Conversations with the girl I like.

heretoinform

Ok, so I have been talking to the girl I like a lot, doing everything you guys said to do, and it seems to be working out. She is talking to me a lot more and I catch her smiling at me when I am not looking.

But there is only one problem. I can have a fun, interesting, flowing conversation with her for about ten to fifteen minutes (even longer, depending on the topic), but then when we finish with what we were talking about, my mind goes blank. I just freeze, and I can't think of anything to say. And as I sift through my mind about things that I have talked to her about in the past, seconds are ticking away.

Does anyone know any tricks to keep the conversation flowing? I ask about her a lot, but I don't want to start to sound obsessive.


Also, to the person who said look into her eyes and hold it a half second longer, thanks a lot! I did it, and she responded very well by maintaining the eye contact and giving this adorable smile.

Solandra

Hooray for eye contact! Gratz!

Find out what she likes to watch (movies or TV or whatever); that can be good filler, or if she reads, what she's reading. Neither are incredibly high on the sparkling-and-unique-conversation meter, but could be comfortable and tell you something about her - and don't be afraid to tell her what you're reading and watching.

heretoinform

Solandra wrote: »

Hooray for eye contact! Gratz!

Find out what she likes to watch (movies or TV or whatever); that can be good filler, or if she reads, what she's reading. Neither are incredibly high on the sparkling-and-unique-conversation meter, but could be comfortable and tell you something about her - and don't be afraid to tell her what you're reading and watching.

I do that kind of stuff, but then what about after all that? After we exhaust the book and movie conversations?

LRG

Open your eyes and talk about the things around you. I'm sure you can come up with a few interesting observations about your enviorment.

Aslo don't think so much about and freak out about what to say next, just relax. A lull in conversation doesn't have to be akward if you don't make it that way. Embrace the silence and treat it likes its normal because it is.

heretoinform

LRG wrote: »

Open your eyes and talk about the things around you. I'm sure you can come up with a few interesting observations about your enviorment.

Aslo don't think so much about and freak out about what to say next, just relax. A lull in conversation doesn't have to be akward if you don't make it that way. Embrace the silence and treat it likes its normal because it is.

Ok, I'll try that.

I usually have no problem conversing with friends and family... its just her. Its not her personality or anything (she is very fun and smart), she is just so fucking pretty.

LRG

Yep, thats whats gonna get you right there, being all nervous with just her and thinking you have to do extra, like talk all the damn time. Sometimes just chill back and let her make conversation, dig?

mastman

10-15 minutes is a damn fine conversation. Most people suck after the initial "what are you up to"; "nothing" FAIL!

You won't sound obsessive if you ask about her. But you will at least let her know that you're interested in her, which is a good thing. Ask her for a walk to get some coffee/icecream/whatever the hell is a normal casual stupid time waster from where you are.

jotate

If you're conversing with her in a more public environment, don't be afraid to excuse yourself with some purpose and come back to her later.

Further, if you're having several solid conversations and exchanging cute smiles, it may be time for you to make a real move. Obviously only if you're comfortable, I'm just throwing that out as something to consider.

heretoinform

jotate wrote: »

If you're conversing with her in a more public environment, don't be afraid to excuse yourself with some purpose and come back to her later.

Further, if you're having several solid conversations and exchanging cute smiles, it may be time for you to make a real move. Obviously only if you're comfortable, I'm just throwing that out as something to consider.

Hmm, thats a good idea. We converse generally at debate tournaments, so I could always just go and check to see if they posted. Thanks!

Also: 10-15 minute conversations would normally be good, but at debate tournaments we sit around for at least 10 hours (1-3 hour blocks), so...

Gihgehls

Once you start dating her you can just kiss her when the converstaion gets stale.

jotate

Gihgehls wrote: »

Once you start dating her you can just kiss her when the converstaion gets stale.

As true as that is, thinking about that fact at this point may simply compound the problem.

heretoinform

Gihgehls wrote: »

Once you start dating her you can just kiss her when the converstaion gets stale.

Hmm, I like the optimism.

Dread Pirate Arbuthnot

There's really nothing wrong or rude about breaking off a conversation when you're stuck. Go take a pee break or go work on your debate lines a little, then you can return for more fresh conversation.

Limp moose

Next time you get into a lull in conversations and dont know what to say Ask her out on a date.

Silence...
SO hey I was thinking you should go a date with me to (this place you like). And then you can talk about the place. You killed two birds with one stone. you figured out something to say and you got yourself a date with the hottie

THEN

once you run out of things to say on the date you ask about her opinions on smooching and you go for the big smooch!

Trowizilla

You can always ask her about her plans for the weekend/evening/whatever. If she's doing something, talk about that. If she's not doing anything in particular, go with "I was thinking about seeing a movie (or something). Want to go?" It sounds like she likes you, so ask her out already!