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I used to love cooking for people. But too many times I’ve invited people over and they’ve canceled or I’ve brought a dish to a gathering and it wasn’t touched because people are afraid of chickpeas or something they can’t pronounce. They’re labors of love. I’d still love to cook for good friends but spending that time and energy for people to no show or be unadventurous is just devastating for me.
I want to post "Maybe you're just a bad cook" but it's beyond the pale tbh
I want you to know I had the thought, though
There aren’t a lot of things like this but my cooking skills are one of the few things so secure not even you or DK could abrade the edges
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Hi I'm Vee!Formerly VH; She/Her; Is an E X P E R I E N C ERegistered Userregular
I had a meet and greet with the new people who are going to be taking care of Widget while I'm gone this weekend.
They take pictures every time they visit and send you a text with like a timestamp and checkmarks for food/water/litterbox and stuff. Which is maybe a little over the top, but I'll take it over "guy who forgets to feed Widget and then lies about it".
Anyway, the girl who's going to be feeding Widget had a couple really great shots of her:
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SummaryJudgmentGrab the hottest iron you can find, stride in the Tower’s front doorRegistered Userregular
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@Feral I remember you recommending bell hooks and one other author for a book on masculinities
Are there any male authors well regarded?
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TL DRNot at all confident in his reflexive opinions of thingsRegistered Userregular
If you're buying a dessert, ice cream is a good choice. It's popular, everybody likes it, and generally high end commercial products like Häagen-Dazs are better than what you could make.
Okay but if you know someone who actually can make great homemade ice cream go with that every time.
Home made ice cream is 2:1 heavy cream to whole milk with almost no air in the mix, since home equipment can't handle the normal mixture or replicate the air injection process. It's delicious but so heavy and a bit less versatile than storebought I think.
Unless you know someone with a blast chiller and a commercial churn. In which case, propose to them immediately.
I just got a commercial churn motor w/paddle on auction for $0.06. I'm just missing the storage cylinder and bucket, which I could rig up easily enough, and there's a tiny bit of rust on the paddle. If the motor works, I'll likely just Ebay it, but making an obscene amount of ice cream also sounds tempting.
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TavIrish Minister for DefenceRegistered Userregular
I remember driving my fiancé to the mall and feeding him names of the people he needed to buy christmas gifts for one by one.
Taking the CVS scented candle out of his hands and pointing towards the Vera Bradley store as he was shopping for a gift for his mom.
Getting thanked by name in the thank you note despite my name not being featured anywhere on the gift. she somehow knew
Meanwhile Dan and I are so fucking bad at this that I think we jointly failed to cough up a wedding gift for one of our closest friends last year. Just never got around to it...
I did buy a bottle of wine though for the coworker who bought me fluids last week when I was dehydrated, and put thought into the selection and she seemed pleased, so I think that is a win for thoughtfulness
Oh I definitely forgot to get a wedding gift for a close friend one time
I used to love cooking for people. But too many times I’ve invited people over and they’ve canceled or I’ve brought a dish to a gathering and it wasn’t touched because people are afraid of chickpeas or something they can’t pronounce. They’re labors of love. I’d still love to cook for good friends but spending that time and energy for people to no show or be unadventurous is just devastating for me.
I took dwarf cake to Warhammer a few sessions ago for a thematic food
Reactions ranged from "it was tasty" to "I would rather take a flamethrower to my nipples than have another slice"
Pizza is the safer choice overall
“The dwarf bread was brought out for inspection. But it was miraculous, the dwarf bread. No one ever went hungry when they had some dwarf bread to avoid. You only had to look at it for a moment, and instantly you could think of dozens of things you'd rather eat. Your boots, for example. Mountains. Raw sheep. Your own foot.”
- Terry Pratchett, "Witches Abroad"
"The one positive thing you could say about the bread products around him was that they were probably as edible now as they were on the day they were baked. Forged was a better term. Dwarf bread was made as a meal of last resort and also as a weapon and a currency. Dwarfs were not, as far as Vimes knew, religious in any way, but the way they thought about bread came close."
- Terry Pratchett, "The Fifth Elephant"
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Donkey KongPutting Nintendo out of business with AI nipsRegistered Userregular
I have a countertop ice cream churn and it's so gd loud that I take a thick leather coat and throw it over top the unit each time I use it. Now that coat smells like vanilla all the time. It still sounds like an idling trash compactor, one that's farther away.
Someone needs to make a quiet peltier-driven reverse thermomix type device. I'd buy it in a second.
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TL DRNot at all confident in his reflexive opinions of thingsRegistered Userregular
All I know about this is potlucks after sweat or tipi
Homemade casserole after 14+ hours sitting up may be the best casserole in the universe
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TTODewbackPuts the drawl in ya'llI think I'm in HellRegistered Userregular
Oh, I watched She-Ra season 2. Hate they cut down the episodes.
It's good and has some character growth but the story doesn't really go anywhere at all by the end of the season
I used to love cooking for people. But too many times I’ve invited people over and they’ve canceled or I’ve brought a dish to a gathering and it wasn’t touched because people are afraid of chickpeas or something they can’t pronounce. They’re labors of love. I’d still love to cook for good friends but spending that time and energy for people to no show or be unadventurous is just devastating for me.
I want to post "Maybe you're just a bad cook" but it's beyond the pale tbh
I want you to know I had the thought, though
There aren’t a lot of things like this but my cooking skills are one of the few things so secure not even you or DK could abrade the edges
How about the two of us in concert, with diagrams and schedules, plotting to reveal "accidental" messages, to make sly comments, to mutter to others conspiratorially while glancing at you, carefully practicing faces of concealed disgust to employ at your events
I used to love cooking for people. But too many times I’ve invited people over and they’ve canceled or I’ve brought a dish to a gathering and it wasn’t touched because people are afraid of chickpeas or something they can’t pronounce. They’re labors of love. I’d still love to cook for good friends but spending that time and energy for people to no show or be unadventurous is just devastating for me.
I took dwarf cake to Warhammer a few sessions ago for a thematic food
Reactions ranged from "it was tasty" to "I would rather take a flamethrower to my nipples than have another slice"
Pizza is the safer choice overall
“The dwarf bread was brought out for inspection. But it was miraculous, the dwarf bread. No one ever went hungry when they had some dwarf bread to avoid. You only had to look at it for a moment, and instantly you could think of dozens of things you'd rather eat. Your boots, for example. Mountains. Raw sheep. Your own foot.”
- Terry Pratchett, "Witches Abroad"
"The one positive thing you could say about the bread products around him was that they were probably as edible now as they were on the day they were baked. Forged was a better term. Dwarf bread was made as a meal of last resort and also as a weapon and a currency. Dwarfs were not, as far as Vimes knew, religious in any way, but the way they thought about bread came close."
- Terry Pratchett, "The Fifth Elephant"
The recipe in the Nanny Ogg cookbook is slightly more edible
The poppy seeds, coconut and flour, mixed with pink food colouring, give a pleasing granite effect
But there was agreement in the room that I'd managed the "keeps you going as the alternative is eating it" feel
I used to love cooking for people. But too many times I’ve invited people over and they’ve canceled or I’ve brought a dish to a gathering and it wasn’t touched because people are afraid of chickpeas or something they can’t pronounce. They’re labors of love. I’d still love to cook for good friends but spending that time and energy for people to no show or be unadventurous is just devastating for me.
I want to post "Maybe you're just a bad cook" but it's beyond the pale tbh
I want you to know I had the thought, though
There aren’t a lot of things like this but my cooking skills are one of the few things so secure not even you or DK could abrade the edges
How about the two of us in concert, with diagrams and schedules, plotting to reveal "accidental" messages, to make sly comments, to mutter to others conspiratorially while glancing at you, carefully practicing faces of concealed disgust to employ at your events
There's a different kind of emotional labor at work here... no one ever said that emotional labor had to be positive.
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SummaryJudgmentGrab the hottest iron you can find, stride in the Tower’s front doorRegistered Userregular
It's not actually fried in lard, it's braised in the oven in a sealed pan
Not al pastor
Closer to puerco pibil, but no annatto or banana leaf
I'd get so fat on fry bread if I lived close to a res
My sys admin texted to group that there was a joyous appearance of indian tacos downstairs. And then like 3 min later that they ran out of frybread a person or two ahead of him.
Poor dude.
God that's the cruelest cut
I would like some money because these are artisanal nuggets of wisdom philistine.
All I know about this is potlucks after sweat or tipi
Homemade casserole after 14+ hours sitting up may be the best casserole in the universe
Our families sweathouse is right by a creek so you have times in between sessions where you are either jumping in the creek to cleanse or using warmed medicine water in the winter. Either way you have the coldness of the creek or the outside woods (its at an elevation of about 4000k+) with snow all around you to help the sweat heh.
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Blameless Cleric An angel made of sapphires each more flawlessly cut than the last Registered Userregular
I work all the days that the museum I work at is open. The only person who works there even close to as much as me is this really lovely phD candidate boy who I've grown super tight with
A recent conversation:
Me: (on our third day of the week working together, as he comes in) Hey, long time no see haha
Him: Oh yeah, such a long time
Me: yeah like, a whole ... 13 hours lmao
Him: I feel like we live together
Me: yeah!
Him: I .. don't like it
Me: *being rushed to the burn ward of the nearest hospital*
I used to love cooking for people. But too many times I’ve invited people over and they’ve canceled or I’ve brought a dish to a gathering and it wasn’t touched because people are afraid of chickpeas or something they can’t pronounce. They’re labors of love. I’d still love to cook for good friends but spending that time and energy for people to no show or be unadventurous is just devastating for me.
I want to post "Maybe you're just a bad cook" but it's beyond the pale tbh
I want you to know I had the thought, though
There aren’t a lot of things like this but my cooking skills are one of the few things so secure not even you or DK could abrade the edges
How about the two of us in concert, with diagrams and schedules, plotting to reveal "accidental" messages, to make sly comments, to mutter to others conspiratorially while glancing at you, carefully practicing faces of concealed disgust to employ at your events
I’m sorry to disappoint but that would be as ineffective as my small penis
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Sir Landsharkresting shark faceRegistered Userregular
I remember driving my fiancé to the mall and feeding him names of the people he needed to buy christmas gifts for one by one.
Taking the CVS scented candle out of his hands and pointing towards the Vera Bradley store as he was shopping for a gift for his mom.
Getting thanked by name in the thank you note despite my name not being featured anywhere on the gift. she somehow knew
Meanwhile Dan and I are so fucking bad at this that I think we jointly failed to cough up a wedding gift for one of our closest friends last year. Just never got around to it...
I did buy a bottle of wine though for the coworker who bought me fluids last week when I was dehydrated, and put thought into the selection and she seemed pleased, so I think that is a win for thoughtfulness
Ha! My ex and I did a similar thing. Well.. we never sent thank you cards for our wedding presents. We kept meaning to. But we were dumb 25 year olds. The funniest thing is that about every 5 years she would get it in her head, "OMG we never sent thank you cards. We should do that right now!". "Honey... it's been 10 years.. I don't think anyone cares at this point"
I told all my friends that I don't need a thank you card, please don't bother, because yeah, you can just tell me in person and that's enough, i'm just gonna throw the card out
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I had a meet and greet with the new people who are going to be taking care of Widget while I'm gone this weekend.
They take pictures every time they visit and send you a text with like a timestamp and checkmarks for food/water/litterbox and stuff. Which is maybe a little over the top, but I'll take it over "guy who forgets to feed Widget and then lies about it".
Anyway, the girl who's going to be feeding Widget had a couple really great shots of her:
Widget has the best perpetually surprised face
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Donkey KongPutting Nintendo out of business with AI nipsRegistered Userregular
I used to love cooking for people. But too many times I’ve invited people over and they’ve canceled or I’ve brought a dish to a gathering and it wasn’t touched because people are afraid of chickpeas or something they can’t pronounce. They’re labors of love. I’d still love to cook for good friends but spending that time and energy for people to no show or be unadventurous is just devastating for me.
I want to post "Maybe you're just a bad cook" but it's beyond the pale tbh
I want you to know I had the thought, though
There aren’t a lot of things like this but my cooking skills are one of the few things so secure not even you or DK could abrade the edges
How about the two of us in concert, with diagrams and schedules, plotting to reveal "accidental" messages, to make sly comments, to mutter to others conspiratorially while glancing at you, carefully practicing faces of concealed disgust to employ at your events
I don't think we can get him on flavor or execution but we aren't sunk yet. You develop attacks based privileging of ingredients or flavors as "sophisticated". I'll go after presentation and artistic ability.
Wow, chu, that looks so... homemade. I bet it tastes really good though.
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TTODewbackPuts the drawl in ya'llI think I'm in HellRegistered Userregular
The best wedding gift I ever did were custom M&Ms in a pewter dish. The M&Ms were their favorite colors (I contacted their parents to find out) and had their wedding date and names inscribed on them.
Someone made it like the centerpiece of the wedding gift table and when they walked over they were like M&Ms???? oh I really like the colors. Wait.. is that our names? And our wedding date? Wow this is amazing who did this
I snuck out the back door of the venue so I wouldn't receive any recognition.
All the other weddings I went to were kind of eh.
Either I disliked one half of the couple or I spent all my money to get to the wedding because it wasnt local.
The other book was probably Self-Made Man by Norah Vincent.
I also strongly recommend Triumphs of Experience by George Vaillant. I actually would recommend it higher than the other books.
I Don't Want to Talk About It by Terrance Real is specifically about male experiences of depression, but it deals strongly with the same general themes of other books on male psychology: stunted emotional range & emotional intelligence, weak interpersonal relationships, etc.
Raising Cain by Michael Thompson is an older book and I haven't read it recently to see if it holds up well, but it was good at the time.
Real Boys by William Pollack is okay, though he's pretty Freudian. He puts a lot of emphasis on the relationships between sons and their mothers, specifically, and engages in some gender essentialism why mothers are more important influences than fathers on young boys.
every person who doesn't like an acquired taste always seems to think everyone who likes it is faking it. it should be an official fallacy.
I used to love cooking for people. But too many times I’ve invited people over and they’ve canceled or I’ve brought a dish to a gathering and it wasn’t touched because people are afraid of chickpeas or something they can’t pronounce. They’re labors of love. I’d still love to cook for good friends but spending that time and energy for people to no show or be unadventurous is just devastating for me.
Chu when u make it out to Boston we will have potluckssss
I used to love cooking for people. But too many times I’ve invited people over and they’ve canceled or I’ve brought a dish to a gathering and it wasn’t touched because people are afraid of chickpeas or something they can’t pronounce. They’re labors of love. I’d still love to cook for good friends but spending that time and energy for people to no show or be unadventurous is just devastating for me.
Bring in a big old casserole of shakshuka for breakfast
mysticjuicer[he/him] I'm a muscle wizardand I cast P U N C HRegistered Userregular
man if all the things could stop happening at work, that would be great. just like... form an orderly queue so I can deal with stuff one by one for a week.
AthenorBattle Hardened OptimistThe Skies of HiigaraRegistered Userregular
In other fun news to bury at the end of the chat:
My entire office is being rearranged. No one is being spared - every office is changing to better accomodate the fact that we are stuffing too many people into this workspace.
So... whee? I should have more storage post-move, but that means I need to probably pack up my board games and protect them until the move is done.
He/Him | "We who believe in freedom cannot rest." - Dr. Johnetta Cole, 7/22/2024
I used to love cooking for people. But too many times I’ve invited people over and they’ve canceled or I’ve brought a dish to a gathering and it wasn’t touched because people are afraid of chickpeas or something they can’t pronounce. They’re labors of love. I’d still love to cook for good friends but spending that time and energy for people to no show or be unadventurous is just devastating for me.
I want to post "Maybe you're just a bad cook" but it's beyond the pale tbh
I want you to know I had the thought, though
There aren’t a lot of things like this but my cooking skills are one of the few things so secure not even you or DK could abrade the edges
posts hot dog video
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Hi I'm Vee!Formerly VH; She/Her; Is an E X P E R I E N C ERegistered Userregular
My entire office is being rearranged. No one is being spared - every office is changing to better accomodate the fact that we are stuffing too many people into this workspace.
So... whee? I should have more storage post-move, but that means I need to probably pack up my board games and protect them until the move is done.
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There aren’t a lot of things like this but my cooking skills are one of the few things so secure not even you or DK could abrade the edges
They take pictures every time they visit and send you a text with like a timestamp and checkmarks for food/water/litterbox and stuff. Which is maybe a little over the top, but I'll take it over "guy who forgets to feed Widget and then lies about it".
Anyway, the girl who's going to be feeding Widget had a couple really great shots of her:
Are there any male authors well regarded?
I just got a commercial churn motor w/paddle on auction for $0.06. I'm just missing the storage cylinder and bucket, which I could rig up easily enough, and there's a tiny bit of rust on the paddle. If the motor works, I'll likely just Ebay it, but making an obscene amount of ice cream also sounds tempting.
Oh I definitely forgot to get a wedding gift for a close friend one time
It haunts me a little
“The dwarf bread was brought out for inspection. But it was miraculous, the dwarf bread. No one ever went hungry when they had some dwarf bread to avoid. You only had to look at it for a moment, and instantly you could think of dozens of things you'd rather eat. Your boots, for example. Mountains. Raw sheep. Your own foot.”
- Terry Pratchett, "Witches Abroad"
"The one positive thing you could say about the bread products around him was that they were probably as edible now as they were on the day they were baked. Forged was a better term. Dwarf bread was made as a meal of last resort and also as a weapon and a currency. Dwarfs were not, as far as Vimes knew, religious in any way, but the way they thought about bread came close."
- Terry Pratchett, "The Fifth Elephant"
Someone needs to make a quiet peltier-driven reverse thermomix type device. I'd buy it in a second.
All I know about this is potlucks after sweat or tipi
Homemade casserole after 14+ hours sitting up may be the best casserole in the universe
It's good and has some character growth but the story doesn't really go anywhere at all by the end of the season
Hilariously, prob cheaper than my colleague who offered to pick up the taco fixigs tortillas/cheese/sour cream etc.
How about the two of us in concert, with diagrams and schedules, plotting to reveal "accidental" messages, to make sly comments, to mutter to others conspiratorially while glancing at you, carefully practicing faces of concealed disgust to employ at your events
The recipe in the Nanny Ogg cookbook is slightly more edible
The poppy seeds, coconut and flour, mixed with pink food colouring, give a pleasing granite effect
But there was agreement in the room that I'd managed the "keeps you going as the alternative is eating it" feel
Not al pastor
Closer to puerco pibil, but no annatto or banana leaf
I guess you could say pork barbacoa?
God that's the cruelest cut
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Our families sweathouse is right by a creek so you have times in between sessions where you are either jumping in the creek to cleanse or using warmed medicine water in the winter. Either way you have the coldness of the creek or the outside woods (its at an elevation of about 4000k+) with snow all around you to help the sweat heh.
A recent conversation:
Me: (on our third day of the week working together, as he comes in) Hey, long time no see haha
Him: Oh yeah, such a long time
Me: yeah like, a whole ... 13 hours lmao
Him: I feel like we live together
Me: yeah!
Him: I .. don't like it
Me: *being rushed to the burn ward of the nearest hospital*
I'd love it if you took a look at my art and my PATREON!
I’m sorry to disappoint but that would be as ineffective as my small penis
I told all my friends that I don't need a thank you card, please don't bother, because yeah, you can just tell me in person and that's enough, i'm just gonna throw the card out
Widget has the best perpetually surprised face
I don't think we can get him on flavor or execution but we aren't sunk yet. You develop attacks based privileging of ingredients or flavors as "sophisticated". I'll go after presentation and artistic ability.
Wow, chu, that looks so... homemade. I bet it tastes really good though.
Someone made it like the centerpiece of the wedding gift table and when they walked over they were like M&Ms???? oh I really like the colors. Wait.. is that our names? And our wedding date? Wow this is amazing who did this
I snuck out the back door of the venue so I wouldn't receive any recognition.
All the other weddings I went to were kind of eh.
Either I disliked one half of the couple or I spent all my money to get to the wedding because it wasnt local.
@SummaryJudgment
The other book was probably Self-Made Man by Norah Vincent.
I also strongly recommend Triumphs of Experience by George Vaillant. I actually would recommend it higher than the other books.
I Don't Want to Talk About It by Terrance Real is specifically about male experiences of depression, but it deals strongly with the same general themes of other books on male psychology: stunted emotional range & emotional intelligence, weak interpersonal relationships, etc.
Raising Cain by Michael Thompson is an older book and I haven't read it recently to see if it holds up well, but it was good at the time.
Real Boys by William Pollack is okay, though he's pretty Freudian. He puts a lot of emphasis on the relationships between sons and their mothers, specifically, and engages in some gender essentialism why mothers are more important influences than fathers on young boys.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
Chu when u make it out to Boston we will have potluckssss
I'd love it if you took a look at my art and my PATREON!
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Man Feral knows all about how good century link is, so your problem will be fixed soon.
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Bring in a big old casserole of shakshuka for breakfast
Yasssss
I think I might buy one of these for myself.
I made this a couple weeks ago and it was amazing
https://www.bonappetit.com/recipe/spicy-sweet-sambal-pork-noodles
My entire office is being rearranged. No one is being spared - every office is changing to better accomodate the fact that we are stuffing too many people into this workspace.
So... whee? I should have more storage post-move, but that means I need to probably pack up my board games and protect them until the move is done.
you get to keep board games at your office?
do you...do you play them?