Ex Needs a huge favor

EliteLamer

It has been quiet a while but I don't think I will ever get over her but she called me needing a huge favor. I know it may not seem like a big deal but just seeing her hurts me. She needs me to give her a ride home from an auto shop. I asked her what was wrong and she said she crashed her car and it was her fault, she hit three other cars and they were suing but they ended up dropping it. Then when I asked her why boyfriend couldn't do it she said he was "unable" not unavaible but unable.. I am guessing she fucked her boyfriend up in the accident or something.

I dunno I guess Im going to do it for her but I have really mixed feelings and I am in a bad mood right now. I know she would do it for me but she left me not the other way around so of course she would.

PirateJon

Pay for a cab.

Tube

Tell her you'll pay for her cab if she sets herself on fire.

naporeon

Look, unless you are also good friends, you don't owe her anything.

And from the sounds of things (i.e. the fact that you mention never getting over her), a close friendship is probably not terribly healthy for you right now.

You absolutely should not not drive her, and paying for a cab sets a dangerous precedent.

Xaquin

You don't owe her jack .... just tell her to call someone else like a cab or her family or her bfs family.

Evyl

Yeah, why would you want to put yourself in a lot of pain to help her with something as unimportant as a ride across town? She likely wants someone listen to her spout emotion because she was in an accident. If you are tore up about her - don't do it.

mojojoeo

everyone is right, let her walk. (or call a cab.... but don't do that...)

EggyToast

You don't owe her anything, and if you want to be a dick to her that's perfectly fine. Note that I'm not calling you a dick, but rather simply pointing out that if you don't want to deal with someone, like an ex, if you act like a dick it's a good way to get them to stop talking to you -- which is what it sounds like you want.

Why did she call you? No friends/family/other exes? If you're truly the last person on earth she can call, pick her up and drop her off and don't say anything. If she's simply embarrassed by the accident and calling you because you're "safe" (as in it doesn't matter if you know), just don't answer the phone for the rest of the day.

naporeon

Evyl actually brings up an excellent point: a ride is probably not the primary thing she's looking for right now. What she's looking for is an emotional crutch, and there's nothing better as an emotional crutch than an ex who's still hung up on you.

Fellhand

Or you could give her a ride, be the better person, and pat yourself on the back.

Seriously, man up and get over her. She broke your hear, so what? If she's one in a million then there are six thousand other people like her.

It's the Christmas season, give her a fucking ride and don't be a dick about it. Don't talk about your relationship, don't get into any of the "I miss you/I love you" bullshit. Don't play games. Just give her a ride as two humans (I daresay friends) would and be happy you helped someone when they needed it.

And a ride home isn't a huge fucking favor. Needing a kidney is a huge favor.

see317

God damn people, it's a ride home from the auto shop. Unless you live in the middle of nowhere I don't see the big deal.
Don't giver her a ride because she's an ex that you never got over, do it because you're a decent human being who's willing to help another human being out of a bit of a tight spot.

Fellhand

see317 wrote: »

God damn people, it's a ride home from the auto shop. Unless you live in the middle of nowhere I don't see the big deal.
Don't giver her a ride because she's an ex that you never got over, do it because you're a decent human being who's willing to help another human being out of a bit of a tight spot.

hi5 bro.

brandotheninjamaster

see317 wrote: »

God damn people, it's a ride home from the auto shop. Unless you live in the middle of nowhere I don't see the big deal.
Don't giver her a ride because she's an ex that you never got over, do it because you're a decent human being who's willing to help another human being out of a bit of a tight spot.

agreed.

Lord Yod

If it's that big of a deal, maybe a mutual friend could drive her?

urahonky

So... You think she doesn't have any other friends that she could call? Fuck that. Who calls an ex to get a ride, if you could call a friend to do the same thing.

Don't put yourself through the torture man.

EliteLamer

urahonky wrote: »

So... You think she doesn't have any other friends that she could call? Fuck that. Who calls an ex to get a ride, if you could call a friend to do the same thing.

Don't put yourself through the torture man.

We were together she had no friends and I said that to her. I was like you need to go out ther and talk to people, be social. She just said everyone was out of town.

Also, I would pay for a cab but it would be about 80 bucks because she lives 20 min outside of town and she is riding home from the outer edge of the other side of town.

Tarantio

You have the right to refuse. You can also do it an get karma points.

I like to think I would do it in your situation (who really knows?) but I understand it will be tough on you to do.

If you do end up doing it, I'd suggest looking at it this way: you're not helping her for old times' sake, for her opinion of you, or in the hope that this will change everything. You're helping her because it's in your power to make a bad situation a little less bad, and that's a good general policy.

Ultimately it's a choice for you to make. Do what you're comfortable with.

EliteLamer

She found another ride.

mojojoeo

Cool, it fixed itself.

Rend

A ride home from an auto shop after a (semi-fully)traumatizing experience? I would do this for a person I considered an enemy.

A human is asking you for help. Screw the past, do what you can to help. That's what being human means.

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