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Brett Ashley
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I'm in love with this guy but I screwed up alot of things in the early stages of our relationship... I mean REALLY screwed up. But now we're both leaving for college and I want to do something to prove my love for him is real. Any crazy ideas?
Help. Please? O_o
Help. Please? O_o
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Don't. If you love him, let him go, etc. etc.
Thats the only advice I could really give in this situation. Guys like it when girls show interest in them, but they either get annoyed with too much of it, or think the girls a slut. Bad either way.
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Basically, I know I'm going to let him go, especially when college starts but, I still have a very limited amount of time to just show him that I love him and he'll always be with me. He's a great guy, amazing in fact and I need ideas to show him in a BIG way that he didnt waste his time on me.
Keep it simple. Make sure that you totally explain your feelings, because as a guy, we're pretty dense. I know if a girl I was kinda seeing (and it sounds like that's the case here), all of a sudden did something big and romantic, I'd be pretty stoked. If she then "let me go", then I'd be confused as hell, and probably a bit angry/jaded with her.
Just make sure your intentions (or lack thereof) are explicitly known.
As far as things to do for him, this is gonna sound corny and possibly construed as sexist, but I absolutely love it when women (and really this would apply to guys as well) cook for me. I had a girl from back home visiting me here in the UK, and I had to go out of town for a day for work. When I got home, she had baked me a Chocolate Cheesecake from scratch.
That really was an indication to me that she really cared about me.
But maybe that's just me.
Anything the both of you would talk about doing but never did? Do it. Take a day trip, make him dinner, have a picnic at the beach, go to an amusement park, go bike riding... Do the things that both of you enjoy together.
Don't be worried about making some big point just make some happy memories together.
But right now he's on his way to you're house - ready to tell you you're gonna be all right.
... thread over?
Its not just you
I also agree with Mr Pokeylope, just enjoy the time you have left together. Dont be too over-the-top like you're trying to compensate for whatever it is you might have done wrong, just try to enjoy things.
Best of luck with it.
edit : Haha, what a classic. I'm guessing MateriaMaster is the guy, then
Don't do anything crazy. Just spend time together. That's all you really need.
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Yea. He's amazing.
And I'm always going to love him.
People feel this way a lot when they’re 18 and a lover is going off to high school. Then they get over it.
If you're in predator mode, you're just going to create a lot of uncomfortable tension.
I've got something of a there and back again relationship going right now where after we dated, and stopped dating, she "wants" me again, but there are complications (fear of relationships, distance, etc) in the way.
Pressing the issue just makes things less comfortable. Relaxing about it lets us laugh and gossip like good friends.
You can put your interest out there, and let it be known, but the important thing is being friends.
Either way, the more specific you can be about these circumstances will in turn help generate better, more specific advice. (Part of me thinks you have been vague up to this point may be because you are embarrassed about these “mistakes”.)
I... didn't... need... this... when... I'm... so... lonely *sobsobsob*
You're enjoying your day
Everything's going your way
Then along comes Debbie Downer.
Always there to tell you 'bout a new disease
A car accident or killer bees
You'll beg her to spare you, "Debbie, Please!"
But you can't stop Debbie Downer!
Also, just write him a nice letter. At most. Make sure its just "I'm sorry for whatever" and not anything guiltrippy, because apart from that being an arsehole move, you'll regret it down the track. 'Crazy gestures' only work in romantic movies, and that's because the characters in romantic movies are written to be entirely mental. To pinch a favourite example from Feral, go watch You've Got Mail, and take note of how a perfectly normal if slightly flaky woman decides that the man who ruins her business, e-stalks her, and manipulates her emotionally must logically be the love of her life. Its a bit broken.
You're eighteen. You don't have a clue about true love. The sooner you realise this the easier life will be.
Oh god im liming that for Truth, this thread has made me feel embarrassed for you guys more than anything else.
Co-dependency.
Seriously though, something to consider...
We talked and basically all we both wanted was to leave each other on a good note, not upset at each other. Our almost two year relationship was a roller coaster of craziness and she just wanted us to both stay in touch and be good friends. And yes there there were some tears, mostly mine (Scrubs reference FTW), and we're both acting like grown ups about it.
Yes yes, I we understand that long distance relationships are ridiculous if it's mean to be it's meant to be etc etc.
Really she was just looking for a way to get my attention and have me come talk to her, either from you guys or if this thread itself was it (it was damn touching, it was)
Try to welcome her to the boards, she had been meaning to join for a while actually.
But seriously, like I said before, thread over gents. :P