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My first char was a prisoner. The spell sword approach is hard tho I eventually went almost pure mage(with the giant ass frost greatsword of course)
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in like, the traditional having a mistress kind of cheating, someone might actually be perfectly happy with having their wife and family and what they get out of having a mistress is something different
which I sort of understood
I do remember my dad talking about a colleague of his who had one family in stavanger and another in aberdeen, which was just confusing. Like, you don't just have someone on the side, you just doubled up on mortgages and PTA meetings and everything?
I just know that if I catch my partner cheating, I’m out. If I’m tempted then I need to figure out what’s wrong in my relationship, and it’s validation I seek, then to post nudes online to get it out of my system.
not that I can remember that many
it's mainly him, the guy that snapped and killed his family then himself with an axe, and my mom's coworker with the "electrical sensitivity" who drove her absolutely fucking nuts
edit: they went around giving talks on tax systems to high schools a lot at one point. Her coworker making sure they turned off the wifi and that kind of stuff with my mom going "lord fucking give me strength" in the background
They filmed part of one here in north jersey, no I don't know which one
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Right but with a mistress, why not just open the relationship instead? It reeks of the whole “i think you’ll be here if this other thing doesn’t work out and i want to make sure of that by taking away your options”
Like those classic reddit threads where partner A opens a relationship with partner B to actually be with partner C, but once partner B starts getting action, and the thing between A and C lapses, A finds the whole thing “unfair” and wants to close the relationship on B.
well that's one reason not to open the relationship, ain't it
but no my point is - especially back in the day - it doesn't have to be a "if this other thing doesn't work out" kind of thing at all.
also the main reason not to open the relationship is well maybe the wife doesn't want the husband to have a mistress, as is relatively common
So I sleep with a fan on, pretty much constantly. This basically makes my fan a giant dust magnet, as my bedroom is the dustiest room of my apartment. I've gone through.. quite a few fans over the years.
I thought my current one was holding up pretty well. Last week, I did a basic vaccuuming of it, as best I could. I then noticed in the last couple of days that it sounded off-balance, and like it was struggling. I swear that even once, it sounded like it stopped.
Well, as I was dwelling on my ennui tonight, suddenly my fan died - but not the rest of my electronics. So I did some tests and found that the oscillation function still worked. And looking even closer, I found that the blades were spinning, just very slowly. And they were getting very hot as well. I swear I smelled offgassing plastic.
Unplugged it, naturally.. and then set about trying to get inside the case and deep clean it.
... This is not a normally servicable fan. It is very much built to be disposable. Which is a shame.
But eventually I did figure out how to get it apart. And now the question is, if I remove the dust... will it return to working order? Or is it basically dead?
I need to find a fan that is actually designed for bedroom 24 by 7 use (grr stupid posting filter. I suspect such a thing would need filters on its intake.
Spoiler for dusty fan insides after midnight disassembly.
Worst part is, no wind on my face, no white noise.
Right but then don’t cheat? It sounds like the husband doesn’t want the wife to have a side piece too.
If one person gets a side piece, the other person gets a side piece. They don’t always have to have a side piece, but as long as side pieces are happening, they are an option to both parties
I'm describing, not proscribing
I'll never forgive him for that d-doing doing doing song
but they're listening to every word I say
I think i’m more thrown by the idea of being happy in your relationship but cheating anyways.
And it's left a lot of us having to figure it out. And what we can't figure out just becomes trauma that undermines everything else.
My husband loves Chuck Tingle and has really opened up since starting them but Im stsrting to feel like he's only interested in me after starting a new Tingler
(This being a roundabout way of saying I think cheating exists in a spectrum of ways that people find things outside their marriage along a rather interesting boundary, many of which may not...require disclosure given the implicit nature? But it is often quite unsaid what needs a hobby or interest fulfills and relationships are often held up as things that should be wholly satisfying when like, thats a lot to put on a person? To be all these things. And I didnt feel like doing a bit against trad romance novels but I think there was a fair amount of handwringing about the space for a bit)
On the one hand I agree with this
On the other hand I was so fuckin' horny and dumb as a teenager that like, I don't think society really needed to give me much encouragement on any of that. Plus we're all full of shit so folks are bullshitting each other about all the sex they're totally having and/or we're just projecting that everybody except us is having sex. Like society's messaging wasn't great but also if society's messaging was better I'm really not convinced I would've been any more sane.
i essentially leaked precum nonstop for 5 years
i think people express their feelings and ideas pretty inexactly. 'happy' is a messy word; so's satisfied. people also don't understand their own feelings perfectly. plus, sometimes people have certain experiences (grief, success, shared hardship, etc) that might generate sudden and unexpected feelings.
i guess it's not surprising to me that someone can say 'i'm happy in my monogamous relationship' but then still cheat.
I recommend sleep tbh
the point being I guess there are lots of varieties of cheating but we should probably articulate what our specific boundaries and like, red-button if-you-do-this-you-are-dead-to-me things are
If I could write one history book it'd be about the imperial chinese harem and how for much of its history it was more like a senate than any sort of actual harem fantasy scenario. The Emperor was marrying daughters of a bunch of the most powerful families in the realm, and their power connections didn't just go away with their marriages. If your kid became Emperor you would become Dowager Empress, a position in practice frequently more powerful than the Emperor. The Warring States period came about not because the Emperor's death caused a power vacuum, but because the two most powerful Empresses mutually destroyed each other, leaving the field upon for Dong Zhuo to seize control of the underaged emperor.
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it's quite interesting how very similar the chinese imperial harems were - the place forbidden to outsiders where the women of the household reside
similarily closed off, similarily vast - I mean when you have like, a lot of wives, and a lot of mothers in law, and also a bunch of concubines, and just general... "hang around the court" ladies, and all of them often brought consorts, their sisters and whatnot, and everyone brings a cadre of servant girls with them
but the harems of the muslim world and the ones of china are seemingly mostly unrelated to each other as concepts*
edit: *originally
2. the past few years have been very stressful, for a variety of reasons
3. who knows what the sex drive is like without all that stress?