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Feeling trapped with hospitalized mother and looming debts
Late last year we discovered my mother had a brain tumor. Her physical mobility has steadily deteriorated over the months since and several days ago she suffered a serious fall which broke her arm and hit her head, causing her to slur speech and (more recently) become confused and overemotional.
Over the week I've become more of a sleep deprived, adrenaline infused husk of a human than before, having to act as mom's companion and "interpreter" with barely four hours' sleep and scarcely more than half an hour of respite each day. I think my presence might be the last stabilizing factor and greatest resource she has... But I'm also sacrifing my own happiness and mental well-being to live in this hospital room with her.
On top of that, we have.an issue with our homeowners' association in which they claim several months' dues from a couple years ago went unpaid. While our payments have been on time since, their threat of foreclosure has us both in panic mode... especially since we only received the notice after mom's earlier brain troubles. Fighting these claims has unfortunately fallen by the wayside and the late fees have escalated to the point that we can no longer pay them off outright without a ridiculously long term (and we're barely getting by on fixed income).
This is mainly me venting my anxieties but I do have a few real questions.
First: what avenues can I take to gain standing with mom's bank and the HOA now that she is no longer of sound mind?
Second and far more subjective: how do I decide if or when I should detach myself? On some level I want to to leave her with the nurses and other visiting family so I can recuperate, but my own experience with responsibility compels me to remain with her no matter the cost.
Heavy stuff, I guess.
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