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I'm not allowed to tell my sister that I'm her brother

DirtyDirtyVagrantDirtyDirtyVagrant Registered User regular
edited July 2007 in Help / Advice Forum
Well, half sister.

My mother had a child removed from her care, and my aunt adopted her. This girl is almost 8 years old, and she doesn't know who her mother, her father, or her brothers/sister are. However, she knows that she has them, and that her current parents are not her biological parents.

I feel pretty bad for her, but her mother basically allows me to exist. At least for the next couple of weeks. When I inevitably (sp) leave her home, should I tell my sister who she is? Or should I just let my aunt keep isolating her?

I'm not sure if it's relevant, but I think that her "mother" is raising her quite poorly. And she's not my child, but...you know. Is that selfish?

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  • Bliss 101Bliss 101 Registered User regular
    edited July 2007
    Eight?

    You can only cause harm by telling her at this point in time.

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  • DirtyDirtyVagrantDirtyDirtyVagrant Registered User regular
    edited July 2007
    Ehhh....I suppose 8 is a bit young, but still. It *really* bugs me. It's like a bad itch.

    Edit: I wonder if it's important that she's actually met her biological mother, brothers, and her sister, and she lives within 5 blocks of any one of them. In a small town.

    Double edit: And goddamn it, what the fuck is up with my avatar? Grifter changed it, I removed it, and it STILL shows up at the same old...russian chick from Venture Bros...can't remember her name. Eh...end tangent.

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  • PheezerPheezer Registered User, ClubPA regular
    edited July 2007
    oh muffin

    it bugs you

    well in that case let's disregard any thoughts as to what might be best for the child and go ahead and shoot our mouths off

    because that won't completely alienate what half of your family or more?

    and the best thing for any 8 year old is to think that everyone she knows is a terrible liar

    maybe you could just buck up. Whether you agree with it or not the decision has been made by her parents and it's too late for you to do anything but make things worse for everyone involved.

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  • FellhandFellhand Registered User regular
    edited July 2007
    You only drop bombs like that on people when they are stable and 18, not 8 and trying to figure out which teletubbie is the gay one.

    Edit: What I'm saying is that if you tell her you are a horrible person, to put it bluntly.

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  • DirtyDirtyVagrantDirtyDirtyVagrant Registered User regular
    edited July 2007
    Okay, thank you. I will not be telling her, then, until she is older.

    That wasn't so hard.

    Edit: And don't call me "muffin."

    Shit.

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