep throat again.
My daughter told me this morning that she was hearing a song. But it wasn't from a phone, computer or iPad. It was just in her head.
I feel so old. I don't think she's really heard music from a radio.. she hates the car, and we usually listen to not if we listen to anything. And our only CD player is the computer...
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My daughter told me this morning that she was hearing a song. But it wasn't from a phone, computer or iPad. It was just in her head.
I feel so old. I don't think she's really heard music from a radio.. she hates the car, and we usually listen to not if we listen to anything. And our only CD player is the computer...
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So as of a few days ago when we put Kate down at night she starts screaming bloody murder at the top of her lungs. It lasts a few minutes then she falls asleep. She’s been a great sleeper up to this point. She occasionally fights it but not to this screeching screams. We just last night thought maybe she’s afraid to sleep due to the mask being forced on her for her procedure and the trouble she had waking up from the anesthesia. Yeah I’m slow for just thinking this. I was thinking of bringing her into our bed for a few days till she is back to normal but she doesn’t sleep well in our bed. Was also thinking of making a little bed on the floor next to the bed? Any advice?
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So as of a few days ago when we put Kate down at night she starts screaming bloody murder at the top of her lungs. It lasts a few minutes then she falls asleep. She’s been a great sleeper up to this point. She occasionally fights it but not to this screeching screams. We just last night thought maybe she’s afraid to sleep due to the mask being forced on her for her procedure and the trouble she had waking up from the anesthesia. Yeah I’m slow for just thinking this. I was thinking of bringing her into our bed for a few days till she is back to normal but she doesn’t sleep well in our bed. Was also thinking of making a little bed on the floor next to the bed? Any advice?
Have her fall asleep in your bed and then move her to hers? We've done that plenty of times when the kids are having trouble falling asleep for whatever reason. Our kids sleep like rocks though and are easy to pick up and move over without waking up.
So as of a few days ago when we put Kate down at night she starts screaming bloody murder at the top of her lungs. It lasts a few minutes then she falls asleep. She’s been a great sleeper up to this point. She occasionally fights it but not to this screeching screams. We just last night thought maybe she’s afraid to sleep due to the mask being forced on her for her procedure and the trouble she had waking up from the anesthesia. Yeah I’m slow for just thinking this. I was thinking of bringing her into our bed for a few days till she is back to normal but she doesn’t sleep well in our bed. Was also thinking of making a little bed on the floor next to the bed? Any advice?
Have her fall asleep in your bed and then move her to hers? We've done that plenty of times when the kids are having trouble falling asleep for whatever reason. Our kids sleep like rocks though and are easy to pick up and move over without waking up.
I meant to put that as an option but typing on my phone at work and forgot. I might give that a try tonight. Typically she’s rolling around or playing when I try this for her naps but maybe it’ll work. Thanks!
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I remember we had this issue with Anya too and it really made me grumpy after several months of simply having no downtime in the evenings
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I would be absolutely ropeable if my parents/in laws did that to me. Like, "do that again and you're not seeing the kids again until they're teenagers" levels of angry. They hassled you so much about getting jobs, and now they're deliberately sabotaging your sleep schedule? What kind of gaslighting bullshit is that?
When it's every 10 minutes for hours on an end when she should be sleeping is less fun.
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I try not to think about it too much because otherwise I can really wallow over lost parenting and the fact I’ll never get to make my own decisions while my kids are this young. I just have to do better in the future.
Bah, you're already doing really great, both you and Mori are.
Please everyone, raise your hand if you remember who was at your first birthday party?
First birthday parties are for the parents, "congrats, you didn't give up, sell the kid to traffickers and move to a beach in Fiji"...
Invite your friends. Babies barely recognise themselves at one year of age, any 'friends' they have will likely be the kids of people you've befriended.
Basically our thoughts, yeah, just wanted some validation. Thanks!
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More cake for the parents, says I.
The teachers didn't know it was a bite at the time, since he still isn't easy to understand, they thought he'd run into a fence outside. He told me when I picked him up, and the teachers now know but will have to now deal with it next week.
What do I do? I'm shattered my beautiful boy has been attacked at such a young age. He was quite sad for an hour or two, but perked up when he got to play Mario Maker.
Jesus Christ it starts early.
It's hard to strike that balance between "my child is perfect and has done nothing wrong" and "you shouldn't provoke other children"
We know for a fact that ours will happily share toys with others but his idea of a fair turn for them is about 90 seconds before he asks for it back. Sometimes the other kids will go nuts when they've been given something and then not long after are being asked for it back. He's been pushed over, punched, kicked and bitten once when asking for things back that he's let other kids use.
It's hard to let him know that that isn't OK behaviour and he's right to be upset and to tell a teacher, but at the same time you want him to share and actually give other kids the same amount of time that he was using something. It's getting easier as his speech improves and he can articulate what happened but at the same time he's also improving his lying at times.
But all I have is what C told me, which is that he asked nice and got a bite as an answer
My son's best bud at school bit him once, but it never happened again once he had the impacts explained. For my son, he was grabbing and squeezing too hard, so we had to correct that behavior as a team (teachers+parents). Kids try stuff, it's our job to help them understand what stuff is good in what situation.
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Not the exact same thing but man is it sometimes hard to discipline or explain why what my daughter just did was wrong while stifling laughter. The most recent event was when she was getting frustrated at a video game and instead of actually swearing she was yelling "D-word. D-Word" and then there was silence and then really loudly "F-word". Now those are direct quotes, she didn't actually say the word but the intent was there. It was so hard to try to explain to her why what she was doing was still not okay while laughing so hard my wife and I were almost crying. We gave her points for creativity but I swear sometimes she's too clever.
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my third child turned 1 in February, my wife made this great cake for him that would be good for babies to eat, with icing and everything. She decorated it with blueberries and strawberries which are his favorite things to eat. We sang to him, he's clapping and we're video-ing and yaaay eat your first cake.
He then proceeded to carefully and expertly extract every berry off of the cake and left the rest, he looked more confused about why we had tried to hide this food in this weird bread thing.
We were trying to discipline my daughter the other day about something or other in the bathroom (probably that she has to wash hands) and she said something and we cracked up and she goes "stop laughing at me!" so yeah, but it can be hard not to with the stuff that comes out of their mouth.
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I think age might matter here. Both my wife and I get quite annoyed when our 8 year old will start using baby talk and purposely mispronounce words. If she's having legit problems pronouncing a word we'll help her. But willfully choosing to talk like a toddler drives us crazy. I had a cousin growing up that did that constantly and everyone thought it was cute until it developed into his normal speaking voice he did it so often. Took years of speech therapy to correct.
I just wish everyone's timing was better on doing activities together. I always feel bad that she finally wants to do something with me as I'm either on my way out the door for some reason or getting ready to do yard work or I'm in the middle of doing my own thing. When it's the third thing I need to be better about stopping what I'm doing and hanging out with her. It flows both ways though. I keep trying to ask her to do things together and it's mostly met with "no thanks". I've accepted that she just likes to spend more time with her mom or on her own, but man it sucks feeling lonely when everyone is home. Reading other people's stories about a kid seemingly preferring one parent helps though. Nice to know it's not just me.
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Baby talk was why we didn't allow Max & Ruby in our house (along with the obvious fact that Max is terrible). Luke would emulate the way Max talked and we didn't want to go down that path. I totally understand shows wanting to show a variety of voices, but we found things like Max or Baby Bear on Sesame Street actually reverted him backwards to speech patterns he had outgrown and it was super frustrating.
Huh, that's interesting. Our daughter loved that show as a toddler but more tried to be like Ruby. Whenever she would want to play Max and Ruby she was always Ruby and wanted whomever she was playing with to be Max. Made playing easier when you get to be kind of a jerk and only say one thing over and over again. But yes, Max is pretty awful. Whenever our daughter asked for a sibling we asked her if she really wanted Max for a brother and then she'd change her tune.
On the opposite end of the speech spectrum, yesterday she said to my wife when a Wednesday 13 song came on, "Mother, if this is going to be anything like that 'What the Night Brings' song it is not going to be a pleasant experience for me. I'm going to plug my ears now."
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This was rude enough, but when it proved too spicy (I guess she got a little salsa on it) she tried to spit it out on top of my food. I yelled at her to stop her doing this.
She cried, stormed off, etc. I normally apologize for yelling but in this case I felt justified and stood my ground. She sulked and Niko told me off for yelling at his sister. Then both kids proceeded to ignore me for the rest of the evening. They actually played really nicely together with their toys (a VERY rare thing!).
So... kind of a win for me, really!
I feel so old. I don't think she's really heard music from a radio.. she hates the car, and we usually listen to not if we listen to anything. And our only CD player is the computer...
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Have her fall asleep in your bed and then move her to hers? We've done that plenty of times when the kids are having trouble falling asleep for whatever reason. Our kids sleep like rocks though and are easy to pick up and move over without waking up.
I meant to put that as an option but typing on my phone at work and forgot. I might give that a try tonight. Typically she’s rolling around or playing when I try this for her naps but maybe it’ll work. Thanks!