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ANOTHER Problem with a Friend of Mine, its so much worse now.
Revolutionary
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See my previous topic.
We arranged to meet some girls and friends in the city, sound good? Jerry (not real name) said he'd drop by my place and we'd go together.
The previous night he calls me wanting to talk, I tell him (this is the truth) I am reading a book and am right at the end and I'm busy.
The next day, he doesn't show up.
So I call and call, no reply.
Finally, at the minute I'm about to call and announce we can't come, I suddenly realize where Jerry is.
He's in Shattrath City, in World of Warcraft about to raid. I log in, confirm this myself and have a brief yell at him before logging off.
Yes, I'm a terrible friend for putting the end of the final Harry Potter book over Jerry, who calls three times a day, for a whopping 10 minutes.
Now, I have to explain to three girls, one of whom I sort of like, that we can't come cause of that.
I can't come alone, I haven't met these people in real life before (its been an MSN thing) so I'd sort of be a loner. They have said that themselves, although I disagree with it.
Why god why.
I'm angry at the moment, and may have forgotten something. So forgive me if I add more later.
We arranged to meet some girls and friends in the city, sound good? Jerry (not real name) said he'd drop by my place and we'd go together.
The previous night he calls me wanting to talk, I tell him (this is the truth) I am reading a book and am right at the end and I'm busy.
The next day, he doesn't show up.
So I call and call, no reply.
Finally, at the minute I'm about to call and announce we can't come, I suddenly realize where Jerry is.
He's in Shattrath City, in World of Warcraft about to raid. I log in, confirm this myself and have a brief yell at him before logging off.
Yes, I'm a terrible friend for putting the end of the final Harry Potter book over Jerry, who calls three times a day, for a whopping 10 minutes.
Now, I have to explain to three girls, one of whom I sort of like, that we can't come cause of that.
I can't come alone, I haven't met these people in real life before (its been an MSN thing) so I'd sort of be a loner. They have said that themselves, although I disagree with it.
Why god why.
I'm angry at the moment, and may have forgotten something. So forgive me if I add more later.
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Ummmmmm. I say this with all the love and effection of a southern dandy- MAN THE FUCK UP and go anyway
Unless he is your ride (but he's 15?)- and then you should just not bother with him for doing this to you.
This broad likes you enough to want to meet. Go charm all three. Seriously you have nothing to loose here by going. Just have fun.
All you have to say is that your pal can't make it.
And fuck him for Raiding over going with your or at least talking to you about it (Wow consumed many friends of mine; nearly got me; I barely escaped)
Seriously Ditch 'jerry'. You are trying to meet girls and get out in the world and instead of being a positive influence on that- he seems to be dragging you down; a lot. he seems to be a compulsive liar from your previous post. You seem like a genuinly good dude to care about him but you are not going to 'save' or help anyone that doesn't want it.
You're making excuses. Man up.
EDIT: Beat'd. So you know it's fucking true.
1. If your friend flakes on you to play WoW, that's not very cool.
2. I'm not sure why you didn't just go meet these girls anyway.
3. It's a little weird that you like a girl you've never actually met.
Yes I know I should and would like to just go myself. Easy, no problems for me.
However in the past when trying to meet these people when Jerry was unable to come (a real reason, sports training) I was told to not bother coming myself because I wouldn't know anyone to any major extent.
I've just told them about it, they pretty much said 'oh well' (I said I'd explain what happened later, I'm ashamed of it) and that we'd meet another day.
Jinx.
OP you seem cool. Jerry seems to be dragging you down.
Fly solo; nothing bad will come of it.
edit: So meet people there. Make new pals. How many people are you actually going to meet? And its a little odd that they invite you yet- "tell you to bring someone to hang with?" That seems odd to me.
1. You meet these three girls and end up in a crazy foursome with three girls while dipshit Jerry plays wow.
2. You meet these three girls and end up going back to their place where they kill you.
3. You meet these three girls and have fun with them anyway without your wingman.
Those are just a few. Man up and go you can take on three girls in the event its number 2.
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I agree with the others that you should have gone on your own. Although they've told you not to come without Jerry? Are they mostly his friends?
Is he bait to get Jerry there?
We need more info on the people you were to meet.
And I think reading a book makes you busy, especially when I'm at the end.
I think your focus here is all wrong. You saying 'gimmie a min Im in the middle of something' should be respected; almost reguardless of what it is. If not Jerry just sounds needy.
You should be fosusing on the fun half of this not your exasperation with Jerry.
What happened was he texted me saying 'what u doing' to which I replied saying I was busy reading. He then called. He calls about 2 times a day, says hi, and then I'm treated to the sound of him owning n00bz on his rogue in the background for 15 minutes.
When I said it's been an MSN/MySpace relationship with the girls so far it really only meant me and them. Jerry was playing World of Warcraft every day. He originally met them (albeit through another girl) but never interacts with them. He then lectures me on how to act in front of girls when he hardly know them.
Actually I'm not talking to Jerry any more.
Guess what... he thinks the same about WoW. You need to listen to yourself some more, do some reflection or something.
Thing is he calls, and pretty much goes silent. And sort of murmurs when I talk to him. He's already playing when he calls. He often has ventrillo on and I can hear the entire conversation he is having, I'm not even sure if he's talking to me or them.
The difference being that the OP didn't flake out of the event by saying "sorry, I'm gonna read instead".
Seriously if your friends a flake, go anyway. Tell the girls why hes not there. "Sorry Skippy the Wonder Muppet couldnt make it, he had a raid. Guess ill have to work extra hard to talk about wow while you roll your eyes. "
I think I believe them.
Whoa, that seems like a real fuckin' harsh thing to be told. Ouch.
You should have just gone. I mean, it's not like you really need your mate there in order to meet new people. Even if they are primarily his friends it sounds like you already at least have the common ground of talking on MSN to start things off.
You shouldn't let the guy who flakes on your plans to play Warcraft be the linchpin of your social life.
I'm going to call bullshit on this. Raids are never at random times and he could have easily told his guildies that he wouldn't have been there ahead of time.
I'm going to call bullshit on you calling bullshit. He could have said he had plans, but had a secret longing to go and kill Kael'thas and get some sweet purples in the back of his head the entire time.
Let's call him Doug. Doug used to be cool, and hang out with all the guys and drink a little bit with us. One day he calls us up and organizes a party at his house. Cool, so we head to Doug's house and play some video games and drink beer. Not even an hour or so into it, he goes upstairs and disappears for an hour or so.
He then comes back downstairs and says: "Guys. Can you keep it down? I have to work in the morning." And goes back up.
Not even 10 minutes later we hear him talking on Vent doing some raid.
We've not hung out with Doug since, and it's been 3 months. We still talk and stuff... But he still ditches us for WoW.
OP - I suggest you say "fuck it." and find a new wingman. It's only going to get worse.
A 'trial by fire', have at them, good sir!
(if it's #1, we want details and/or pics pm'd)
Yeah. Pics or it didn't happen.