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Do you think you're grown up?
electricitylikesme
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This is an idea I thought I'd take from The Cat's post in the transhumanism thread.
Basically the question is, do you feel like an adult?
A lot of people I know would probably say that generally, no they don't. To a very large degree I would say during the day I don't, but I would attribute that to my quasi-trustfund kiddie nature (wherein I haven't needed to work to put myself through university etc.) However, to an extent I think it's contextual. When I'm around teenagers/children I tend to feel slightly more responsible then I remember. When stuff like medical situations precipitates, there's the sudden feeling that I should do something - which thus far I've been pleased with since I've acted in the way I wanted to in those situations.
So I pose the question to D&D - do you feel like an adult at your age? And what sort of situations make you feel like this?
Basically the question is, do you feel like an adult?
A lot of people I know would probably say that generally, no they don't. To a very large degree I would say during the day I don't, but I would attribute that to my quasi-trustfund kiddie nature (wherein I haven't needed to work to put myself through university etc.) However, to an extent I think it's contextual. When I'm around teenagers/children I tend to feel slightly more responsible then I remember. When stuff like medical situations precipitates, there's the sudden feeling that I should do something - which thus far I've been pleased with since I've acted in the way I wanted to in those situations.
So I pose the question to D&D - do you feel like an adult at your age? And what sort of situations make you feel like this?
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Edit: I'm 25
But i yearn to just sit around and play games, or write. Which makes me and my girlfriend think of me as a child
Edit* That last line sounds a bit weird when i read it back
edit: I'll hit 30 later this year.
I don't really feel like one though.
edit: Just turned 26.
The funny thing is, people walk into my bedroom and see everything a "kid" would usually have, scattered everywhere; comics, figures, video games, gadgets. I'm always told I should grow up or start saving up money for a house/car, which is completely unrealistic. I'm a student and I only work a few days a week.
I have to be honest though, I look around my room, and I'm completely happy with the way I am at the moment. I don't think there's anything wrong with being Peter Pan.
edit - I'm 20, if that matters for some reason.
No idea how you define "adult", though. I know people in their fifties who act more childish than my little nephew and I know kids half my age who act more mature than me.
I dunno, there should be something in that definition about responsibilities and level-headedness.
On this basis, I don't feel that I'm an adult.
Ok, so, I'm living at my parent's house, cause she's out of the country and rent is rather expensive. While I don't really make too much, that ought to be changing quite soon. Like, I'm pretty damn competent at my work, and haven't be flipping out much at all, at work. So yeah.
getting out a fair bit more and recently have gotten a fair amount of my shit together. I smoke too much and watch an awful lot of cartoons, but it is not like I watch all that much normal tv. Other than some select sporting events, and maybe 2 hours of prime time a week, I don't watch much. So that's probably not that bad. It's not like I even spend much money on anime either, and I'll be paying for broadband as long as I can afford it.
I look around at people, and honestly, I don't seem that far from the norm. Ok, I do live in florida.
The bar is pretty low.
This is only going to get more pronounced at time goes on. As people live longer the adult ages will change. Teenagers used to be considered maturing adults. I have never seen a teenager that I would even consider to be a maturing adult. VERY premature. The twenties will eventually become the new teens and the thirties will be the new twenties.
nerdy: Hobbits!
Hobbits are adults when they turn 34, because they usually live for 100 years.
normal: Medieval centuries!
There's a reason people got married around their 15th birthday, they were lucky if they survived till 30.
18 is an arbitrary line.
Yea? And I blame the baby boomers.
I blame modern medicine.
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This has nothing to do with a natural progression or longer life, young people are just coddled longer by their parents. There hasn't been a biological change now days, teenagers and increasingly people in their 20's don't have to take responsiblity for themselves and someone else fixes their mistakes. So they are immature and irresponsible.
It's as simple as that.
But, I am quite immature when it comes to relationships, as I haven't had a real one yet. So, up some, down some.
I am moving out of the house at the end of the month because I finished my degree and I have the money to do so, but I'll have to shape up to become "adult." I still leave my dishes in the sink overnight and let my laundry pile up when I'm lazy, I still haven't learned to drive, and I still don't organize myself at all because others have always done it for me.
It's true that the age of adulthood in the western world really isn't 18 anymore. 18 is the point where you start to consider taking responsibility for yourself. Most people are "adults" by 24 or 25 from my experience, although sometimes it does take longer.
Rent, depending on where, is between 1500 and 2000 a month in Manhattan, and easily as much in, say, Hoboken or the waterfront of Jersey City. In order to get decent rent prices, you have to find some shitty ass slum and hope you don't get shot. So at this point I'm saving up like mad so I can move out as soon as possible, but I still probably won't be able to, financially, until the end of this year, and I'm 23.
Where you live determines when you can move out.
Why? I mean, I understand using "all" of one's resources is kind of dumb, but I assume you're using the word as a superlative. If it makes you happy and gives you some amount of fulfillment, what's the problem?
Just living for your own happiness and all that.
I sort of agree. Obviously the standard requirements take precedence - rent, food, bills, savings, etc - but what you do with your spending money is your own choice. If someone wants to spend their extra money on video games because it makes them happy, then who are we to question that?
Same deal with time. As long as hobbies don't interfere with the important matters in life, I think people can spend as much time as they want playing their games or building train sets or golfing. In fact, when you're not out with friends or at work, what else do you do? Hobbies are there to give you something fulfilling or entertaining when you're not doing anything else.
That's nothing to do with maturity, it's because of the pink dress and pigtails.
And probably because of the Harry Potter and Pokeyman.
...and the dress looks good on me.
I feel like this.
Seriously I'd really like a job.
My late-teens and 20's (pardon the cliche') flew by.
Anyone else feel similar?
The ultimate symbol of childishness, to me, is selfishness and self-centered-ness. They are two different things that must both be put away in order to be "grown up". I try to put them away every day, and I will continue to try in the future. I am an adult.
--LeVar Burton
Yup.
just goes to show that your life doesn't make you an adult... age always is unfortunately a factor!
everyone around me treats me like an adult, my social scene is mostly 10 years older than me (work and my sons friends parents), most don't even know how old i am, and when asked think i'm at least twenty six or so.... but i know i'm young... and feel it most of the time.
it's pretty damn frustrating sometimes.