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Lack of acceptance from brother. SOLVED
Clawshrimpy
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My brother seems to dislike everything i like, to the point of outright telling me the thigs I like are stupid and I need to change what I like because it make me look weird or stupid. So what if I enjoy most of the Digimon anime series? so what If I like Mecha anime and listen to the Intro themes on a regular basis? So what if I don't like hanging out with his friends, which I have little in common with except one or two of them, despite them being over here on a fairly regular basis and eating a fair share of our food.
It's not that I'm angry he has friends, I just don't know how to deal with him hating the fact that I like certain anime or to him, "Toy adverts". Why does he need to call me a "weeaboo" all the time, I'm not into the same anime your average anime fan is into. Heck, I listen to the Digimon podcast, Radiomon, which is actually very informative and entertaining, and I'm sure if he caught me listening to it, he'd probably go off on another "IT'S MADE TO SELL TOYS" tangent, like he does when he hears me listening to stuff like the Getter Robo theme.
It's not that I'm angry he has friends, I just don't know how to deal with him hating the fact that I like certain anime or to him, "Toy adverts". Why does he need to call me a "weeaboo" all the time, I'm not into the same anime your average anime fan is into. Heck, I listen to the Digimon podcast, Radiomon, which is actually very informative and entertaining, and I'm sure if he caught me listening to it, he'd probably go off on another "IT'S MADE TO SELL TOYS" tangent, like he does when he hears me listening to stuff like the Getter Robo theme.
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Im guessing its real since this guy has his pokemon diamond friend code in his signature because he loves pokemon, and digimon pretty much goes hand in hand with pokemon.
Basically tell your brother to just deal with it.
I don't even know if this is a fake post or not.
if so, tell him that he threatened suicide on the videogaming subfoum of a web comic's message board and has no room to talk
if i'm mistaken, start telling him why everything he likes sucks until you are better at it than he is
Show him the fallacy of his statement - everything is made to sell something.
Well that's not entirely true, Digimon isn't the pokeclone everyone makes it out to be. There is a section in the Digimon Wiki that talks specifically about this.
The problem is his likes can't exactly be attacked, I like some of te things he likes, and I can't come up with any reasoning for the stuff I Don't like.
Edit: Yes, my brother is Uriel.
Tell us what he likes so we can make clever insults for them.
(digimon that is)
Anyways, I'm kind of shocked. Don't really know what to say, except maybe that the family similarities are really really striking
He likes World War 2 games like Day of Defeat, Rammstein, a lot of metal bands his friends introduced him to, Firefly, Buffy, Legacy of Kain games, etc.
That's all I really think of, I guess he also likes tabletop games and stuff like I do. I don't know if there's anything more he likes.
and to remind yourself that your brother is uriel
like really i cannot stress this enough
your brother sucks
if he is anything like he is on the internet in real life i feel very very sad for you and i am sorry you have to put up with that shit on a regular basis
don't let sucky people get you down
I guess Problem solved/lock?
Don't sweat it, dude. He's just being immature
tell him this word for word
"i will take that under advisement, poster uriel from the penny arcade message boards"
Hmm, I know, it's just tiring that he doews this EVERY TIME I am doing something Digimon or Mecha related, being litening to related music, or listining to a discussion podcast like Radiomon, or talking to people about the series I like.
and I agree that Digimon and Mecha isn't infallable, I hate Digimon Frontier and Gundam Wing and any Gundam SEED series that isn't immediately followed by the word Astray.
That should shut him up right quick
I'm kinda apathetic when it comes to getting in arguements with him, because it usually goes nowhere. He's thinks he's right, and nothing I can say will change his mind. even when I gave him a very good example of a Character Developement in the second Digimon Series, he shot it down.
You shouldn't have to justify why you like something to anyone, especially Uriel
If he's gonna be a dick about your interests, fuck him. Even if he doesn't see the... artistic merit of digimon, he should at least be polite enough to see you like it and leave you to it.
Pretty much if he's not gonna be respectful his opinion isn't worth shit, and you shouldn't value it. Using any of the replies from this topic should cut off discussions with a quickness, which is all you really need to do, in my opinion. No use seeking acceptance from assholes.
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It's just, he's my brother, you know? I don't want to have a bad relationship with him, he's family.
Mom does want us to try not to kill each other while we're living together.
I just don't know if ignoring him or telling him I don't want to argue why he hates what I enjoy, will work or not, cause 1. He will keep trying till he gets a respose, and 2. I don't like to be rude to someone.
Your brother will grow out of this. I don't know your ages but I didn't get along with my brother until I was about 19 and he was 14 and that was mainly because I started being the mature one. It just got better from there.
So yeah, in the meantime, just don't do anything you will regret down the road (like give him scars or something) and always remember that you're family.
But take into account I'm also disabled so I'm only Mentally/Emotionally about 15, but I'm also very smart, so I have the ability to act like an adult.
As I said I'n my edit, I'm disabled, so I have the emotional state of a kid, but the maturity and inteligence of an adult, allthough It might be hampered a bit.
But other than that, I don't like to drink at all, I had alcohol once and I didn't enjoy it.
Just ignore what he says. Or call him Uriel instead of by his real name.
The thing is, is he doesn't act like he's making fun of me, he acts like it's something "wrong" that needs to be "corrected". but thanks everyone, I'll try this.
Your concern seems to be keeping a good and healthy relationship with your brother, however, I do not see that behavior reciprocated in his desire to constantly tell you that your hobbies are wrong and stupid.
So you have to come to a decision
Do you sit him down and try to talk to him like an adult? Does he respond well? If not...
Ignore him.
Play him at his own game.
Both will most likely result in the same thing - him still being a dick.
Or worse, what I'm trying to avoid, violence.
Although, that line of thinking is completely false because fosters home for imaginary friends owns.
That's for you to gauge. I know that as bad as me and my brother might argue - it'll never turn into a fist fight.
I know that as bad as my father and I WILL argue - he would not hesitate to hit me. Good thing my muscle taking the shot would do more harm to him than his hit would do to me.
So again - you need to gauge whether or not your brother is dick enough to hit you over an argument about digimon.
If he is - hope he grows out of being an immature asshole. But really - talking is the best route, but I doubt he'll listen cause I'm a cynic
He has mood swing problems, he seems to get angry over little things very easily.
after a while i couldnt be fucked trying to argue with him, cos as you said, its just gonna get shot down and hes not gonna be swayed at all
basically i just started ignoring him to avoid arguments and also partly to see him get pissed off when he expects a reaction
i dont mean silent treatment, but maybe while hes talking or just finishing up what hes saying you could say something like 'blah blah blah' while dismissing him with a wave of the hand and turn your head back to watching the anime or whatever you were doing until he shuts up or leaves
and maybe if he keeps on talking you can look back at him for a moment and say somethin like 'yea okay' in a slightly sarcastic way so it sounds like you are just agreeing with him to get him to shutup and you havent really been listening to anything he said
its not really what you would call assertive, but hes gonna keep trying to tell you what to do if he thinks you might listen or get annoyed or something. this way you can make it pretty clear that you dont really care what hes saying, and you arent even gonna bother trying to argue or justify your tastes to him
he might keep trying to say that stuff to you anyway, but ive found with my brother you can save a lot of energy by just brushing him off and not paying attention to him, because you wont let yourself get upset about what hes saying, and it can all be over a lot quicker. he might see that hes not gonna get through to you, or finish what he wants to say and then leave, and you save yourself from giving good examples of character development that wont get anywhere
obviously by not actually replying in any way you arent gonna be able to change his mind at all, but since hes being a tool youre not gonna have much luck talking things through, and its not like you need his approval to like things
i should probably warn though, that there is opportunity for fights to arise from this if you are having fights already. sometimes this kinda repeated ignoring would piss my brother off a lot, and i might be forced to actually respond in some way. the difference now is, hes already upset while you should be pretty calm, even though hes the one trying to pick on you for no good reason. so fights can still happen, but you can try to make sure that he gets mad instead of just making you angry. and since he starts it, he might try to avoid it a bit more in future
um i kinda wrote all that up thinking uriel was your older brother being a dick and there was nothing much else to it. but hell it probably still applies, just one brother trying to act all superior and being a dick to the other to raise their own ego or something
Close your door, lock the door and change the tune to something from gundam seed.
If he doesn't like gundam seed's tunes he has no soul.
Anyway - next time he criticizes your likes - zone him out. Say yes to everything he says, agree with him, but keep on doing what you're doing - enjoy your hobbies and interests. No one should make you feel insecure for watching a television show.
But you shouldn't respond with vocal rebuffs that will inevitably lead to him getting reasonably pissy.
If you agree with him, or close your door and ignore him - but go about your own thing - he can't bitch really. You've done all you can do.
Also, listen with headphones if it's that big of a deal. I know that my brother and I had issues with that. I always wear headphones, he has a 5,000 dollar surround system that he blasts with base and yeah, it got annoying, regardless of the music.
I'll try that, I'll go ahead and put solved in the thread title so this can get a lock, there not much other advice I think I can get, I think this has run it's course.
He knows a a bit of it, but not very much.
While I'm actively trying to learn japanese.