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What do you do when a friend owes you a large amount of money?
EliteLamer
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I have a friend who owes me over 1000 for breaking something of mine over a year ago, I don't want to get into too much detail, but I am thinking about just asking for him to give me some of his items to deduct from his debt. The items will not cover his debt but reduce it by 1/3 so its not like he still wont owe me. The debt looming over him does bother him and sometimes causes us to fight over the money because I do bring it up when ever he goes out and buys something. He went and bought something that could have paid most of the debt off which he didn't need at all, it was a luxury item that doesn't even get used.
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That being said, if you can easily agree on a value for the "stuff" he'd be giving you, whatever. If not, I wouldn't bother, and stick with cash.
nonsense. Real friends pay because they want to pay you back because it's the right thing to do.
Explain to him that it's not very fair to you that he hasn't paid you yet. As a friend, he should realize that. If he's not a friend, a small claims court might realize that.
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agreed. You have to 1) think of it as an investment, and 2) decide what's more important, the investment in the money or the investment in the friend. Is this a guy that you're going to be hanging with ten years from now? If you think that's even a remote "yes", then don't worry about the cash unless you're really struggling for money. If not, then take some shit and settle the debt.
it really doesn't sound like he's much of a friend anyway. If someone owes you a decent amount of money and won't pay it back even though its within their means I really can't see them being worth keeping as a friend anyway
I like the idea of him buying you lunch a few times ($1000/ X Big Mac meal=heart attack ftw), and just cutting the loss if you want him as a friend.
I'd still like to know the level of damage done... I mean are we talking about dropping your sony camera and you wanted to buy a new one instead of fixing the old one, or are we talking about backing your civic over a curb and ripping the bumper off... for god's sake man.... what happened!?
Wii Code: 1040-1320-0724-3613 :!!:
He crashed my car and the cheapest place in town wants 1200, thats a fucking Spray Glow and they will do a shitty job. A good place in town wants 2700.00 to repair the car.
He was trying to do the right thing because I passed out at a party I threw in an illegal area. If a cop saw my car in the no parking area, I would have been in a ton of shit but on the other hand I didn't ask him to drive it drunk, I was passed out at another friends house a few miles away when he hit another person car which he owes money on.
Do you not have insurance?
Edit: ah, drunk. Nevermind.
Yeah, not only that if I called the cops and made a report or anything I would have went to jail, he would have and about 5 more pople.
Cheapest solution would be to go to one of the daytime court shows and file a suit against him. If you win the case, the show itself pays you so your friend doesn't have to be out any money, but it will be on his record that he lost that civil suit.
But yes, getting money from most friends is a big pain in the ass that doesn't end well. Theres a rare few that will pay back, but they usually don't borrow or do something stupid to owe the money in the first place.
But then I read the backstory. You should write that money off.
Yeah, I plan to get it in writing if I got items for the money but the biggest thing is I would feel kinda bad saying "Hey, let me get your game consoles and I will subtract some debt" Then he might get the feeling every time he buys something I can just be like, let me get that off of you.
Another thing is the estimate on my car is over a year old so I am sure how much it costs to get repaired has changed. Also, what shop do I use to do the work? The cheapest one or one that will do the work right?
Why do you say that? Because of good intentions?
The one that'll do it right, clearly. Improper repairs can leave your car in worse shape than when you gave it to them. basically, there's no way to fix a car cheaply.
yeah, I mean it sucked that he was drunk and fucked up, but you were drunk and fucked up too.. That's a 50/50 scenario. He's already paying one set of damages, you can't go to court on it, because for one thing most judges would throw it out since you were both hammered, or have you arrested (if that's possible, depending on the state). Other than a friendly agreement it sounds like you've got no claim to the money owed. I'd see if he is willing to part with some stuff and call it a day, but you'll be risking the friendship.
Yeah, in some way I have wrote it off already but it is hard to forget when you drive your car around for a year with dents all over it. If it was a game console that got destroyed or a computer, I would just buy another one and be pissed off but with a car it is always hard.