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Remaining calm in my final weeks
Krysanthemum
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So, I've just resigned from my job. I've been here for over two years, and I've been a team leader and taken great pride in my department running well. However, about six months ago, I had my supervisor changed to someone who has no idea about my department, and seems content to make retarded decisions without the formality of consulting me about it, despite the fact that I was assured by my previous supervisor that this wouldn't happen.
Anyway, I've had it, I found a way out and I've taken it. To give the company a bit of a break, I gave 4 weeks notice rather than the minimal 2 weeks notice. I'm now regretting that decision, because I'm now watching as my current supervisor essentially dismantles all the good work that I've done in the last 2 years.
Basically, I'm not the only one leaving in my department. One person is going off on maternity leave for 12 months, and another is leaving to move to America to study. Neither of these departures is a surprise, and they've had an abundance of time to do something about them, but haven't. My resignation might be a shock, but for anyone who was paying attention, not that big a shock. My supervisor has decided to take this opportunity to completely reorganise my department (I'm not yet sure how, but I'm sure I'm not going to like it) and has left me out of everything since the moment I resigned. I know I'm on the way out, but it's put me in the situation where it's difficult to continue my job while I'm still here, as everyone else in the company expects me to know what's going on. I'm stuck between a stupid supervisor (the rock) and the expectations of everyone else (the hard place). There's no point challenging my supervisor on this, because she simply doesn't listen to me and manages to turn it into my failing, somehow, not hers.
My husband is telling me to keep my head down and just get through the time. It's almost over. And he's right. But as I said, I've taken pride in my work here, and it's hurting to see it all ruined.
So, H/A, what I'm asking for here is some suggestions on how I can make this crappy situation easier to survive. I'm stressed and tired (I'm training for my new job in the evenings after I work here, which isn't helping either, and moving house this weekend), and in danger of throttling someone. I know it will end (16working days to go) but it's driving me up the wall in the mean time.
tl;dr I've resigned but my ass supervisor is breaking all my good work in front of my eyes. Any techniques for surviving this ass-hattery without throttling someone?
Anyway, I've had it, I found a way out and I've taken it. To give the company a bit of a break, I gave 4 weeks notice rather than the minimal 2 weeks notice. I'm now regretting that decision, because I'm now watching as my current supervisor essentially dismantles all the good work that I've done in the last 2 years.
Basically, I'm not the only one leaving in my department. One person is going off on maternity leave for 12 months, and another is leaving to move to America to study. Neither of these departures is a surprise, and they've had an abundance of time to do something about them, but haven't. My resignation might be a shock, but for anyone who was paying attention, not that big a shock. My supervisor has decided to take this opportunity to completely reorganise my department (I'm not yet sure how, but I'm sure I'm not going to like it) and has left me out of everything since the moment I resigned. I know I'm on the way out, but it's put me in the situation where it's difficult to continue my job while I'm still here, as everyone else in the company expects me to know what's going on. I'm stuck between a stupid supervisor (the rock) and the expectations of everyone else (the hard place). There's no point challenging my supervisor on this, because she simply doesn't listen to me and manages to turn it into my failing, somehow, not hers.
My husband is telling me to keep my head down and just get through the time. It's almost over. And he's right. But as I said, I've taken pride in my work here, and it's hurting to see it all ruined.
So, H/A, what I'm asking for here is some suggestions on how I can make this crappy situation easier to survive. I'm stressed and tired (I'm training for my new job in the evenings after I work here, which isn't helping either, and moving house this weekend), and in danger of throttling someone. I know it will end (16working days to go) but it's driving me up the wall in the mean time.
tl;dr I've resigned but my ass supervisor is breaking all my good work in front of my eyes. Any techniques for surviving this ass-hattery without throttling someone?
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There's not much else you can do. If he wants to run the company into the ground, he's gonna do it, and you walk away. You're getting paid still, so it's not your problem.
This is pretty much what I'm doing at the moment. It's just frustrating because it makes me look like an idiot, and makes it really clear to everyone that I'm being cut out. It's insulting.
*beats her head against the ground in frustration* 16 days to go, 16 days to go, 16 days to go .....
I would be enjoying that so very much.
I know, theoretically I should be loving this, but it's about respect. I've kept a difficult department running smoothly for over 2 years, and I take my hands off the reigns for one week, and it's being fucked over right in front of my eyes.
And really, I still have lots of work to do, it's just harder to do it without all the information. I'm essentially responsible for the workload of myself and three other people, and it's really hard to do that when no one is telling me the work that needs to be done. So I end up looking like an idiot. And if I complain, I look like a whinger. I just can't win.
Part of me thinks they're setting me up to be a scapegoat after I leave. "Yeah, that department's fucked, and it's all Krysanthemum's fault". When it's plainly not my fault. Nothing I can do about that, unfortunately.
I'm growing more and more inclined towards the 'be an obstructionist asshole until you leave'. These people are dicks.
I've never ever seen someone take over the work of someone who has left and then praise the hell out of that person. If the departing person's work was so great, the heir to the project will just take all the credit. But if there's any issue, it's "man that Bob sure screwed this up," or "Bob sure was an idiot, look at this mistake."
God yes it would be fun to be obstructionist. But A) I do need the money, so I can't head out early, and
(More info: I run a production department in a consulting agency. The consultants are alright, but management are a pack of morons. If I mess things up further, it's the consultants who suffer, not the morons.)
At the end of the day you are leaving, you wont have control of the situation under your control much like you are in now, you're really just going to have to accept it.
The other option is just go over your supervisors head and cause a shitstorm and get him into a load of manure. The worst that could happen is that your supervisor has a whinge at you but at least the higher ups know what a shitty job he's been doing.
Satans..... hints.....
This sounds pretty close to my wife's agency and she's kind of in the same situation: working with a lot of great folks, but the Top Dogs (Preident, VPs) are all a bunch of asshats who screw things up and then blame all of the people who actually have to do the real work. Take comfort in the fact that a lot of people deal with this at work, so you're not alone.
The one thing you'll have to focus on to stay sane until you're done with this place is: personal life and business life are two very distinct things. While you can and should offer as much support to your co-workers as possible, you have to remember that they make a personal decision every day to continue to work at this place. You can't make things better for them; you can only make things better for yourself and encourage your co-workers to do the same. Offer help and support, but don't feel guilty or bad about leaving or trying to make things better.
It's abundantly clear that your rather dickish supervisor has already relegated you to ghost status and that there's not much you can do for your remaining days. Try not to take things personally. Work and business settings can turn people--especially management and executive staff--into insensitive pricks. Do only what you absolutely have to do for your supervisor, help the co-workers you respect as much as you can, and after your last day, let it all go and start your new chapter. Again, in the end, all you can do is encourage your co-workers to do the same. Anything beyond that is completely out of your hands.
And good luck! 8-)
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