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Trying to land a Gamer Girl
JaysonFour
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So my friends and I were having a little tournament of Mario Kart: Double Dash a few nights ago, and it was a random draw tournament- i.e. we all dropped our names on little slips of paper into a jar, got someone who wasn't playing to draw out the names, and I end up with a friend of my sister's by the name of Jaime. She's not bad looking- somewhat pretty, mite bit overweight, pretty voice, lot of fun to be with, and is a monster with a controller in her hands. During the sixteen-race marathon, she tells me that she's going to be lining up to grab Halo 3 when it comes out so she can play it. By now, you can tell, I'm kind of attracted to her. I don't know how the hell to approach her outside of video games.
I'm buying a 360 with my student aid/loan balance check (yay for mostly free money you can take forever to pay back!) along with a few games. There is a chance I'd be willing to spring for a copy of Halo 3 just to have an excuse to ask her for her Gamertag or whatever the hell you call it.
I don't have a problem with the way she looks- hell, I look like I've tossed back a few too many single Whopper meals, and for the longest time, I assumed that girls always thought a mask of my face should be hanging next to the Devil and Hockey Mask faces at costume stores, but she generally seems to not mind spending time with me. Little sister informs me Jaime doesn't have a significant other currently, and I'm feeling like I need to make a move.
So, anyone have a suggestion on what to do?
I'm buying a 360 with my student aid/loan balance check (yay for mostly free money you can take forever to pay back!) along with a few games. There is a chance I'd be willing to spring for a copy of Halo 3 just to have an excuse to ask her for her Gamertag or whatever the hell you call it.
I don't have a problem with the way she looks- hell, I look like I've tossed back a few too many single Whopper meals, and for the longest time, I assumed that girls always thought a mask of my face should be hanging next to the Devil and Hockey Mask faces at costume stores, but she generally seems to not mind spending time with me. Little sister informs me Jaime doesn't have a significant other currently, and I'm feeling like I need to make a move.
So, anyone have a suggestion on what to do?
I can has cheezburger, yes?
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Just because she's a gamer doesn't make her different from anyone else one would be attracted to.
Are you buying the 360 because she is getting Halo 3? I'm not too clear on that.
Nah, I'm buying the 360 so I can play Oblivion, a few Live Arcade games (Geomerty Wars, etc) and a few other games that slip my mind at the moment. That and I've always wanted one but never had the cash to buy one until now. Hell, I didn't even know Jaime had an intrest in anything else besides racing games. I've always been a little curious about the whole Halo thing, too, so I may as well drop sixty on it, give it a shot, and I can always turn around and sell it if I don't like it, I suppose.
I can has cheezburger, yes?
Yeah, her liking games is a perk, but it's just one thing you have in common. You still need to get to know her the ol' fashion way.
Then put on the King mask and just stare.
While on your date, do your best to relax and not reading too much in to the small details of her mannerisms. In short, don't make her feel self-conscious even though you really want to impress her and need to know how you're doing. Being able to have fun while simultaneously paying attention to your date is the key to success.
If you're both gamers, it sounds like you'll have a lot to talk about.
Get a job, seriousely.
As for the girl, if you dont shoot, you cant score.
Seriously.
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I'm pretty inclined to disagree with that approach. My experience has always been that if you're attracted to somebody, you should be square with them about it. Asking her out ensures that the "getting to know you" stage of the relationship has the right context, which is important. Getting to know her "as a friend" is great if you want to be friends, but it's misleading to her if you want more than that. You don't want to get her thinking, "Gee, has he only been hanging out with me because he thought it was going somewhere?"
Making your intentions clear from the get-go is honest, it saves you a lot of emotional investment and heartache if she's flatly not interested in you, and it's a lot more likely to leave a healthy friendship as an open option if she turns you down.
(But what the hell do I know, I'm dating my best friend.)
"I think you are extremely interesting and you have the most amazing eyes (or whatever you like about her). I would really like to get to know you. Would you like to have dinner with me?" has worked very well for me.
Good luck!
awesome idea, make sure you do it on legendary though.
and make yourself a master chief costume and have it on when she comes over. However, the last thing I would want to do when if I got a copy of Halo 3 would be to play 1 and 2.
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I would disagree...especially the bit about the eyes. It sounds like that should be followed up with "I would love to have them in a jar on my mantle" or something creepy like that. I think you should ask her if she's want to grab something to eat or go to the arcade, but lay off the aforementioned compliments...it will send you into the creepy zone
And don't let her see this thread.
The compliment always depends on the delivery. You could certainly leave it at interesting. But there is a big difference between a sincere compliment (which women like) and some cheesy pick up line. To each his own though.
Exactly!
Don't hide the why, but also don't say something blunt like, "I really want to date you, let's go get coffee." Just, "Wanna go grab some coffee?" will be sufficient. If she thinks you're interesting, then the subtext makes your intent clear. If she doesn't, she'll probably turn you down, anyway.
So, I did the coffee thing- asked Jaime if she wanted to get a cup after class, and she accepted. We talked about games, went back and forth on a few titles, and then we went on to ourselves, and I find myself... actually getting somewhere. Turns out we have a hell of a lot more in common than games- we both write, both like the same kind of movies, same kind of food, both dyed-in-the-wool Cubs fans,among other things. By the time we've finished the coffee, she lances me with a look and I spit it out:
"You want to go out sometime?"
She thought for a minute, than two...
"Sure."
We saw a movie and then went on a tour of the local EBStops and other fine used and new video game retailers in search of a few titles Jaime wanted, and we finished the night at a restaurant she likes.
We get along great together- we've had a bit of a disagreement (which is better- the 360 Halo 3 edition or the Elite bundle?), but we've managed to work through it.
Anyways, you guys were right and you rule. Thanks!
I can has cheezburger, yes?
Sorry, this made me laugh; if that's your biggest problem, then I think you've got no real worries.
Congrats! :^: