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Anybody have recommendations for 2 kid strollers? We’ve had a 1kid Graco Modes that, while big, has been great for… 1 kid at a time. But now we’re at a point where the almost 1yo needs the stroller, and the 4yo gets halfway through our walk and says he’s tired. (Sometimes legit, sometimes I think he just wants a ride)
Because I think the sit/stand platform would get the most use. I don’t think we need a side by side because more often the 4yo would be walking on his own… we’d just like something so he doesn’t try to cram himself in the underside bag storage area of the one we have.
I see the target one has an optional seat for the older kid, which is great. We just got an attachment to our stroller that our daughter could stand on while her younger brother was in the stroller part, and she spent a lot of time figuring out how to sit on it. We never quite figured out a good double stroller, because we didn't want to spend the money on a better one. The one I ended up getting was just way too big to use regularly, so I say the smaller the better. Only get a fancier one with bells and whistles if you actually need those features.
If that's all there is my friends, then let's keep dancing
My son took off his clothes in his Kindergarten class a last week in class. I guess for some sort of bid for attention? To get his way?
He didn't get his way, and it didn't work
But now, this week, he's done it twice again. We had started implementing a reward system for doing well in class, and he knows he only gets rewards if he does well in school. Yesterday, when he took his clothes off, we let him know he'd lose his tablet (a kindle he mostly plays minecraft on) for a week if he did it again. He said he was hungry, and they wouldn't let him have a snack he wanted. So I packed him a good snack for snacktime.
And.. he did it again today. I guess he wanted the snack when he wanted it, not during snacktime.
So now I get to meet with his teacher and principal tomorrow.
I just.. I don't know what to do. Ever since school started, he has been saying he has had the worst day ever. He hates school. And well, I mean, he doesn't get to play all day like he did in summer camp. But I know the school. They are not very rigid or inflexible. He doesn't just sit at a desk all day- there's activities and circle time and flexible seating. He's in the Integrated special-education class, and has a 1:1 para. He gets attention.
He's never, ever, ever taken his clothes off in class before. He was in school 5 days/week in pre-K last year. He knows what school is like. I'm not sure what exactly has changed (more kids, less flexibility and less play, probably, but enough to cause this reaction??). But I am not sure how to get over this. He usually takes a few weeks to get used to things, so I hope this will pass.
It doesn't help that I cannot afford to get him evaluated by a child psychologist. No one takes our insurance, and out-of-pocket in in the several thousands for evaluations here. I'm trying to get something lower-cost, but most places have income limits we are definitely over. oof
Was his Pre-K at the school he's at now? We don't have pre-k where I am but my oldest son started K this year and I know just being around all the big kids is a lot to process for him.
We're also experiencing some regressions with him, he's had a few potty accidents at night and after school care, and initially had a lot of trouble getting his lunch eaten in the 15 minutes they are allotted before being sent outside to play.
This is part of the fight I'm having right now. The school only gives kids 15 minutes for lunch. Jaina would be distracted no matter how long she had, but fifteen minutes means only a small distraction will make her not have enough time to eat her lunch. It's pretty infuriating how often she comes home with food leftover and super hungry.
Fifteen minutes? What the fuck? Federally mandated lunch breaks for a workday longer than six hours is thirty minutes?
That seems insane.
I would do the following.
Reach out to other parents and see if there's any issue with other kids similar to yours? Ask about the lunch time especially.
Remember that kids usually can get used to anything with enough time, and maybe he just needs some more time.
You've mentioned that you've thought he may need psychiatric evaluation, which could lead to a diagnosis and help. Have your looked into the school district for resources? They may have a district wide mental health professional.
Patience, lots of love and firm boundaries, right?
For full disclosure, Ripley told me she didn't want me when I asked for a hug before I went to work so I gave her brother brother a hug when he reached for me and she started screaming and I tried to explain that I wasn't going to touch her when she said she didn't want it and she was very unhappy.
My son took off his clothes in his Kindergarten class a last week in class. I guess for some sort of bid for attention? To get his way?
He didn't get his way, and it didn't work
But now, this week, he's done it twice again. We had started implementing a reward system for doing well in class, and he knows he only gets rewards if he does well in school. Yesterday, when he took his clothes off, we let him know he'd lose his tablet (a kindle he mostly plays minecraft on) for a week if he did it again. He said he was hungry, and they wouldn't let him have a snack he wanted. So I packed him a good snack for snacktime.
And.. he did it again today. I guess he wanted the snack when he wanted it, not during snacktime.
So now I get to meet with his teacher and principal tomorrow.
I just.. I don't know what to do. Ever since school started, he has been saying he has had the worst day ever. He hates school. And well, I mean, he doesn't get to play all day like he did in summer camp. But I know the school. They are not very rigid or inflexible. He doesn't just sit at a desk all day- there's activities and circle time and flexible seating. He's in the Integrated special-education class, and has a 1:1 para. He gets attention.
He's never, ever, ever taken his clothes off in class before. He was in school 5 days/week in pre-K last year. He knows what school is like. I'm not sure what exactly has changed (more kids, less flexibility and less play, probably, but enough to cause this reaction??). But I am not sure how to get over this. He usually takes a few weeks to get used to things, so I hope this will pass.
It doesn't help that I cannot afford to get him evaluated by a child psychologist. No one takes our insurance, and out-of-pocket in in the several thousands for evaluations here. I'm trying to get something lower-cost, but most places have income limits we are definitely over. oof
Was his Pre-K at the school he's at now? We don't have pre-k where I am but my oldest son started K this year and I know just being around all the big kids is a lot to process for him.
We're also experiencing some regressions with him, he's had a few potty accidents at night and after school care, and initially had a lot of trouble getting his lunch eaten in the 15 minutes they are allotted before being sent outside to play.
Same school. But a lot of kids did remote last year, and his class ( all in- person) was tiny. He may just not be getting the attention he desires. Even with his two teachers and the para assigned solely to him.
If that's all there is my friends, then let's keep dancing
You've mentioned that you've thought he may need psychiatric evaluation, which could lead to a diagnosis and help. Have your looked into the school district for resources? They may have a district wide mental health professional.
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I brought this up with the meeting we had today, and they said they could get somebody for him
When I asked last year, they could only point to outside resources and private facilities. I guess for Pre-K students it's a different system. Since he's now in K, they can actually help me. Hopefully the wait isn't too long- they're going to look into it Tuesday.
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it's such a struggle to get her to eat any meal in less than an hour time.
Yeah one of the things we were told to expect when our kid was in kindergarten, was that given the 30min/30min lunch/recess split, it's extremely likely for at least the first couple weeks your kid will probably come home hungry/with much of their lunch uneaten if you pack it for them. Because they're going to be unused to such a limited time frame, coupled with being turned loose to eat with new and old friends for the first time.
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I honestly don't know what the time frame is at school, tbh.
We pack a Brain food (healthy snack, first thing in the morning, maybe 10 minutes to eat)
Morning Tea (2 items from their lunch box)
Lunch (kids must eat their Sandwich/main meal first and then whatever is left, and then go play)
And then she gets an Afternoon Tea at the after school care she goes to.
I have no real clue how much time my daughter is given. All I know is sometimes she eats a full meal and sometimes she only has chocolate milk and chips. She says she's allowed to pick out what she wants to eat and that baffles me as a parent of a Kindergartener. One would assume they would be given a few choices but usually a main entrée and other things. She's doing much better with her limited time and eating more things than she does at home now. The first few weeks were very interesting though.
I started working as a school bus driver this Week. I figured some extra money and time off when the kids are off were a win win now that they both are in school. Lemme tell you, High School kids are great! Middle school are interesting with what they talk about. Pre-K/Elementary are crazy, loud, and not you're sweet little prince and princesses that they are at home!
I told her Dad was going to do bedtime because Mom had Dallas in bed (he has a 102.4 fever right now).
She said that was fine so we watched some Looney Tunes after dinner and got ready for bed and then she started screaming for Mom when it was time to brush her teeth.
We did the three warnings (Dad is doing bedtime, if you don't want that you can go straight to bed) followed by two minutes time out to reset, then she told me to "Go away" and tried to kick me so that was automatic to bed.
She started kicking the door, screaming, so after five minutes if that I went in to check on her, told her she would NOT be kicking the door (Dad Voice) and tucked her back in.
Now she's screaming, from her bed it sounds like, and slowly getting quieter. But she transitioned to screaming "Owie Owie Owie" which was pretty creative of her.
So far we are staying strong.
Now she's started screaming "Mommy help me mommy!"
Goddamn, kid.
EDIT: After twenty minutes of screaming she got more sobbing and quiet and kept saying "Daddy, please tuck me in". So I went back in, tucked her in, got her stuffed animals and gave her a big hug and told her that I like doing bedtime and I want to be a part of bedtime when I don't work (I work 12's so I only make like 3-4 bedtimes a week). I told her that she can't scream like that and kick her door and she nodded, so she's now quiet in bed, no one lost their shit and I didn't scream.
I'd love some opinions of different things to try because me and my wife have two concerns.
1. Her bedroom is right next to Dallas' and her screaming keeps him up obviously.
2. I don't want to associate her room or bed or bedtime as a punishment, but I'm not sure what to do with her when she behaves this way around bedtime.
Ripley is three and Dallas is 10 months.
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i wish i could offer you anything but support and borrowed strength.
because my kid is 5 and we still cant get that done.
This is a whole thing with schools down here as well. We avoided the schools that did that shit like the plague. They would do 15 minute quiet lunches so no talking without any recess afterwards either. That was saved for a separate part of the day with PE. The staff also complained the kids would completely lose their shit every afternoon and had no idea how to fix it. I helpfully pointed out the blindingly obvious solution for them, but I left the job that had me popping into schools shortly after so no telling if they actually did anything about it.
I agree the 15 minutes is crazy and apparently the teacher had actually been giving the kids more like 25. We’ve managed to get him to eat more during his time by switching him to food heated at home and sent in a thermos canister.
There’s a hot lunch program at the school that he’s a bit jealous of the kids who get it, but we don’t want to sign him up for it as we are skeptical of the food quality.
Little King is coughing again, all the common cold viruses keep popping up and he hardly has any resistance built up. It sucks, last year he was a bit more lucky. I worry about flu season.
We can't even get a flu jab because we are healthy adults and we can't even buy them from our healthcare providers due to covid. I have no idea why my country is so weird with the flu. You're just supposed to grit your teeth and be sick for a week.
My wife works as a dispenser at a pharmacy and we have this fun thing every year where she says "It's flu jab time, you really should book in for a flu jab" and I say "ok, can I book in for a flu jab" and she says "no, there aren't any"
Weird. Like a month ago I went in to pick up a prescription, they asked me if I had gotten a flu shot yet. I said no...can I right now? Bam ~5 minutes later I was walking out with a bandaid on my arm.
edit: Though usually they've not generally been available to me until October 1st.
Weird. Like a month ago I went in to pick up a prescription, they asked me if I had gotten a flu shot yet. I said no...can I right now? Bam ~5 minutes later I was walking out with a bandaid on my arm.
So does that mean we can tap your blood and make new vaccines orrrr?
Weird. Like a month ago I went in to pick up a prescription, they asked me if I had gotten a flu shot yet. I said no...can I right now? Bam ~5 minutes later I was walking out with a bandaid on my arm.
edit: Though usually they've not generally been available to me until October 1st.
Same, although I assume the available supply is just another benefit of the US we don't ever think about.
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Is 3-4 yrs old just a faster growing stage? Athena's been complaining more about her legs hurting in shorter amounts of time. Hard to tell if it's legit or if she just doesn't want to walk or both.
Is 3-4 yrs old just a faster growing stage? Athena's been complaining more about her legs hurting in shorter amounts of time. Hard to tell if it's legit or if she just doesn't want to walk or both.
It can be, yeah. My 3 year old is constantly cranky with minor aches and pains. My 5 year old also grew a lot at the latter end of 4, to where he's incredibly tall for his age now.
Keeping the kid home today due to common cold (again). He has missed over 20% of school days so far this year due to catching colds and due to a quarantine order. It's doing a number on my mental health, I worry about him missing classes and missing out on chances to make friends. It also doesn't help that he basically wants all.the.attention when he is at home.
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ohmg Big Dog Shirts. I haven't thought about those since I moved away from Ocean City MD.
Keeping the kid home today due to common cold (again). He has missed over 20% of school days so far this year due to catching colds and due to a quarantine order. It's doing a number on my mental health, I worry about him missing classes and missing out on chances to make friends. It also doesn't help that he basically wants all.the.attention when he is at home.
We are going through a cold / flu phase right now and keeping kids home so frequently is getting to be a nightmare.
Keeping the kid home today due to common cold (again). He has missed over 20% of school days so far this year due to catching colds and due to a quarantine order. It's doing a number on my mental health, I worry about him missing classes and missing out on chances to make friends. It also doesn't help that he basically wants all.the.attention when he is at home.
We are going through a cold / flu phase right now and keeping kids home so frequently is getting to be a nightmare.
It is for the best, though. Gotta remember that. Not easy in the moment, but in the long run they need time and energy to get well again.
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I was looking at one of these:
https://www.gracobaby.com/strollers/double-strollers/ready2grow-lx-2.0-double-stroller/SAP_2139826.html
https://www.target.com/p/baby-trend-sit-n-stand-5-in-1-shopper-stroller-moondust/-/A-79926192
Because I think the sit/stand platform would get the most use. I don’t think we need a side by side because more often the 4yo would be walking on his own… we’d just like something so he doesn’t try to cram himself in the underside bag storage area of the one we have.
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Was his Pre-K at the school he's at now? We don't have pre-k where I am but my oldest son started K this year and I know just being around all the big kids is a lot to process for him.
We're also experiencing some regressions with him, he's had a few potty accidents at night and after school care, and initially had a lot of trouble getting his lunch eaten in the 15 minutes they are allotted before being sent outside to play.
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Ellie wouldn't eat anything in that time.
it's such a struggle to get her to eat any meal in less than an hour time.
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This year she wanted to be a Tiger Lion Zebra Unicorn Mermaid but we got her to settle for Mermaid.
This is part of the fight I'm having right now. The school only gives kids 15 minutes for lunch. Jaina would be distracted no matter how long she had, but fifteen minutes means only a small distraction will make her not have enough time to eat her lunch. It's pretty infuriating how often she comes home with food leftover and super hungry.
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I was the older sibling. My family noticed I was bolting my food all of a sudden and asked what was up with that.
15 minutes for a grade schooler is insane.
That seems insane.
I would do the following.
Reach out to other parents and see if there's any issue with other kids similar to yours? Ask about the lunch time especially.
Remember that kids usually can get used to anything with enough time, and maybe he just needs some more time.
You've mentioned that you've thought he may need psychiatric evaluation, which could lead to a diagnosis and help. Have your looked into the school district for resources? They may have a district wide mental health professional.
Patience, lots of love and firm boundaries, right?
For full disclosure, Ripley told me she didn't want me when I asked for a hug before I went to work so I gave her brother brother a hug when he reached for me and she started screaming and I tried to explain that I wasn't going to touch her when she said she didn't want it and she was very unhappy.
Same school. But a lot of kids did remote last year, and his class ( all in- person) was tiny. He may just not be getting the attention he desires. Even with his two teachers and the para assigned solely to him.
When I asked last year, they could only point to outside resources and private facilities. I guess for Pre-K students it's a different system. Since he's now in K, they can actually help me. Hopefully the wait isn't too long- they're going to look into it Tuesday.
🤞
Yeah one of the things we were told to expect when our kid was in kindergarten, was that given the 30min/30min lunch/recess split, it's extremely likely for at least the first couple weeks your kid will probably come home hungry/with much of their lunch uneaten if you pack it for them. Because they're going to be unused to such a limited time frame, coupled with being turned loose to eat with new and old friends for the first time.
15 minutes is ludicrous.
We pack a Brain food (healthy snack, first thing in the morning, maybe 10 minutes to eat)
Morning Tea (2 items from their lunch box)
Lunch (kids must eat their Sandwich/main meal first and then whatever is left, and then go play)
And then she gets an Afternoon Tea at the after school care she goes to.
Some days the box is empty, some days not.
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I started working as a school bus driver this Week. I figured some extra money and time off when the kids are off were a win win now that they both are in school. Lemme tell you, High School kids are great! Middle school are interesting with what they talk about. Pre-K/Elementary are crazy, loud, and not you're sweet little prince and princesses that they are at home!
I told her Dad was going to do bedtime because Mom had Dallas in bed (he has a 102.4 fever right now).
She said that was fine so we watched some Looney Tunes after dinner and got ready for bed and then she started screaming for Mom when it was time to brush her teeth.
We did the three warnings (Dad is doing bedtime, if you don't want that you can go straight to bed) followed by two minutes time out to reset, then she told me to "Go away" and tried to kick me so that was automatic to bed.
She started kicking the door, screaming, so after five minutes if that I went in to check on her, told her she would NOT be kicking the door (Dad Voice) and tucked her back in.
Now she's screaming, from her bed it sounds like, and slowly getting quieter. But she transitioned to screaming "Owie Owie Owie" which was pretty creative of her.
So far we are staying strong.
Now she's started screaming "Mommy help me mommy!"
Goddamn, kid.
EDIT: After twenty minutes of screaming she got more sobbing and quiet and kept saying "Daddy, please tuck me in". So I went back in, tucked her in, got her stuffed animals and gave her a big hug and told her that I like doing bedtime and I want to be a part of bedtime when I don't work (I work 12's so I only make like 3-4 bedtimes a week). I told her that she can't scream like that and kick her door and she nodded, so she's now quiet in bed, no one lost their shit and I didn't scream.
I'd love some opinions of different things to try because me and my wife have two concerns.
1. Her bedroom is right next to Dallas' and her screaming keeps him up obviously.
2. I don't want to associate her room or bed or bedtime as a punishment, but I'm not sure what to do with her when she behaves this way around bedtime.
Ripley is three and Dallas is 10 months.
because my kid is 5 and we still cant get that done.
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This is a whole thing with schools down here as well. We avoided the schools that did that shit like the plague. They would do 15 minute quiet lunches so no talking without any recess afterwards either. That was saved for a separate part of the day with PE. The staff also complained the kids would completely lose their shit every afternoon and had no idea how to fix it. I helpfully pointed out the blindingly obvious solution for them, but I left the job that had me popping into schools shortly after so no telling if they actually did anything about it.
There’s a hot lunch program at the school that he’s a bit jealous of the kids who get it, but we don’t want to sign him up for it as we are skeptical of the food quality.
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We can't even get a flu jab because we are healthy adults and we can't even buy them from our healthcare providers due to covid. I have no idea why my country is so weird with the flu. You're just supposed to grit your teeth and be sick for a week.
edit: Though usually they've not generally been available to me until October 1st.
So does that mean we can tap your blood and make new vaccines orrrr?
Wheeeeee.......
Unfortunately, we aren't allowed to use those with Cub Scouts anymore.
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Same, although I assume the available supply is just another benefit of the US we don't ever think about.
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It can be, yeah. My 3 year old is constantly cranky with minor aches and pains. My 5 year old also grew a lot at the latter end of 4, to where he's incredibly tall for his age now.
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We are going through a cold / flu phase right now and keeping kids home so frequently is getting to be a nightmare.
It is for the best, though. Gotta remember that. Not easy in the moment, but in the long run they need time and energy to get well again.